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In association with<br />
amp<br />
a mother place
"Prepare to be unprepared...!"<br />
Janey Carey<br />
Founder of the Mummy Buddy Programme<br />
***For legal reasons we just need to make it clear that this book is intended to be used as a GUIDE only.<br />
You must always contact your healthcare professional if you have any medical queries.***
Dear Pregnant Self<br />
When people tell you to "make the most of the time you have before your<br />
baby arrives", LISTEN TO THEM.<br />
From this side of the fence, I wish I’d been lazy. I wish I’d been incredibly<br />
lazy. Don't spend those last few weeks before baby comes working yourself<br />
into the ground, exhausting yourself trying to squeeze in copious social meet<br />
ups and batch cooking until the freezer screams “no more”. <br />
Just sit. <br />
Be still. <br />
Enjoy the peace.<br />
The time that you have during the precious first few weeks of maternity<br />
leave, waiting, do that, wait. Watch box sets, prepare meals for the freezer at<br />
your leisure, take long baths, read some books. Just enjoy being. <br />
Making a celebration cake on the morning of your baby shower (at 39 weeks)<br />
is a terrible idea. You’ll break your cake mixer and end up sobbing into a cup<br />
of tea in order to regain control of your emotions, before the guests arrive.<br />
Just add the cake to the online food order. Nobody will care, least of all you. <br />
Labour kicking in, will mean long days with little sleep and little food -<br />
honestly it happens to everyone, so this is your time to prepare yourself. Destress<br />
from work worries and any anxiety, rest, rest, rest. On the other side<br />
of birth you’ll be very grateful for having given yourself that space and time.<br />
You won’t care that the rug in the dining room hasn’t been deep cleaned, or<br />
that the curtains weren’t rehung - but the ‘gin in a tin’ on arrival home from<br />
the hospital will be necessary, so do, do that!<br />
In those first few precious weeks, don’t rush. <br />
You have nothing to prove to yourself or anyone. <br />
You will be a great Mum. Your heart is in the right place and you always try<br />
your best. Don’t rush to join a baby class every day, just forget about your<br />
make-up or your hair and ‘let it all hang out’.
Enjoy the opportunity to cuddle in your pyjamas for a few days. Don’t fight<br />
being at home and get in touch with your buddy. <br />
Be kind to yourself. You’re<br />
facing a huge life change,<br />
bigger than you have ever<br />
imagined. <br />
Give into it. Enjoy those<br />
precious early days, take<br />
photos and hibernate with<br />
baby. Remember, there’s no<br />
shame in asking for help. <br />
Be brave, seek help and<br />
use the services available<br />
to you. Your buddy can help<br />
you with this. Just ask her.<br />
The first year is going to be a<br />
challenge. The hardest task<br />
you’ve ever faced. In 12<br />
months time, you will be<br />
hairier and more disorganised than you ever thought imaginable. But, most<br />
importantly, you will be happier than you ever knew possible. Your little<br />
family will become your world and you will feel the best you’ve ever felt in<br />
your life. <br />
Remember, “the good, the bad, everything’s a phase” in your best ‘Gandalf’<br />
voice, keep telling yourself “this too shall pass” whenever things feel too<br />
much “this too shall pass”. <br />
It works and it’s true. You’ve got this. <br />
Julia<br />
An original Mummy Buddy
What's inside?<br />
Section 1: How to use this Book<br />
• The Mummy Buddy Programme <br />
• Knowing me, Knowing You<br />
Section 2: Pregnancy<br />
• Exercise<br />
• Lifestyle<br />
• Sleeping<br />
• Travel<br />
• Working<br />
• Side Effects<br />
• Buddy Chats: Pregnancy<br />
Section 3: The Birth<br />
• Birth Plans<br />
• Symptoms<br />
• Hospital<br />
• Labour<br />
• Breathing<br />
• Pain Relief<br />
• Inductions<br />
• Complications <br />
• Buddy Chats: The Birth <br />
Section 4: The 4th Trimester<br />
• First Few Hours<br />
• Apgar Score<br />
• Early Feeding<br />
• Leaving Hospital<br />
• First Few Days<br />
• When to Worry <br />
• Emotional<br />
• Physical<br />
• Buddy Chats: The 4th Trimester<br />
Section 5: Caring for your Baby<br />
• Crying<br />
• Sleeping<br />
• Feeding<br />
• Changing<br />
• Bathing<br />
• Playing<br />
• Buddy Chats: Caring for your baby
CONGRATULATIONS<br />
on your pregnancy!<br />
Welcome to the Mummy Buddy Programme. We want to make sure that you<br />
feel supported throughout the remainder of your pregnancy and into<br />
motherhood. It's a really exciting journey, but often one that is also pretty<br />
daunting and overwhelming especially during the first few weeks with your<br />
new baby.<br />
Those who have completed the programme have told us that their buddy<br />
was a "lifeline" during the early days and that they really benefitted from<br />
talking to someone who had recently been through 'it'. We hope that your<br />
buddy offers you friendly guidance and some helpful tips along the way. <br />
Make the most of your buddy's support - this is what she signed up to<br />
offer. <br />
She's just been through it, its fresh in her mind and she wants to help (she's<br />
doing it for free!). But most of all, this programme is designed to be fun and<br />
reassuring. Like motherhood itself, it should not be taken too seriously!
The days may feel long,<br />
but the years will feel short.
How to use this book<br />
We feel very lucky to be working with the fantastic guys over at A Mother<br />
Place, who offer access to their honest and thorough online antenatal<br />
course written by medical professionals. <br />
We all wish that we'd completed this course before<br />
having our babies!<br />
Please visit their FREE online course at:<br />
www.amotherplace.com<br />
The topics in this book are covered in more detail in the online course and<br />
where relevant, the course number is listed at the top of each topic page.<br />
The key elements of most antenatal classes are featured, and the notes<br />
section enables you to do a bit more research on each area in your own time. <br />
We would suggest that you work through the book with your Buddy. It<br />
should help to guide your chats and will act as a prompt for your buddy.<br />
Hopefully you will be able to use the information when your baby arrives and<br />
it will be a great record for you to pass on if you decide to become a buddy<br />
in the future.
Knowing Me,<br />
Knowing You<br />
Tell your buddy about your pregnancy so far then break the ice.<br />
Go on, ask your buddy the questions below, we dare you!<br />
MY BUDDY's NAME IS: ...................................................................................<br />
Baby's Name: ................................... Partners Name: ...................................<br />
1) Happiness is? : ..............................................................................<br />
2) How would you describe becoming a mummy in 3 words?<br />
................................... ................................... ...................................<br />
3) Whats the best advice that you received?<br />
...........................................................................................................................<br />
...........................................................................................................................<br />
4) What are the top 3 baby items that you bought?<br />
................................... ................................... ...................................<br />
5) Be honest, what would you do if you won the lottery?!<br />
...........................................................................................................................<br />
...........................................................................................................................
To pee, or not to pee?<br />
That is never the question!
Pregnancy:<br />
Exercise<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
1<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Remaining active during your<br />
pregnancy has many benefits. It<br />
reduces excess weight gain, will<br />
help you cope with labour and<br />
lowers the chance of getting<br />
gestational diabetes. <br />
It is also known that exercising<br />
when pregnant can: 1. help you to<br />
get back into shape after the birth,<br />
2. reduce psychological problems,<br />
and 3. reduce the risk of needing<br />
an assisted delivery. <br />
Low impact activities such as<br />
walking and swimming are great.<br />
Perhaps your Buddy could<br />
recommend a local antenatal yoga<br />
or pilates class?
Pregnancy:<br />
Lifestyle<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
1<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
You'll probably find that you are<br />
more hungry than normal, but<br />
gone are the days of 'eating for<br />
two’ (unfortunately!). Eating<br />
healthily during pregnancy will<br />
help your baby to develop and<br />
grow and it will help you to keep<br />
fit and well. <br />
Drinking alcohol can cause Fetal<br />
Alcohol Syndrome as it can reach<br />
your baby through the placenta. <br />
Smoking restricts essential<br />
oxygen supplies, with your baby<br />
more likely to be born too early<br />
and underweight. Simply put, it's<br />
really not worth it.
Pregnancy:<br />
Sleeping<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
1<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Your sleep may be affected during<br />
pregnancy for a number of<br />
reasons:<br />
• you may need to go to the toilet<br />
more often than normal. <br />
• you may be worrying about your<br />
pregnancy or the birth (this is<br />
totally normal).<br />
• it might be difficult to get<br />
comfortable in bed as your bump<br />
gets bigger. <br />
• you may experience heartburn,<br />
or various aches and pains such<br />
as carpel tunnel or pelvic pain. <br />
It's worth asking your buddy about<br />
pregnancy pillows and other useful<br />
tips.
Pregnancy:<br />
Travel<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
1<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Some airlines will not let you fly<br />
towards the end of your<br />
pregnancy and you should check<br />
with them directly. <br />
Long haul (5hrs +) carries a small<br />
risk of thrombosis (blood clots) in<br />
pregnant women so check with<br />
your healthcare provider before<br />
you fly and make sure your<br />
insurance policy covers you. <br />
Take your maternity notes with<br />
you and after 37 weeks try not to<br />
be too far from where you are<br />
planning to deliver.
Pregnancy:<br />
Working<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
1<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
You should be ok to carry on<br />
working during your pregnancy,<br />
however, you might feel really<br />
tired, particularly in the first and<br />
last few weeks of your pregnancy. <br />
Having a bit of time before your<br />
baby arrives can be really<br />
enjoyable and psychologically<br />
important - it's the last time you'll<br />
be able to relax by yourself for a<br />
while! <br />
However, this depends on the<br />
kind of job you have and if you<br />
need to finish work a lot earlier.<br />
You can always discuss this with<br />
your midwife or doctor.
Pregnancy:<br />
Side Effects<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
2<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Pregnancy affects almost every<br />
single system in your body, so it's<br />
not unusual to have some side<br />
effects and aches and pains<br />
during your pregnancy. Sorry!<br />
The main Side effects usually<br />
relate to the digestive system,<br />
swelling, weight gain, other aches<br />
and pains and possible<br />
complications of pregnancy. <br />
However, luckily most of the<br />
complications of pregnancy are<br />
very rare, it's just worth you being<br />
aware of them. What side effects<br />
did your buddy experience?
Pregnancy:<br />
Buddy Chats<br />
- What did you enjoy most about being pregnant?<br />
- What did you enjoy least about being pregnant?<br />
- Did you have any cravings?
1. " I found swimming really relaxing, especially during the 3rd trimester. The<br />
buoyancy of the water gave me this fab feeling of weightlessness which was<br />
well received at the time!" Laura, Twickenham<br />
2. "My friend lent me a maternity sleeping pillow. I guess you could use any<br />
large pillow really but putting it in between my knees at nighttime really helped<br />
with my back. Great for cosy lie-ins too...enjoy those whilst you can!" Lucy,<br />
Bristol<br />
3. "I noticed the swelling in my legs increased during the last week or so of<br />
pregnancy. It was a really hot summer and I sat with my feet elevated most of<br />
the time (hard life...!). I spoke to my midwife about it because I was worried it<br />
could be pre-eclampsia but after a check up I was given the all clear". Ruth,<br />
Wandsworth<br />
4. "I made sure I walked (waddled!) around the plane when flying to keep the<br />
blood circulating around my body". Nina, Ealing
"Do your research, even read the<br />
scary parts! Know your body and<br />
your choices. Trust yourself".<br />
A Mother Place
The Birth<br />
Birth Plans<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
3<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
A Birth Plan is a record of what<br />
you would LIKE to happen during<br />
your labour and birth. It's a good<br />
idea to be well informed about<br />
potential birth scenarios and to<br />
be able to outline anything which<br />
you would like to avoid. <br />
Please try to be mindful whilst<br />
writing your birth plan that you<br />
really cannot predict the kind of<br />
birth that you will have and try to<br />
be flexible if any complications<br />
arrive. <br />
Try and keep an OPEN MIND so<br />
that you don't set yourself up for<br />
disappointment.
The Birth:<br />
Symptoms<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
3<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
It's unlikely that you will mistake<br />
signs of labour when the time<br />
really comes, the main symptoms<br />
being:<br />
• the start of regular, painful<br />
contractions <br />
• a “show” or mucus plug<br />
• loss of amniotic fluid/waters<br />
breaking<br />
• nausea or diarrhoea<br />
If you are worried about your<br />
baby's movements at any point,<br />
it's really important that you go<br />
straight into hospital.<br />
How did your buddy know that<br />
their labour was starting?
For more information visit:<br />
The Birth:<br />
Hospital<br />
Class<br />
3<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Before the birth, your midwife will be<br />
able to give you more information<br />
about your local hospital (if you are<br />
not having a home birth) but it's a<br />
good idea to call your hospital or<br />
midwifery team when you think your<br />
labour has started. <br />
When you call the hospital, the<br />
midwife will determine if you should<br />
go into hospital or stay at home by<br />
asking you a few straightforward<br />
questions. <br />
When you are ready to go into<br />
hospital, head straight for the<br />
Labour Ward and make sure you<br />
take your Maternity Notes and your<br />
overnight bag with you!
The Birth:<br />
Labour<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
4<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
There are 3 main stages of labour: <br />
1) The first stage, Dilation, is<br />
when the cervix softens, thins<br />
and shortens before it starts to<br />
open up until it's 10cm wide so<br />
that the baby’s head may fit<br />
through.<br />
2) The second stage of Labour,<br />
the baby's birth, is from the end<br />
of the first stage until the delivery<br />
of the baby. <br />
3) The third stage of Labour, the<br />
placenta, is from the delivery of<br />
the baby to the delivery of the<br />
placenta.
The Birth:<br />
Breathing<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
4<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
It's important to know that labour<br />
can be VERY painful (sorry!) so<br />
that you have prepared yourself<br />
mentally before hand. <br />
Breathing properly can help you<br />
to cope with the pain so it’s worth<br />
learning how to do it. Increasing<br />
the amount of oxygen by<br />
breathing rhythmically can help<br />
you and the baby relax and<br />
enable you to concentrate on your<br />
labour. <br />
For more information on<br />
Hypnobirthing, see the AMP<br />
course. Did your buddy practise<br />
Hypnobirthing?
The Birth:<br />
Pain Relief<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Labour is notoriously painful and<br />
most women need some sort of<br />
pain relief to help them through it.<br />
There are natural and medical<br />
pain relief options, some which<br />
can be used in conjunction with<br />
others. Research these and<br />
discuss with your midwife.<br />
Natural Pain Relief:<br />
• Water Birth (hydrotherapy)<br />
• A TENS machine <br />
• Gas & Air (Entonox)<br />
• Hypnobirthing<br />
Medical Pain Relief:<br />
• Pethidine<br />
• Epidural and Spinal Block<br />
• General Anaesthetic
The Birth:<br />
Induction<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
5<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Labour may need to be induced<br />
in approximately 20% of women.<br />
This can be because your baby is<br />
overdue or there is some sort of<br />
risk to you or your baby's health. <br />
For a planned induction you will<br />
be admitted to hospital on a<br />
previously agreed day. It can<br />
happen quickly, but it can also be<br />
slow and take 48 hours, however,<br />
it is generally accepted that the<br />
benefits of induction outweigh<br />
the possible risks. <br />
We recommend you read the<br />
AMP course handout for more<br />
information on inductions.
The Birth:<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
6<br />
Complications<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
About 1 in 8 women have an<br />
assisted birth, where forceps or<br />
ventouse are used (AMP, 2018). <br />
There are situations where the<br />
safest option for you and your<br />
baby is to have a Caesarean<br />
Section. Approximately 1 in 4<br />
babies are delivered by C-Section<br />
in this country, the majority of<br />
which are performed as an<br />
emergency rather than electively<br />
(before labour begins), (AMP,<br />
2018). <br />
It is worth you understanding what<br />
happens in these circumstances so<br />
that you are prepared if things do<br />
not go exactly as you had planned.
The Birth:<br />
Buddy Chats<br />
- What did you enjoy most about being pregnant?<br />
- What did you enjoy least about being pregnant?<br />
- Did you have any cravings?
1. "I remember feeling a tightening sensation around my tummy at 40 weeks -<br />
they weren't painful but I thought I was in labour. I called the hospital and said "I<br />
think I'm in labour"...to which the midwife replied saying "Oh no you are not.<br />
You'll know when you are in labour!" She was right, it was just braxton hicks"."<br />
Melody, Twickenham<br />
2. "If you are going into hospital for an induction, make sure you download<br />
some great films onto your ipad...you might be waiting a LONG time twiddling<br />
your thumbs". Janey, Ealing<br />
3. "My birth ended in an emergency c-section as my baby was in distress. I<br />
would have thought that I'd panic at this point, but the medical professionals<br />
were so calming and reassuring and I knew that I was in the best hands. By that<br />
point I just wanted my baby to come out and both he and I were totally fine<br />
afterwards". Narissa, Wandsworth<br />
4. "Don't be afraid to ask to change your midwife if you are not happy with <br />
them". Elizabeth, Ealing
"Try to find your new normal"<br />
Janey Carey<br />
Founder of the Mummy Buddy Programme
The 4th Trimester:<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class Class 7<br />
7<br />
First Few Hours<br />
CONGRATULATIONS!! No doubt<br />
you'll be tired after the birth, so try<br />
to relax and enjoy bonding with<br />
your baby. <br />
Your midwife will stay with you for<br />
the first few hours after the birth to<br />
make sure that you and baby are<br />
healthy and to help with feeding<br />
and resting. <br />
You will be transferred to the<br />
postnatal ward when you and your<br />
baby are stable. If you are on an<br />
NHS ward, prepare yourself to be<br />
sharing with 3-5 other mothers and<br />
their babies. It can come as a bit of<br />
a shock if you are not expecting it,<br />
especially the noise!
The 4th Trimester:<br />
Apgar Score<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class V<br />
9<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
Developed by Dr. Virginia Apgar 1952<br />
Your baby will be evaluated<br />
immediately after they are born.<br />
They will be given a score based<br />
on the following criteria: <br />
• Skin- Colour<br />
• Muscle Tone<br />
• Pulse rate<br />
• Breathing<br />
• Reflexes<br />
A scale from 0-2 is given for each<br />
criteria and collectively forms the<br />
Apgar score. A score of 7 to 10 is<br />
considered normal, 4 to 6 is fairly<br />
low and 3 and below is regarded<br />
as critically low. Your midwife will<br />
be able to explain what your<br />
baby's score means in more detail.
The 4th Trimester:<br />
Early Feeding<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
9<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
The expert care and advice that<br />
your midwife provides once your<br />
baby is born will be invaluable. <br />
You will most likely be<br />
encouraged to start feeding by<br />
putting your baby on your breast<br />
straight after delivery. <br />
This may be a little tricky just after<br />
you have delivered. Holding your<br />
baby against your skin will calm<br />
them, steady their breathing and<br />
keep them warm. <br />
You may need to be patient, but<br />
this is all totally normal and your<br />
midwife is there to support you.
The 4th Trimester:<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
9<br />
Leaving Hospital<br />
Your baby will have a full physical<br />
examination before you are<br />
discharged from the hospital. <br />
The examination is literally a top<br />
to bottom check of the baby's<br />
general appearance and will<br />
include a full examination of the<br />
baby’s whole body, skin, limbs<br />
and joints, genitalia, heart and<br />
lungs, and reflexes.<br />
The examination is usually done<br />
in front of you.
The 4th Trimester:<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
7<br />
First Few Days<br />
The postnatal period can be very<br />
difficult, especially for first time<br />
mothers. Many find it frustrating<br />
that no one prepared them for life<br />
after the birth. <br />
You will no doubt be exhausted,<br />
may be very sore, have missed<br />
out on 3 nights sleep, be<br />
struggling to get your latch right<br />
with boobs that feel like they are<br />
about to explode. <br />
At this stage it is important to<br />
sleep as much as you can and try<br />
to relax, take it as easy as<br />
possible, and use the support<br />
being offered around you.
The 4th Trimester:<br />
For more information visit:<br />
Class<br />
9<br />
When to Worry<br />
It is fine for your baby to loose up<br />
to 10% of their weight in the first<br />
few days after they are born<br />
because they are born with extra<br />
fat reserves. <br />
All babies gain weight at different<br />
speeds, some are quicker than<br />
others, but on average they will<br />
usually be back to their birth<br />
weight by the 10th day. <br />
Your midwife will come and visit<br />
you in your home to weigh your<br />
baby and to check that they are<br />
gaining weight. Your midwife will<br />
keep visiting you until they are<br />
happy with your baby's progress.<br />
List any questions for her below.
For more information visit:<br />
The 4th Trimester:<br />
Emotional<br />
Class<br />
8<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
It's normal to feel emotional after<br />
childbirth. There are different<br />
levels of psychological problems<br />
which may affect you. It's<br />
important to do a bit of research,<br />
and talk to your buddy, so that<br />
you understand the difference<br />
between them, enabling you to<br />
identify the right level of support:<br />
• 3rd day blues - most new<br />
mums will suffer from this.<br />
• Post Natal Depression (PND) -<br />
This is a surprisingly common<br />
condition, affecting 10% of<br />
women and also some men. <br />
• Puerperal Psychosis -<br />
affecting around 1 in 1000<br />
women.
For more information visit:<br />
The 4th Trimester:<br />
Physical<br />
Class<br />
8<br />
amotherplace.com<br />
We hope that your physical<br />
recovery is quick and painless,<br />
however, it is very common for you<br />
to experience some of the<br />
following:<br />
- postnatal infection<br />
- blood clots<br />
- perenium - episiotomy or tears<br />
- piles<br />
- prolapse<br />
Remember to eat properly, drink<br />
lots of water and get sleep when<br />
you can.<br />
It's worth you being informed on<br />
these so that you can recognise<br />
any symptoms and seek help at<br />
the earliest opportunity.
The 4th Trimester:<br />
Buddy Chats<br />
- How did it feel to meet your baby for the first time? <br />
- How long did you stay in hospital for?<br />
- How were the first few days? Any tips?
1. "My husband and I argued quite a bit at the beginning. No sleep, no freedom,<br />
no time to ourselves certainly took its toll, and some getting used to. We had to<br />
adapt to our new life and our roles which no one had warned me about." Laura,<br />
Ealing<br />
2. "Top Tip - don't have any visitors in the first 2 weeks unless they are<br />
helping!." Anna, Ealing<br />
3. "I was really struggling to breastfeed whilst in hospital and the midwife<br />
showed me how to express my colostrum (the first milk you produce which is<br />
full of antibodies) so that I could still feed it to my baby."Debbie, Wandsworth <br />
4. "Prepare yourself for their first poo! It's a black/dark brown tar-like<br />
consistency and can really shock you if you are not expecting it!" Narinda,<br />
Ealing
"Parenting is<br />
f**cking hard!"<br />
Adele
Caring for your Baby:<br />
Crying<br />
Crying is normal behaviour for<br />
babies - its their only way of<br />
letting their parents know what<br />
they need. However it can be one<br />
of the hardest things for parents<br />
to deal with. <br />
Newborns cry approx. 1-3 hours<br />
a day, but by the time your baby<br />
is a few weeks old, you will<br />
probably be able to distinguish<br />
which cry is a hungry cry, a<br />
colicky cry and which one means<br />
s/he needs a comforting cuddle. <br />
There are only a handful of things<br />
that it could be, so it’s a process<br />
of elimination till you work out<br />
which it is.
Caring for your Baby:<br />
Sleeping<br />
Immediately following the birth,<br />
your newborn should sleep<br />
around 16 hours a day (not in one<br />
go!). PLEASE use this time to rest<br />
- this is only the beginning.<br />
Your baby will soon begin waking<br />
more often. They can not<br />
differentiate between night and<br />
day, for at least the first few<br />
months. <br />
Newborns have very small<br />
stomachs that get hungry very<br />
quickly. They sleep in two, three<br />
or four hour bursts until they are<br />
old enough to go for longer<br />
between feeds, and can handle a<br />
sleep routine.
Caring for your Baby:<br />
Feeding<br />
Depending on their size and<br />
appetite your baby will probably<br />
get hungry around every three<br />
hours. <br />
Because their stomachs are still<br />
very small, newborn babies cannot<br />
hold much food in their stomachs,<br />
which is why they poo a lot. In<br />
time, their eating patterns will<br />
settle down and you won’t always<br />
feel like you are doing back-toback<br />
feeding. <br />
Feed times are lovely times to<br />
bond together, however, it's very<br />
common to struggle with<br />
breastfeeding - contact your health<br />
visitor for support asap if so.
Caring for your Baby:<br />
Changing<br />
Here goes, deep breath...<br />
- Open the dirty nappy. Wipe away<br />
the worst of the poo with the front<br />
of the nappy. Tuck it under their<br />
bottom with the clean side facing<br />
up.<br />
- Wipe your baby's bottom from<br />
front to back, gently lifting her legs<br />
by the ankles. <br />
- Apply a thin layer of barrier cream<br />
to your baby's bottom.<br />
- Take the used nappy out from<br />
under your baby and place into a<br />
nappy sack with the soiled wipes<br />
or cotton wool. <br />
- Slide a new nappy under your<br />
baby and fasten over her tummy.<br />
Big kiss. All done!
Caring for your Baby:<br />
Bathing<br />
Once you get home from hospital<br />
you can bath your baby straight<br />
away if you wish. However, it's<br />
advisable to wait until their<br />
umbilical cord has dropped off.<br />
Instead, you can top-and-tail,<br />
using a bowl of warm water and a<br />
soft cloth or flannel to wash their<br />
top half and nappy area – avoid<br />
using products (even baby soap)<br />
or wipes until your baby is at least<br />
six weeks old. <br />
It’s most important for your baby<br />
to feel secure and safe while in<br />
the bath. Try to keep bath time<br />
relaxing and incorporate it into<br />
your baby's bedtime routine.
Caring for your Baby:<br />
Playing<br />
Your baby is constantly taking in the<br />
world around them all the time.<br />
Playing with your baby can really<br />
help their development. <br />
Babies are great imitators and even<br />
at a few hours old, will respond to<br />
you sticking your tongue out by<br />
doing it back. They also love funny<br />
faces and listening to your voice, so<br />
sing to them as much as possible. <br />
Try putting on classical music when<br />
they tend to get grumpy, and play<br />
soothing lullabies at bedtime to help<br />
them recognise that bedtime is near.<br />
ENJOY and have fun!
Caring for your Baby:<br />
Buddy Chats<br />
- How often did your baby cry at the beginning?<br />
- Do you get any sleep?!<br />
- Whats the best way to hold a baby in the bath?
1. "It sounds simple, but always have your changing 'equipment' laid out before<br />
you take your baby's nappy off. It makes things so much easier, especially if<br />
they start to wriggle around". Farnaz, Kensal Rise<br />
2. "My baby hated doing tummy time. I started doing really short increments,<br />
like 5 second bursts, laying her face down on my chest and built it up from<br />
there. It seemed to help with strengthening her neck". Anna, Ealing<br />
3. "I really struggled with breastfeeding. I found out when my little boy was 3<br />
weeks old that he was severely tongue tied - I wish I had known sooner and<br />
tried to get it resolved. My tip would be to seek help with breastfeeding asap if<br />
you are struggling. It's really common to struggle at the beginning but the<br />
sooner you can resolve any issues the quicker you can get back on track".<br />
Janey, Ealing<br />
4. "My husband liked to help by changing nappies and giving a bottle feed at<br />
nighttime. It really helped them to bond." Alicia, Wimbledon
Hold them a little longer<br />
rock them a little more.<br />
Tell them another story<br />
(you've only told them four).<br />
Let them sleep on your shoulder<br />
rejoice in your happy smile.<br />
They are only little once<br />
for such a little while.<br />
Annon