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EDITOR IN CHIEF
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Gayle M. Gruenberg
Joan Herrmann
Joyce Marter
Linda Mitchell, CPC

FROM THE EDITOR
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We all are going to get older, there is nothing we can do about
that. But did you know that in addition to a chronological
age, you also have a biological age? Your biological age can
be measured by assessing how your genes are expressed
through epigenetics.
I recently had the opportunity to speak with Dr. Kara
Fitzgerald, who has been conducting exciting new research
that shows your biological age can actually move in reverse!
She shared with me information about a diet and lifestyle
plan that can influence your epigenetics for a younger you.
Dr. Fitzgerald lectures globally on functional medicine. She
is on the faculty at the Institute for Functional Medicine
and maintains a clinical practice in Newtown, Connecticut.
She is the author of the book, Younger You Reverse Your Bio
Age — and Live Longer, Better.
Listen to the conversation with Dr. Fitzgerald:
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— Joan Herrmann

DR. KARA FITZGERALD
ISSUE NO.138

INSIDE THIS
ISSUE
TIPS FOR TRANSITIONING BACK INTO THE OFFICE
BY JOYCE MARTER
PAGE 12
THE QUALITIES OF A GOOD FRIEND
BY JOAN HERRMANN
PAGE 18
ON THIS MONTH’S
COVER
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PLAN THAT SHOWS YOU HOW TO INFLUENCE YOUR
EPIGENETICS FOR A YOUNGER YOU.
LISTEN TO THE CONVERSATION WITH DR. FITZGERALD:
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FIRST STEPS FOR DISMANTLING FEAR
BY GUY FINLEY
PAGE 22
THE POWER IN SURRENDERING
BY LINDA MITCHELL
PAGE 28
CURE THE PAPER PLAGUE!
BY GAYLE M. GRUENBERG
PAGE 30
GRIEF YOGA – THE BODY REMEMBERS
BY PAUL DENNISTON
PAGE 34
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24 SEVEN MAGAZINE

ISSUE
NO.138
MAY
2022
TIPS FOR
TRANSITIONING
BACK INTO
THE OFFICE
There’s no doubt that coronavirus has changed the way
we work and live. Many people who have never worked
from home found themselves learning to adapt to the
“new normal” of not being in the office. That took a
lot of adjusting. Today, many employers are requiring
employees to go back to their office part-time or full-time.
This transition has understandably created significant
unwelcomed stress and anxiety.
As a psychotherapist and national corporate trainer, I’ve
been conducting webinars for companies globally to help
employees emotionally prepare to successfully return back
to the office. The following universal self-care tips can set
you up for a successful return to the workplace.
Written by Joyce Marter

Shift your mindset back into a routine by starting your day
right. Establish a structured morning routine that works for you
and starts your day on the right foot. If you are a planner, plan
your outfit, a nutritious breakfast, and set the coffee maker the
night before. If not, leave yourself time in the morning for selfcare.
Practice a morning meditation or set intentions for the day.
Think positive. According to neuroscience, the brain creates
neural pathways based on our habits and behaviors. When
negative thinking becomes the norm, it becomes our default
pattern. With positive thinking and repeated new behaviors, we
train our brains to create new neural pathways. As the pathways
become stronger, positive thinking can become the new normal.
Practice gratitude and acceptance. Gratitude is a choice. I’ve
seen unhappy people with great financial prosperity and happy
people who practice gratitude with very little. Gratitude can help
positively reframe negative situations. Positive reframing is a
technique where you try to reconsider things in a positive light to
transform your thinking.
Manage your sleep. Set a notification one hour before your
optimal bedtime. Use the next 30 minutes to wrap up what you
are doing and then put away your device for the night. Use the
next 30 minutes to read, journal, take a hot lavender bath, or do
a guided meditation.
Don’t ditch the workout. Establish a workout routine by
putting it on your calendar and then visualize yourself doing it.
Make it a realistic routine so you aren’t setting yourself up for
failure.
Dress the part. Working from home gave us an opportunity to
loosen up that professional look. Now that you are going back to
the office, make sure your clothes fit and you feel comfortable in
them and you are looking your best.
Reintegrate the commute time. One of the biggest perks of
working from home was the zero commute time. You can get
that time back by commuting to work with friends or co-workers
or listening to podcasts, audiobooks, or music during your
commute. Use this time to reinvigorate yourself.
Plan for healthy meal prep throughout the week. Sundays are
a good day for meal planning for the entire week. If you don’t
have time, consider meal-kit providers like Hello Fresh that
deliver healthy prepped food to your doorstep.
Manage your dependents. Maybe you were able to eliminate
childcare costs or pet sitter costs because you worked from home.
Be grateful for the money you saved. Now, take time to research
the most convenient, dependable and affordable options for you.
Introduce daily self-care practices at work. Pack a self-care kit
for work including healthy snacks, teas, hand lotions, essential
oils, sneakers to go for a walk during lunch. Consider anything
else that will make you comfortable or give you a refresh
throughout the day.
Recalibrate expectations to zero. Before heading back to work,
mentally scan for any expectations you may have, mindfully let
them go, and cultivate an attitude of openness and receptivity.
You might be surprised by the results.
Delegate and access support. Maybe you’ve taken on more
responsibilities while working at home. Before you jump back
in, create a to-do list and ask yourself, “Am I the best person to
do this? Am I the only person who can do this? Do I enjoy doing
this? Is this worth my time?” Outsource tasks you don’t enjoy,
when possible. Identify where you need help and ask for it.
Embrace mindfulness. Mindfulness is especially useful as it
facilitates creativity, flexibility, and adaptability which enhances
decision-making and financial outcomes. Recording your
mindfulness practices in an app or journal can keep you on track.
The reality is change is hard especially when it disrupts a
routine. At first, working from home might have sounded too
good to be true. No more commute time or traffic jams? But
what about the intrusion of work into your home life?
A recent study looked at the impact of working from home
during the pandemic. Negatives included family-work conflict
and social isolation which caused unwanted stress. Meanwhile,
self-leadership and autonomy were positively related. There’s
no doubt returning to work will require adjustments. While
in the office you no longer need to worry and apologize about
background noise from your pets, kids, or your neighbor
mowing the lawn. However, it may take some time to get used to
distractions and noise from coworkers.
To cope with change, set some boundaries with yourself and
others. A study showed working at home during the pandemic
blurred lines between work and leisure time. Maybe you did
household chores or ran some errands throughout the day.
Perhaps you regularly responded to emails after hours or on the
weekend because of the proximity of your work computer to
your living room. Now’s the time to set new boundaries.
Chinese philosopher, Lao Tzu, shares some wise
words, “Anticipate the difficult by managing the easy.” Keep this
philosophy in mind when managing your transition back to
the office.
About The Author
JOYCE MARTER
Joyce Marter is a licensed psychotherapist, entrepreneur, national
public speaker, and a mental health thought leader. She is the
founder of Urban Balance and the author of The Financial Mindset
Fix: A Mental Fitness Program for an Abundant Life.
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THE
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O F A
GOOD
FRIEND
Written by Joan Herrmann
M
Making friends is tough.
It takes time, trust, and a little bit of luck.
Thanks to Facebook, the word ‘friend’ has
taken on a new meaning. What was once
reserved to describe special people in our
lives, is now used to describe just about
everyone. But, do all of these people live up
to the definition of a true friend? Or, are they
merely acquaintances from which we expect
so much more?
Someone asked me what I believe are the
qualities of a good friend. To answer this
question, I looked at my relationships to find

some commonalities and
to examine my behavior. In
doing so, I compiled a list
of what I believe describes
a good friend. There are
many more qualities that
can be added, but I think
these are the biggies.
Finding someone who
embodies these attributes
and being this person for
another is a true gift.
Keeps your secrets.
Perhaps one of the best
ways to determine true
friendship is to see who
keeps your secrets. A true
friend would never make
you the subject of idle
gossip and would go to
the grave with something
you said in confidence.
Finding a confidant can be
quite challenging, but when
you do, cherish that person and hold on with
everything you’ve got.
Does not judge. We all make mistakes and
do stupid things. A true friend does not judge
you and will not treat you differently, no
matter what you’ve done. He or she will stand
by your side when everyone else has turned
against you. A true friend likes you because of
who you are.
Tells you things you may not want to hear.
Sometimes you may not see that you’re involved
in harmful behavior, physically or emotionally.
You may be in a romantic relationship that
doesn’t serve you well, have a dead end job,
or be abusing substances. During these times,
a true friend will tell you things you don’t
necessarily want to hear. This person will
speak the hard truths and will be someone on
whom you can depend for brutal honesty.
Motivates you to do better. A true friend
is your cheerleader who sees your potential
and pushes you to do better. This person
is not jealous of your accomplishments
and will always encourage you to believe
in yourself, because he or she believes in
you. This friend challenges you and builds
you up, he or she doesn’t tear you down.
From The Story
“To have
a friend and
be a friend is
one of life’s
greatest joys.”
Offers light when you lose your way. A
true friend is always there to listen when
you are not sure about anything in your life.
This person provides light and comfort, when
everything goes dark, and is always by your
side (even when you don’t ask for help).
Provides unconditional love. You don’t have
to work for a true friend’s affection; the love is
not based on what you do for him or her. This
person doesn’t care about your financial status
or job position. You are loved solely because of
who you are.
To have a friend and be a friend is one of
life’s greatest joys. As Albert Camus said,
“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t
walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk
beside me and be my friend.”
About The Author
JOAN HERRMANN
Joan Herrmann is the creator of the Change
Your Attitude…Change Your life brand and host
of the radio show and podcast, Conversations
with Joan. She is a motivational speaker and the
publisher of 24 Seven magazine.
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ISSUE NO.138 MAY 2022
FIRST
STEPS FOR
DISMANTLING
FEAR
Written by Guy Finley

Are you afraid of some condition in your life? Here’s a
life-transforming secret: that seemingly scary condition,
whatever it may be, is not the problem. It is your reaction
that is fearful. This is why if you will become conscious of
your condition instead of afraid of it, you will change forever
your relationship with fear.
It is only within this special kind of inner-relationship that
there is real safety, because now you are interacting with fear
in an entirely new way. You are no longer letting it dictate to
you how to act or what to do. Instead, you are aware of the
fear. You are learning to quietly observe and study it. And,
each day, as you discover something new about the strange
and shaky nature of your own fearful reactions, they begin to
lose their power over you.
Why? Because you are at last seeing them for what they
have always been: unintelligent mechanical forces. You are
slowly becoming stronger than they are because by seeing
them as they are - not as they would have you see them -
you have helped yourself to climb above and outside of
their influence. This self-insight is the difference between
trembling through your life and being in command of it.
To be consciously afraid means that you know you are
frightened, but at the same time you know that these very
fears, as real as they may seem, are not you. And no wrong
reaction can keep you captive once you begin to see it for
what it is.
Fear is, and has always been, nothing but a self-limiting
reaction that we cling to in the darkness of our present lifelevel,
having mistaken it for a shield of self-protection. But,
just as the faintest of early morning sunlight can dispel the
night-long darkness, so does the smallest of insights into a
persistent fear lead to letting it go.
You can prove this powerful principle to yourself anytime
you want. Just dare to proceed even while being afraid. But
remember, your new aim isn’t to be courageous or to try
and act strong in the face of fear. No. We’ve seen that this
won’t work. You simply want to be more curious about your
frightened thoughts and feelings than you want to believe in
them.
If you will follow this simple but higher instruction, not
only will you start to see these habitual reactions that have
been keeping you scared and running, you’ll actually start
seeing through them. This is where the real miracle occurs.
Each new insight into the actual nature of these negative
reactions removes some of their power over you. And their
loss is your gain. You are stronger now and you know it. You
also know this new strength will never fail you because it isn’t
just the temporary appearance of a bold opposite. This new
strength of yours is the absence of an old weakness.
Let’s look at just one of the ways in which this principle of
putting self-illumination before psychological self-protection
can turn fear into fearlessness.
Do you know someone who you would rather run from
than run into? Most of us do! Nevertheless, starting right
now, resolve never again to avoid any person that scares you.
In fact, go ahead and walk right up to that critical man
or aggressive woman and say or do exactly what you want
instead of letting the fear tell you to do what it wants. Have
no ideas at all about the way things should or shouldn’t
go. You are there to watch and learn about yourself, not to
win an ego victory. Let that person see you shake if that is
what starts to happen. What do you care? Besides, it is only
temporary. That unpleasant person before you can’t know it,
but you are shaking yourself awake.
For the first time, you are letting your reactions roll by
instead of letting them carry you away. As you stand there,
momentarily apart from your usual self and working hard
to remain as inwardly watchful as you know how, you can
see that this flood of previously unconscious reactions has
its own life story; a shaky sort of story that up until now you
had embraced as your own. But now you are beginning to
see the whole story. The fears do not belong to you. Here is
the explanation:
You have never been afraid of another person. The only
thing you have ever been frightened by is your own thoughts
about that person. Yes, you did feel fear, but it wasn’t yours
and it wasn’t towards someone stronger than you. The fear
you felt was in what you thought he or she was thinking
about you.
Amazing isn’t it? You have been afraid of your own
thoughts! And seeing this ends this. Now you can let this
thought-self go, because no one holds on to terror.
About The Author
GUN FINLEY
Guy Finley is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher
and bestselling self-help author. He is the founder and
director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center
for transcendent self-study located in Merlin, Oregon. He
also hosts the Foundation’s Wisdom School — an on-line selfdiscovery
program for seekers of higher self-knowledge. Guy
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May 2022 Issue
The Power in Surrendering
Written by Linda Mitchell, CPC, LMT
F
For most people, the first
impression of surrender is that of quitting, failing, waving
the white flag. But that’s simply our cultural perspective;
what you’ve been taught to believe about surrendering.
If you dig deeper into a fuller meaning of surrender, you
open to the totality of the act and allow yourself to see
and experience the advantages of surrendering. What if
you could trust that the act of surrendering would lead
you to new ideas, options and experiences that create
more ease and joy and less stress and strife in your life?
Trust is an integral part of surrender. Surrendering
requires you to be detached from just one particular
outcome. By allowing yourself to detach from one
desired outcome you are trusting what fills that void is
more aligned. Perhaps it comes from trusted advice, an
intuitive hit, or wisdom in the form of a new thought,
idea or action step. Whatever comes up, receive it. Discern
if it’s in alignment and then act on it. That’s the gift of
surrendering. Surrendering does not mean giving up. It’s
not quitting. It’s yielding to resiliency. It’s releasing what
isn’t working. It’s trusting and allowing better things to
emerge.
What would happen if you surrendered your need for
control? What if you released the need to have expectations
of the day and of others? What if you trusted in yourself,
your intuition or your higher power to guide you instead?
For sure things would flow with greater ease! From this
perspective, surrender is not at all a bad thing.
I always say, the quieter I get the more I hear. It’s why
I’m such a fan of meditation. Meditation isn’t about
controlling your thoughts - it’s about keeping your
thoughts from controlling you. Another beautiful act of
surrender. When you get still, you get out of your head
and into your heart. It’s then you connect to your inner
guidance.
When you pair logic with intuition, you’re more aligned
with the voice of your soul. You’ll make better decisions.
Practice this daily to become familiar with the insights,
grace and peace born of silence and surrender. Don’t
press yourself to hear anything. Some days you won’t.
It’s still worthwhile to practice and wait for those pivotal
days when you get a flash of wisdom, intuition, guidance
or inspiration. Those days are so significant it makes all
those quiet days where nothing comes up, totally fine.
It’s like making coffee. You must let the brewing happen
before the water becomes that delicious beverage. So,
allow the process to unfold. Give yourself some grace
and space to observe, allow and surrender.
What if you surrendered what no longer serves you?
How liberated and wonderful would you feel?
Surrendering an old idea or habit may be exactly what’s
needed if you discover your priorities have changed, the
outcome you wanted no longer has the same appeal or
excitement. Surrendering to something better is not
negative at all!
Here are some affirmations around surrendering.
See which ones resonate with you and say them out
loud. Write them down and repeat them daily until you
embody them!
• I surrender critical self-talk
• I surrender the expectations of how I think things
should be.
• I surrender the need to be right.
• I surrender lack and fear.
• I surrender unnecessary and negative thoughts and
things.
About The Author
LINDA MITCHELL
Linda Mitchell, board-certified transition coach, speaker,
reinvention expert, and LMT. She empowers people who are stuck,
overwhelmed or ready for change to confidently transition into their
next meaningful role with clarity, purpose and ease to emerge more
peaceful, passionate, joyful and fulfilled.
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ISSUE NO.138 MAY 2022
CURE
THE
PAPER
PLAGUE!
Written by Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVPO

A
Are you maddened by mail?
Crazed by credit card and charity requests? Overwhelmed
by special offers? Inundated by bogus invitations?
Besieged by bills?
Even in our “paperless” society, we receive over 120
billion pieces of mail each year in the United States. If
you find it challenging to deal with the paper in your life,
you’re completely justified in your distress.
The number one reason clients call a professional
organizer is to help them manage their paper. The key to
controlling paper is to have a system and do a little bit
every day. Here are a few of my favorite techniques for
staying on top of the daily deluge.
Stop paper at the door and go digital. Opt to receive
bank and investment statements, bills, and receipts
electronically.
When the mail comes in, sort it immediately, always in
the same place, and near the recycling bin.
Toss the junk mail. What is junk mail? That’s up to you.
It could be anything that doesn’t meet a need you have
right now. If you don’t need a new credit card, rip up
the offer and recycle it immediately. Not ready to make a
donation? It’s OK to pass up the free return address labels
and notepads. Those coupon packs? Do you really go to
those places? If not, toss the whole envelope without even
opening it.
Have a “landing pad” for paper bills you still receive,
things you want to read, and invitations you receive. I like
to have a small file system in the kitchen, a “command
central.” It could be a drawer in a cabinet or a small
desktop file box.
Create a file system that works for the way you think.
Have five to seven broad categories and label them with
titles that will let you find what you need quickly.
Color code the folders and label them clearly (everyone
loves a label-maker). If they are attractive, you’ll be more
likely to use them.
Schedule 15 minutes with yourself each week (put in
your calendar) to address the items in the file system that
have to be acted on – pay the bills, reply to the invitation
and add the event to your calendar, purge anything
expired. Better yet, if time permits, act on them as they
come in, and then they won’t be hanging over your head.
Scan important documents and store them electronically
– on your computer, flash- or external hard drive, or on a
secure site in the cloud. Shred the hard copy. Share access
with loved ones in case of emergency.
Read current issues of magazines and other publications
when they arrive. Tear out articles you want to keep, scan
them into a designated folder on your computer, then
recycle the old issue when the new one comes. Subscribe
to the digital version of your subscriptions.
Take pictures of your children’s masterpieces and keep
those instead of every scribble, collage, or paper towel
sculpture they bring home.
About The Author
GAYLE GRUENBERG
Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVPO, is the chief executive
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Grief Yoga–
The Body
Remembers
Written by Paul Denniston
Men don’t cry, toughen up and be strong.” As
a shy kid growing up in Southern Texas, I was
taught that sadness was a sign of weakness. I
never felt like I fit in. Instead of allowing others
to witness my sadness, I would isolate myself
from others. That disconnection happened
socially, but also physically too. I began to over
eat and drown my feelings. I avoided gym class
for the fear of being ridiculed.
As I became older, I ran away from any feelings
of sadness or grief by becoming active. I put on
a happy face and became very busy. I avoided
anyone who was a “downer”. I didn’t attend my
grandfather’s funeral. Even as I was well into
adulthood, I avoided my best friend’s mother’s
funeral. I knew her well and disappointed my
friend when I wasn’t there for him. I searched
for relationships to help complete me but felt
heartbroken when they didn’t work. There
was an imbalance I was experiencing in my
relationships that reflected my life.
I felt this calling to attend a yoga class. After
much resistance, I finally allowed myself to
experience yoga. Something opened up within
my body that allowed my mind to calm down and
focus on the present moment. Tears began to flow.
I experienced peace. As I continued taking yoga
classes, I would catch myself constantly focusing
on the past, or fear and anxiety of the future. As I
learned to surrender to the present moment, my

body opened up to feelings.
The thoughts of my critical
mind and feelings of not
being enough started to come
up for me to compassionately
embrace. I would observe
and allow them to pass. I
would surrender to feelings
on my yoga mat and located
where I was experiencing
the sensation in my body. I
started to tune into my body
and listen. I was holding a lot
of issues in my tissues. After
experiencing the feelings fully,
I felt lighter afterwards.
My broken heart would
bring up failed relationships
that I was still processing.
Yoga allowed my chaotic mind
to become focused in the
present and say it’s okay to just
be and feel. I became aware
that my body remembered
all the unresolved grief and
anger I had suppressed. I explored emotions that
I had numbed out with food, alcohol and drug.
I had suppressed and hid fears, sadness and
insecurities so well that I didn’t know they were
there.
I went deeper into my yoga practice and
became a teacher. This practice helped me to be
more centered, clear, focused, and empowered. I
wanted to share this amazing tool with others.
After my initial teacher training, I broke my
wrist and was out of commission for a bit. I had
to slow down. My wonderful old dog, Angel, was
sick and not doing well. My sister was dying
from advanced stage 4 cancer. I felt like my body
was breaking and so was my beloved sister and
dog. The sadness was back again. Once more I
brought it all to my yoga mat. I learned patience
and surrender. My physical body adjusted and
healed but it taught me great lessons on how to
modify for myself and for my students. My sister
and dog passed away, but this time I was present
for the loss and sadness. I let it wash through me
instead of running away from it.
As a teacher, I love setting an intention for a
class. I became fascinated in creating an entire
practice with the intention of healing grief and
loss. As I embraced my own grief, I learned how
these feelings are universal. We all experience
loss. If we don’t fully honor the loss and our
feelings, it can become stuck within the body.
From The Story
“After
experiencing
the feelings
fully, I felt
lighter
afterwards.”
The body remembers.
I continued on my yoga journey studying under
masters like Gurmukh and Seane Corn. I become
a teacher of many branches of yoga including
Hatha Yoga, Vinayasa Flow, Restorative Yoga,
Kundalini Yoga, Laughter Yoga, and Let Your Yoga
Dance. I volunteered giving Compassionate Heart
Touch to people in hospice in their final stage of
life. I studied loss with grief expert David Kessler.
I decided to create a class that I would love
to take. My intention with my Grief Yoga class
is to create a ritual to use pain and suffering as
fuel for healing. I knew that unresolved grief
was the shadow aspect of the heart. I wanted to
create a special sacred yoga ritual. I was inspired
by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s stages of grief and
focused on exercises that had focused intention
to help students move through anger, regret,
disappointment, and loss. The class focuses on
healing a broken heart to bring us back to love
instead of suffering. Something healing happens
in a compassionate yoga session focused on
embracing the feelings of grief. The postures,
movements and breathing techniques allow
students to befriend their body and relationship
with loss. The graceful yet powerful movement
helps them access their submerged feelings.
Our grief can be a gift if we embrace it, or it can
swallow us up.
I’m teaching what I need to remind myself. It’s
okay to show vulnerability. That vulnerability isn’t
a weakness; it’s actually a place of strength. I now
travel the world teaching this practice. I’ve taught
Grief Yoga to over 6000 therapists and counselors
and recognize that grief is actually a gift. We run
from the pain of loss. Grief is the gift of healing.
It’s an expression of how much we’ve loved. Life
is precious. With Grief Yoga, I’ve learned to honor
the love, not the pain. I’m grateful that it has
helped me and so many others heal our feelings
of loss and move toward empowerment.
About The Author
PAUL DENNISTON
Paul Denniston is the founder of Grief Yoga®,
which uses yoga, movement, breath, and
sound to release pain and suffering and
connect to love. He is certified in Hatha Yoga,
Vinyasa Flow, Kundalini Yoga, Laughter Yoga,
Restorative Yoga, and Let Your Yoga Dance.
He also has taught movement at the Stella
Adler Academy in Hollywood.
To Learn More Visit:
www.griefyoga.com