Get Out! GAY Magazine – Issue 383 – September 5, 2018

BY IAN-MICHAEL BERGERON
@ianmichaelinwonderland
The other day, I got a
message from an old friend
wanting to catch up.
I hadn’t seen him in a long
time: to be honest, I’m not
sure we’d ever actually hung
out before, other than seeing
each other out and about
and asking the obligatory,
“How are you, What have
you been up to, How’s the
boyfriend?” All the same,
I didn’t find it odd that he
wanted to get together, and
I had a huge crush on him
when I was single, so we met
at Therapy for a happy hour
drink.
I didn’t know a ton about my
old friend, so I asked: “How
are you, What have you been
up to, How’s the boyfriend?”
He was doing well, mostly up
to work, and the boyfriend
was fantastic. “We’ve just
decided to open up our
relationship,” he said,
smiling. “So he’s been taking
full advantage.”
PHOTO: STEVE BRENNAN
WARDROBE: PHOTO BY STEVE NATHAN BRENNAN AYON
Three’s Company
I didn’t know him or his
boyfriend well enough to
know if he was being bitter,
so I just smiled awkwardly.
“That’s fun?”
“Oh, it is. I’ve been having
threesomes, only not with
him—it’s been interesting.”
“Mmhm.” I sipped my
margarita.
“How’s your boyfriend, by
the way?”
Mmhm. “J’s good, he’s been
doing some acting here and
there, and—“
“Are you guys open?” He
stared at me with his big,
bright blue eyes, still holding
his empty glass, eager.
“We’re both more the
monogamous type,” I
started, still
sipping. “Not
that I have
anything
against open
relationships,”
I said, honestly.
“I’m a jealous
person;
monogamy has
always been my
thing.”
“You two really
should try
it,” he went
on, ordering
another drink.
Mentally, I
checked out.
This old friend
of mine wasn’t
the first person
to ask for a
threesome
with my boyfriend and I: In
fact, he was the sixth. When I
started dating a 22 year old,
and started posting photos
with him, several boys
came out of the woodwork,
wondering, “How are you,
What have you been up to,
Can I fuck your boyfriend?”
Not that I don’t find it
flattering, on some level...
On another level, it’s
insulting that they’re coming
out now because they want
to fuck him. If they wanted
to fuck me, they would’ve
reached out in January, when
I was single.
On another hand, maybe
it’s not about fucking him,
or fucking me. Is the whole
allure wanting to be with a
couple?
I’ve only had one threesome,
with a friend and his bestie
visiting from Australia. I’ve
never been with a couple:
Could it be, once you go
couple, you don’t go back?
And back at Therapy, I
looked at my old friend and
wondered: Why is it that he
wants to be a couple’s third,
but doesn’t want a third for
his own couple? Is it more
fun being the third?
When I told him we don’t
have any kind of open
relationship, he asked for
the check and claimed he
had to go back to work for
an important meeting. I
assumed this was code for,
“Going to find someone
who is interested,” sat back,
and continued sipping my
margarita.