Get Out! GAY Magazine – Issue 405 February 13, 2019

THOMAS
TALKS
ABOUT: VALENTINE’S
Americans drop almost
$20 billion a year on
Valentine’s Day. This
includes 180 million
cards, 224 million roses
and 58 million pounds
of chocolate. What this
doesn’t include is the
price of the emotional
pain and stress of
Valentine’s Day. For
many, suddenly the city
that never sleeps can
feel lonely, isolating and
leave you thinking that
everyone else is happier
than you.
I hate Valentine’s Day.
Point f*ing blank,
hate it. I’ve never
been in a relationship,
and I’m so tired of
people shoving it in
my face every f*ing
year. What’s even
more irritating is that
my friends who are
in relationships act
like they’re perfect
for 24 hours with all
their social media
posts. I’m like, “Hello!
You’ve been cheating
on him for the past
six months.” Ugh, it’s
such BS, and I’m tired
of it. Look, I know that
I’m a little bitter, and
I’d prefer not to be,
but the day just gets
to me. I can already
feel myself getting
annoyed. - Male, Gay,
26
Yeah, you’re more than
just a little bitter, but
you can make it easier
on yourself. First, if
the social media posts
bother you, just don’t
look. For all of the
14th, and probably the
15th, just don’t go on.
Second, part of the
reason you’re irritated is
that you’re jealous you
don’t have an outing
to look forward to for
that day/night. You
can change that. Talk
to your friends that are
also single and plan a
fun activity. One year for
V-day, I had a “F* Love”
party for all my friends,
and it was awesome.
It gave me something
to look forward to and
amazing people to party
with. On the flip side,
my crush showed up
and interpreted it as I
didn’t want a boyfriend,
so maybe avoid inviting
someone like that.
Right now I’m casually
dating two guys. One
of them I made plans
DAY
with for
Valentine’s Day; he
asked me first. Then
the other guy asked
me, so I told him that
I already have plans.
I didn’t want to lie to
him, so I think I made
the right call. He said
he’s fine with that, but
now he’s being really
passive aggressive,
and the other night
he told me he’s mad
because he didn’t
think I was seeing
anyone else. That’s
something we’ve
never discussed, and
now I feel like a jerk.
Did I do something
wrong? - Male, Gay, 23
Dating more than one
person can be pretty
tricky, but there’s
nothing wrong with it.
I like that you were up
front with him and didn’t
lie. He may not have
liked your response,
but you were honest
and should get some
points for that. It’s clear
this second guy likes
you, but it’s also telling
in how he handled the
conflict. If you want to
continue seeing him,
I’d suggest you ask him
to celebrate Valentine’s
Day with you on a
different day. But also
be aware, it sounds like
he wants something
more than casual.
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