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Iwas not there; I saw the video like<br />

many others. The narrative said it<br />

happened in Kilo, Ikate, Surulere,<br />

Lagos. A newly-wed man walked out<br />

on his wife during their wedding<br />

reception; saying “I no dey do again”<br />

(I am not marrying her anymore),while<br />

putting both hands at the back of his<br />

neck/head (a sign of despair). His wife<br />

was running after him, throwing<br />

herself on the ground, but the guy<br />

insisted he was done. At a point, he<br />

almost went physical with the wife.<br />

What could have gone wrong between<br />

the time they exchanged marital vows<br />

and the reception? Was there a verbal<br />

exchange between them? Did he get<br />

information revealing earth-shaking<br />

secrets? What went wrong? The video<br />

did not have any details.But somebody<br />

in the background was saying,<br />

“something is wrong somewhere.”<br />

I believe the video is real, so I am<br />

just going to give my take on the whole<br />

incidents, which someone in the video<br />

described as, “the thing when we dey<br />

see for film naim be this; this is real.”<br />

One, the incident brings to fore the<br />

essence of courtship. Courtship is a<br />

period when you scrutinise and get to<br />

know your potential spouse better. The<br />

objective is to be able to say after a<br />

while that “I feel I can spend the rest<br />

of my life with this person,” or you opt<br />

out if you feel you are with the wrong<br />

person. To be able to do this, you need<br />

to have all your senses and bearings<br />

in place; no sentiments. But the<br />

problem with many courtships is that<br />

in no time, fleshy lust takes over and<br />

sense of judgment becomes blurred.<br />

When you take decisions with blurred<br />

vision, the probability of making wrong<br />

decisions is higher. How did they<br />

conduct their courtship that their<br />

marriage is over before starting?<br />

Two, marriage is not a contract, so<br />

the doctrine of “buyers beware,” which<br />

operates in the law of contracts, does<br />

not operate in marriage. Christian<br />

marriage is covenantal and the<br />

doctrine of uberrima fides (utmost good<br />

t is amazing the amount of acrimoni<br />

Ious, malicious and vindictive argument<br />

that came in the wake of former President<br />

Olusegun Obasanjo’s outcry that Islamic<br />

Jihadists/terrorists have deliberately<br />

marked out a large swat of African land<br />

from Mali to Nigeria for the establishment<br />

of an Islamic State after their failure to defend<br />

the Islamic state that they had declared<br />

around Iraq and Syria. The bitterly<br />

spiteful debate shows the nature of the<br />

ruling <strong>party</strong> and its supporters; they are<br />

not ready to take corrections or criticisms<br />

as though the All Progressives Congress<br />

is a religion and not a political <strong>party</strong> and<br />

President Mohammadu Buhari has become<br />

a god who can do no wrong.<br />

If we were engaged in a debate about a<br />

less severe matter here, I would have left<br />

the insecurity of life and property in Nigeria,<br />

to mock Obasanjo, after all, he played<br />

totally personal and dastardly politics instead<br />

of addressing the beginnings of Islamic<br />

arms slinging in Nigeria, when the<br />

chance came. Pan back to 2004 please.<br />

THE KANO DEBACLE<br />

President Obasanjo, acting under an ultimatum<br />

by the Council of Ulamma to<br />

‘deal’ with Plateau State, tried to rationalize<br />

his declaration of State of Emergency<br />

there in 2004 when he unconstitutionally<br />

suspended Joshau Dariye, the Governor.<br />

Obasanjo even went to the extent of justifying<br />

the riotous decimation of Christians<br />

in Kano (yet again) where about many<br />

Christians were slaughtered as a reprisal<br />

killing in reply to the killings in Plateau<br />

state within the same time frame. Then,<br />

he suspended Dariye for failing to keep<br />

his state peaceful…but he failed to lift a<br />

finger <strong>against</strong> the Governor of Kano state…<br />

after all, he too failed to maintain peace in<br />

his state. But Obasanjo forgot that he had<br />

the duty to maintain peace in any part of<br />

Nigeria—as he controlled the Police and<br />

the Armed Forces as well as the Department<br />

of State Security, etc.<br />

Obasanjo said that the situation in Yelwa<br />

threatened peace in Nigeria, forgetting that<br />

Kano had by then acquired the reputation<br />

as the fertile state for frequent ethno-religious<br />

strife. Really violent clashes had been<br />

taking place in Kano in the three years preceding<br />

the Plateau State riots, and those<br />

were three out of Obasanjo’s then four years<br />

in Aso Rock Presidential Villa. In those<br />

three years Kano people killed Christians,<br />

After wedding drama<br />

faith) is what operates here. During<br />

courtship, courting parties must<br />

exercise utmost good faith. There must<br />

be full disclosure.”Courtship bears<br />

some similarities to insurance. In<br />

insurance a buyer of the insurance<br />

product (the insured) has a<br />

responsibility to disclose to the<br />

insurance company (the underwriter)<br />

any information that aggravates or<br />

alters the usual nature of the risk the<br />

company is about to assume<br />

(underwrite). Also during courtship,<br />

parties should disclose fully any<br />

condition that will make the other<br />

<strong>party</strong> have a second thought about<br />

continuing with the relationship.”(You<br />

can read more inLife Lessons from<br />

Mudipapa).Did the young man hear<br />

something about his new wife, hitherto<br />

hidden from him,that made him to<br />

have a second thought about the<br />

marriage between the time he<br />

exchanged vows and during the<br />

reception? Did he hear something<br />

new that made him to feel betrayed<br />

by his few-hours-old wife? I do not<br />

know, but there is a possibility.<br />

The other thing in the video that<br />

made me feel gutted was the wife<br />

running after her husband in the<br />

streets and hitting herself on the<br />

ground. Where were her family<br />

members? I could only see the chief<br />

bridesmaid consoling and running<br />

after her. When the incident<br />

happened, her family should have<br />

How the Nor<br />

orth became a killing field<br />

burnt their churches and houses and<br />

looted their property while protesting the<br />

staging of ‘Miss World’ beauty pageant<br />

in Nigeria, American invasion of Afghanistan,<br />

in support of Osama bin Laden, and<br />

<strong>against</strong> American attack on Iraq.<br />

Indeed, the particular Kano killing<br />

Obasanjo had pretended to be a reprisal<br />

killing for the Yelwa crisis in Plateau state,<br />

was in protest <strong>against</strong> American continuous<br />

presence in Iraq; according to newspaper<br />

reports of the violent demonstration<br />

and the setting on fire of the Kano<br />

branch of the Central Bank of Nigeria.<br />

Acknowledging the problems posed by<br />

Kano, The President wrote in a letter to<br />

the Sultan of Sokoto:”You will agree with<br />

me that what we have in Kano is a chronic<br />

situation whereby when there is an ethnic<br />

dispute or clash anywhere bordering<br />

on religion...Muslims of any sect and at<br />

any level in other parts of Nigeria, but<br />

particularly in Kano take it upon themselves<br />

to slaughter innocent people from<br />

other parts of the country based on their<br />

ethnicity, religion and social situation as<br />

reprisal.”<br />

Obasanjo did not ensure that any participant<br />

in the killing orgies in Yelwa or<br />

Kano was charged to court. Blood-letting<br />

had become a normal thing in the North.<br />

It is like the present situation where rampaging<br />

Fulani herdsmen attack and wipe<br />

out whole communities, and the Kaduna<br />

Governor, Nasir el-Rufai would joke that<br />

the Fulani never forgets a wrong—as<br />

though the Fulani has the right to kill at<br />

will to avenge any evil—real or imagined.<br />

In that same lackadaisical way, even the<br />

President has called upon the people of<br />

Benue to be more accommodating to their<br />

rallied round her immediately.<br />

They should have consoled her<br />

and given her some words of<br />

comfort: “don’t worry; we are<br />

going to sit down and resolve<br />

the matter.” Running after the<br />

guy in the streets was not classy.<br />

At that point, nothing would<br />

have changed; the guy was in a<br />

rage. Tempers need tocool down<br />

before you resolve issues of this<br />

nature. Moreover, their church<br />

and families would have to be<br />

involved. In some<br />

denominations, like the Catholic<br />

Church, they will have<br />

sponsors whose duty it is to<br />

resolve such issues.<br />

Three, did the young man<br />

contemplate and really ponder<br />

the vows he took earlier? All too<br />

often, exchange of marital vows<br />

is a hollow ritual that many<br />

about-to-wed people want to get<br />

out of the way so that they can<br />

<strong>move</strong> on to mundane stuff like<br />

their reception, their wellchoreographed<br />

dance, after<br />

wedding dress, etc. Someone<br />

who pondered the vows he took<br />

earlier could not have been<br />

shouting,”I no do again,” the<br />

way the young man<br />

did.Moreover, as I watched the<br />

video over and over again, I kept<br />

asking whether the guy actually<br />

loved the lady before going into<br />

the marriage or he acted<br />

neighbours just when 77 dead<br />

Benue people killed by suspected<br />

herdsmen were being buried.<br />

Obasanjo who suspended Dariye,<br />

set up a State of Emergency in Plateau,<br />

failed to release a report on<br />

the Yelwa killings over which he suspended<br />

Dariye.<br />

Dariye was punished for national<br />

crises which Obasanjo as the President<br />

should have been held responsible<br />

for. In fact, Dariye was punished<br />

for his anti-Obasanjo and pro-<br />

Atiku Abubakar politics; he was one<br />

of the James Ibori-led PDP Governors<br />

who openly opposed<br />

Obasanjo’s re-election in 2003. The<br />

core leaders of that opposition—<br />

Dariye, Bayelsa’s Dipreye<br />

Alamieyesigha, Abia’s Uzor Orji<br />

Kalu, Adamawa’s Boni Haruna,<br />

Benue’s George Akume and Delta’s<br />

James Onanefe Ibori would be<br />

relentlessly pursued, some weeded<br />

out of PDP or even impeached by<br />

Abuja-manipulated kangaroo<br />

panels. Alamieyeseigha suffered<br />

the worst fate; he was murdered<br />

when he was not allowed to receive<br />

adequate medical treatment for the<br />

surgery he had in Germany.<br />

The second leg of this article is<br />

that crime, random crime as<br />

opposed to religious-induced one,<br />

has long made Nigeria unsafe. As<br />

David Kaplan wrote in “The<br />

Coming Anarchy: How scarcity,<br />

crime, overpopulation, tribalism,<br />

and disease are rapidly destroying<br />

the social fabric of our planet” in<br />

SATURDAY Vanguard, , JUNE 1, 2019—33<br />

perfunctorily. You do not treat somebody you<br />

love and deeply care<br />

for the way he did.<br />

The scriptures will help us here. Mary,<br />

mother of Jesus, was betrothed to Joseph.<br />

Before they could start living together as<br />

husband and wife, he found out she was<br />

pregnant and he was not responsible for the<br />

pregnancy.If Joseph were like this our young<br />

man, he would have surrendered Mary to<br />

the Jews to be stoned to death in line with<br />

the Jewish customs and traditions of the time.<br />

But Joseph, being a man of honour and<br />

desiring to spare Mary the public shame<br />

because he cared for her inspite of what<br />

happened, decided to divorce her quietly<br />

Matthew 1:18-19). The rest of the story you<br />

know.<br />

Where do they go from here? Both of them<br />

agreed to get married before going ahead,<br />

both of them must also sit down to decide<br />

the way forward. They will need help because<br />

both of them seem to be consumed by<br />

emotions, not reason,right now. Their church<br />

and families will be very useful, especially if<br />

the family members can look at the issue<br />

dispassionately. If it is just a<br />

misunderstanding of issues, they might be<br />

able to resolve it amicably and they can go<br />

and live happily (I hope) thereafter. But if it<br />

is an issue of fundamental condition (like<br />

hiding a previous marriage, child or critical<br />

health condition from the man), then the<br />

young man has sufficient grounds to ask for<br />

the annulment of the marriage. Annulment<br />

is different from divorce. Divorce means that<br />

a marriage was valid, but it was dissolved.<br />

Annulment means the marriage is regarded<br />

as invalid from the beginning because it was<br />

based on falsehood.<br />

Finally, the marriage, as it is, is invalid<br />

because it was not consummated. They just<br />

left the church for reception when the guy<br />

opted out. For a marriage to be valid, husband<br />

and wife must engage in sexual intercourse<br />

after the wedding. This has not taken place<br />

in this instant.<br />

Readers interested in getting a copy of Life<br />

Lessons from Mudipapa (referred to<br />

above) can contact us on<br />

mudipapa65@gmail.com or 08186535360<br />

the Atlantic Monthly of November February 1994,<br />

“The cities of West Africa at night are some of the<br />

unsafest places in the world. Streets are unlit; the<br />

police often lack gasoline for their vehicles; armed<br />

burglars, carjackers, and muggers proliferate”<br />

Kaplan wrote: “In cities in six West African countries<br />

I saw similar young men everywhere—<br />

hordes of them. They were like loose molecules<br />

in a very unstable social fluid, a fluid that was<br />

clearly on the verge of igniting. He argued that<br />

in the villages of Africa it is perfectly natural to<br />

feed at any table and lodge in any hut. But in the<br />

cities this communal existence no longer holds.<br />

You must pay for lodging and be invited for food.<br />

When young men find out that their relations cannot<br />

put them up, they become lost. They join other<br />

migrants and slip gradually into the criminal process.<br />

In the poor quarters of Arab North Africa,” he<br />

continued, “there is much less crime, because<br />

Islam provides a social anchor: of education and<br />

indoctrination. Here in West Africa, we have a lot<br />

superficial Islam and superficial Christianity. That<br />

is why there is less crime, especially riotous killing<br />

in the Islamic country of Turkey than in Northern<br />

Nigeria.<br />

Martin van Creveld, a military historian at the<br />

Hebrew University in Jerusalem, in The Transformation<br />

of War, stated: “so fighting in many ways<br />

is not a means but an end. Kaplan wrote a far<br />

back as 1994: “When I asked Pentagon officials<br />

about the nature of war in the 21 century, the<br />

answer I frequently got was “Read Van Creveld.”<br />

The top brass are enamored of this historian not<br />

because his writings justify their existence but,<br />

rather, the opposite: Van Creveld warns them that<br />

huge state military machines like the Pentagon’s<br />

are dinosaurs about to go extinct and that something<br />

far more terrible awaits us.”<br />

Debunking the great military strategist Carl von<br />

Clausewitz, Van Creveld, who may be the most<br />

original thinker on war since that early-nineteenthcentury<br />

Prussian, writes, “Clausewitz’s ideas...<br />

the period of the “threefold division into government,<br />

army, and people” which state-directed wars<br />

enforce is ending. Now, political, social, economic,<br />

and religious motives were hopelessly entangled<br />

and the new armies consist of mercenaries, all<br />

were also attended by swarms of military entrepreneurs<br />

(who buy guns for the herdsmen, for<br />

example). They robbed the countryside on their<br />

own behalf”... like the herdsmen and bandits or<br />

kidnappers<br />

David Kaplan’s article appeared in 1994. Martin<br />

van Crevid wrote even before that, but the<br />

Nigerian military was unprepared when Boko<br />

Haram or Zamfara Bandits appeared decades<br />

later.

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