Get Out! GAY Magazine – Issue 377 – July 25, 2018

Throuples (romantic
and sexual relationships
between three people)
are becoming more
common. I’ve never been
in one, but I can see
lots of advantages and
disadvantages. Based on
the letters you sent in, I’m
not wrong.
I was in a relationship
with my boyfriend for
two years before we
brought in a third.
We’ve all been together
now for a year. For the
last few months our
third and I have been
having sex without the
other. I think I want to
be with just him now,
and he’s thinking the
same thing. Is it wrong
for us to leave our
boyfriend? - Male, Gay,
26
The first thing you need
to do is have all three of
you sit down and discuss
what has been going
on. Part of being in any
relationship is honesty,
and that’s something that
is missing right now. In
your letter you didn’t
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mention how you
feel about your other
boyfriend. Have you been
growing apart? Has there
been tension? I’m curious
to know if there are things
that can be adjusted to
keep everyone in the
relationship, and if they
could be, would you
both want to stay? It’s
not “wrong” to want to
end any relationship.
But it’s important to
be thoughtful and
empathetic to the other
person, especially when
they are losing two
people instead of one.
My partner and I are
thinking of bringing in a
third to our relationship.
We’ve talked about it
a little bit, and it just
seems like both of us
are bored and want
something new to spice
it up. We’d prefer for
it to be a monogamous
throuple, but we’re not
sure how to decide if
we should. Thoughts? -
Male, Gay, 33.
It doesn’t sound like
you’re looking for a third
person to be committed
to and equals with;
it sounds like you’re
bored and want to have
threesome. Adding
someone to an already
existing relationship can
be tricky. If you’re having
trouble deciding, maybe
test out the waters a little
bit and have a detailed
THROUPLE TROUBLE
conversation about
rules and what you’d be
looking for in another
boyfriend. All types of
couples have different
rules, so make sure you’re
all on the same page from
the beginning and don’t
jump into anything too
fast.
For three years I’ve
been dating the two
most wonderful men in
the world, and I want
to bring them home
with me to my family’s
lake house to meet
everyone. They know
I’m gay, and they’re
supportive, but they
don’t know I’m dating
two people. How do I
tell them? - Male, Gay,
25
It’s impossible to know
how they will respond.
You could tell them
before going that you’re
dating both people,
or just tell them you’re
bringing people with
you. Then slowly tell
your family that you’re
dating both of them
over the course of your
stay. Hopefully, after
they’ve spent some time
getting to know them,
they will see them as the
wonderful people you do.
There is nothing wrong
with being in a throuple,
but sometimes it can
take people a moment to
adjust, even when they’ve
been supportive in the
past.
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