24 Seven May 2019
24/seven is a monthly, free magazine for personal growth, professional development, and self-empowerment. The approach is holistic, incorporating mind, body, soul, and spirit. As philosopher Francis Bacon said, “Knowledge is power.” Use this information to live your best life now.
24/seven is a monthly, free magazine for personal growth, professional development, and self-empowerment. The approach is holistic, incorporating mind, body, soul, and spirit. As philosopher Francis Bacon said, “Knowledge is power.” Use this information to live your best life now.
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FEATURED CONTENT<br />
THE ROLLER COASTER<br />
OF GRIEF<br />
HARRIET CABELLY, LCSW<br />
EALING WITH loss and<br />
D<br />
grief is one of the life’s most<br />
difficult tasks. It is one we<br />
are never prepared for and<br />
yet is inevitable. Inherent in life is loss, pain<br />
and grief.<br />
Loss comes to us in many forms besides<br />
the obvious death of a loved one. When we<br />
lose anything that has major significance<br />
and value in our lives, like a break-up of<br />
a relationship/divorce, our health to a<br />
critical illness, and even seemingly normal<br />
life transitions like retirement, becoming<br />
an empty nester, or giving up a home after<br />
many years, feelings of grief set in.<br />
What exactly is grief? It is our natural<br />
response to the loss of someone or<br />
something that we have valued, loved and<br />
felt connected to.<br />
We tend to think of it as an emotional<br />
response, which it certainly is, but it can<br />
show itself in other areas, such as physically<br />
and mentally where our body and mind feel<br />
it as well.<br />
We can think of it as a whole being response<br />
to a deep pervasive sadness. The word grief<br />
comes from the Latin verb meaning ‘to<br />
burden’. A grieving person is burdened with<br />
the heaviness of very strong feelings.<br />
We must hold on for dear life as we are<br />
tossed and bounced on a topsy-turvy ride of<br />
grief.<br />
Here are some succinct pointers in holding<br />
on:<br />
Give yourself permission to feel. As<br />
uncomfortable and difficult it is to feel<br />
such overwhelming emotions of sadness,<br />
know that you’ll get through it (even<br />
though it doesn’t feel like it at the time).<br />
Don’t berate yourself for feeling bad or for<br />
crying yet again; otherwise we compound<br />
our natural sadness and pain with selfimposed<br />
recriminations. Then we’re upset<br />
for being upset. Nobody wants to feel these<br />
most painful feelings. But it is in the going