December 2019 Newsletter



8 North Earlton Road, Ext

Havre de Grace, MD 21078

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December 2019 Calendar of Events

Rabbi’s Message

President’s Message - Wendy Drabinski & Linda Needel

Religious Practices Message - Melissa Immel & Mark Wolkow

8 Days plus 1 of Giving for Hanukkah

Qualified Charitable Donations

Tree of Life Order Form

Sisterhood Gift Shop Sale - December 8 th

Taking Hold of Torah with Rabbi Franken - December 14 th

Sisterhood Hanukkah Party - December 15 th

December Daven & Dine In Hanukkah Celebration - December 20 th

Gift Shop Announcements - Denise Gordon & Pat Wolkow

Security Committee - Pat Wolkow

Special Thanks to Our Monthly Donors

Mi Sheberakh List - We Pray For Healing

Recently Passed

December 2019 Yahrzeits Observed


Temple Adas Shalom’s December 2019 Calendar of Events

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday

1 3 rd of Kislev 5780

Kehillah MAGNET Closed

2 4 th of Kislev 5780

7:00-8:00 pm - Al-Anon Mtg

(Social Hall)

3 5 th of Kislev 5780 4 6 th of Kislev 5780

8 10 th of Kislev 5780

9:00-12:15 pm - Hanukkah

Gift Shop Sale

9:00-12:00 pm - Kehillah


9 11 th of Kislev 5780

7:00-8:00 pm - Al-Anon Mtg

(Social Hall)

10 12 th of Kislev 5780 11 13 th of Kislev 5780

7:30 pm - Choir Rehearsal

(Mike’s Home)

15 17 th of Kislev 5780

16 18 th of Kislev 5780

17 19 th of Kislev 5780

18 20 th of Kislev 5780

9:00-12:00 pm - Gift Shop

9:00-12:00 pm - Kehillah


12:15-2:15 pm - Sisterhood

Hanukkah Party

**RSVP by December XX to

Elise Woods**

7:00-8:00 pm - Al-Anon Mtg

(Social Hall)

7:00 pm - RPC Meeting

8:00-2:00 pm - ELC Event in

the Social Hall

22 24 th of Kislev 5780

Hanukkah Begins

Kehillah MAGNET Closed

23 25 th of Kislev 5780


HJC-ELC Closed

24 26 th of Kislev 5780


HJC-ELC Closed

25 27 th of Kislev 5780


HJC-ELC & Office Closed

7:00-8:00 pm - Al-Anon Mtg

(Social Hall)

29 1 st of Tevet 5780


Kehillah MAGNET Closed

30 2 nd of Tevet 5780


HJC-ELC Closed

31 28 th of Heshvan 5780

New Year’s Eve

HJC-ELC Closed

7:00-8:00 pm - Al-Anon Mtg

(Social Hall)

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Temple Adas Shalom’s December 2019 Calendar of Events

Thursday Friday Saturday

5 7 th of Kislev 5780 6 8 th of Kislev 5780 7 9 th of Kislev 5780

7:00 pm - Board Meeting

4:22 pm - Candle Lighting

5:15-6:45 pm - Gift Shop

5:30-8:00 pm - Kehillah MAGNET

5:30-7:00 pm - Paint N’ Sip Event


7:00 pm - Shabbat Service with the TAS

Choir singing

Rabbi John Franken

ONEG - A. Filicko, (+1)

Parashat Vayetzei

12 14 th of Kislev 5780 13 15 th of Kislev 5780

HJC-ELC Half Day A

4:23 pm - Candle Lighting

5:15-6:45 pm - Gift Shop

5:30-8:00 pm - Kehillah MAGNET

7:00 pm - PreK - Grade 2 Shabbat Service

Rabbi John Franken & Mike Mullis

ONEG - Pre K - Grade 2 Class

14 16 th of Kislev 5780

Parashat Vayishlach

10:00-11:30 am - Taking Hold of the Torah

Rabbi John Franken

19 21 st of Kislev 5780

12:30 pm - Senior Birthday Lunch

Lee’s Hunan in Aberdeen, MD

Honoring Pat Wolkow & Courtney


8:00-2:00 pm - ELC Event in the Social


26 28 th of Kislev 5780


HJC-ELC Closed

20 22 nd of Kislev 5780

HJC-ELC Closed

4:25 pm - Candle Lighting

4:45-5:45 pm - Gift Shop

6:00 pm - Daven & Dine In Hanukkah

Celebration & Shabbat Service with the TAS

Choir Singing

Rabbi John Franken

DINE IN - Join us for a free community

event of Latkes, Sufganiyot, & Hanukkah


27 29 th of Kislev 5780


HJC-ELC Closed

4:29 pm - Candle Lighting

5:30-6:45 pm - Gift Shop

5:30-8:00 pm - Kehillah MAGNET

7:00 pm - Torah Service with the TAS

Choir singing

Mike Mullis & the TAS Choir

ONEG - M. Bianchi, (+2))

21 23 rd of Kislev 5780

Parashat Vayeshev

28 30 th of Kislev 5780


Parashat Miketz

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Rabbi’s Message

Rabbi John Franken

In this month’s exceptional issue of The Atlantic, Jonathan Haidt and Tobias Rose-Stockwell make

an important observation: “We mostly learn of ideas that a succession of generations thought

were worth passing on. That doesn’t mean these ideas are always right, but it does mean that

they are more likely to be valuable, in the long run, than most content generated within the

past month.”

The authors’ observation is a terrific argument for why Judaism matters and the electronic media

matter less. So much chatter in the media is ephemeral. By contrast, Judaism invites us to engage

with the cosmic and the important. It draws us toward what really matters.

This year the morning at Kehillah begins with the teaching of a Jewish value. We have discussed

loyalty, kindness, hospitality, friendship, justice, courage and tzedakah (righteous giving). Our

efforts are aimed at no less than the spiritual and moral formation of our students. We are raising

them to be mensches whose morality and behavior is grounded in Torah.

Yet I could just as well be speaking of our adults. A wise colleague once remarked that when you

are not learning, you are forgetting. Our learning tradition is meant to be turned and turned, lest

our knowledge, understanding and wisdom diminish. Our deeds of kindness must be practiced

again and again, lest they turn into relics and our hearts become hardened.

At this time of so much coarseness in the national discourse, I myself have been ruminating about

kindness and its power not just to help the receiver but to elevate the giver. Just after

Thanksgiving, my 81-year old mother related to me how, while visiting Walmart, she overheard

one cashier lament to another that her hours had been cut to just four hours and that she did not

know how she would have money to buy her children Christmas gifts. The conversation hurt my

mother’s heart so much that a short while later she drove back to the store to track down the two

cashiers and hand them each a twenty dollar bill. Both recipients cried tears of joy, but I know the

experience was equally important in giving my mother what is known as the helper’s high. These

are lessons that children, even us fully grown ones, absorb into our souls.

Our Sages taught that the values by which we live are contagious. Mitzvah goreret mitzvah - one

mitzvah draws out another. Aveirah goreret aveirah - one misdeed begets another. My mother’s

small act of kindness will no doubt ripple in unknown ways like the air under a butterfly’s wings.

I believe that, with enough acts like that, by our children and ourselves, we will see a society

restored and a world redeemed.

With blessings for peace, love and happiness this Hanukkah,

P.S. In this time of righteous giving (tzedakah), please consider a gift to the Rabbi’s Discretionary

Fund (“RDF”). The RDF is serves one of the following worthy purposes: (1) supporting Temple

activities, programs and operations; (2) assisting congregants in need; (3) repair of the world and

social justice; (4) support for worthy Jewish and Israeli causes; and (5) educational and

organizational advancement of the congregation, staff and clergy.

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Co-President’s Message

Wendy Drabinski & Linda Needel

Happy Winter!

Now that we are getting into the cold, dark days of winter we hopefully

have time to slow down and take some time for ourselves and our

families. Please look on our website and read our emails to see all the

happenings of our synagogue. We will be having a Daven and Dine-in for

Hanukkah and a New Year’s Eve party. Coming up in February, there

will be a fundraiser for the Super Bowl LIV.

There are many things going on to keep you busy during the colder

months. Please take advantage and join your synagogue community. We

would love to see you!


Linda and Wendy

Rabbi’s Visit with our Seniors at Avondell Brightview

A good time was had by all as Rabbi John Franken

visited with some of our senior comminuty on

November 15 th at the Senior Shabbt Meet & Greet at

Avondell Brightview in Bel Air, MD

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Religious Practices Message

Melissa Immel & Mark Wolkow

December, and Hanukkah, are just around the corner. Join us for services

on December 6 and 13 with Rabbi Franken and the Kehillah MAGNET

crowd. There will be upbeat services, lots of people of all ages… and we’ll

be done in an hour! Then on December 20 we have a Special Daven ‘n

Dine… it’s a Daven and Dine In! There will be services at 6:00, then latkes,

donuts, Hanukkah songs and more at 6:45. Bring your children! Bring

your parents! Bring your friends… it’ll be lot’s of fun! We’ll wrap up the

year with our final service on December 27.

If you haven’t stopped in for a service in a while, join us at 7:00 pm – our

new standard time. Most of our services are now an hour or less, Rabbi

Franken is offering some engaging sermons, and the choir has introduced

several new songs courtesy of Rabbi Franken. Enjoy the camaraderie of

your friends, enjoy the music, and enjoy the peaceful beginning of


Want to learn more about our services and all the “behind the scenes”

activities that happen? We would love to have you join our merry RPC.

Please contact one of us.


Melissa Immel and Mark Wolkow

RPC Co-Chairs

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Qualified Charitable Donations

The end of the year is quickly coming and many of us use this time of year to make lastminute

donations for the year. Here is a brief excerpt from a Fidelity article, “Qualified

Charitable Deductions (QCD),” which might be something to think about if you are

retired and have some money left to meet your Required Minimum Distribution for the


A Qualified Charitable Deduction (QCD) is a direct transfer of funds from your IRA

custodian, payable to a qualified charity. QCDs can be counted toward satisfying

your required minimum distributions for the year, as long as certain rules are met.

In addition to the benefits of giving to charity, a QCD excludes the amount donated

from taxable income, which is unlike regular withdrawals from an IRA. Keeping

your taxable income lower may reduce the impact to certain tax credits and

deductions, including Social Security and Medicare.

Also, QCDs don't require that you itemize, which due to the recent tax law changes,

means you may decide to take advantage of the higher standard deduction, but still

use a QCD for charitable giving.

Can I make a QCD?

While many IRAs are eligible for QCDs—Traditional, Rollover, Inherited, and, for

inactive plans, SEP and SIMPLE—there are requirements:

You must be 70½ or older to be eligible to make a QCD.

QCDs are limited to the amount that would otherwise be taxed as ordinary income. This

excludes non-deductible contributions.

The maximum annual amount that can qualify for a QCD is $100,000. This applies to the

sum of QCDs made to one or more charities in a calendar year. If, however, you file taxes

jointly, your spouse can also make a QCD from his or her own IRA within the same tax year

for up to $100,000.

For a QCD to count towards your current year's RMD, the funds must come out of your

IRA by your RMD deadline, generally December 31.

The temple is pushing to match the generous donation from a generous donor and retire

the building debt. A QCD would be a great way to help us accomplish this goal. If you

are interested, I would encourage you to speak with your financial advisor.

Thank you.

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Gift Shop Announcements

Pat Wolkow & Denise Gordon

Hanukkah items are popping up in the Gift Shop. Start making your list

and stop in for a look.

The big shopping day for our students will be December 8. We are

offering to gift wrap their purchases this year for a very nominal cost.

We are looking for volunteers to become trained to work hours in the

gift shop. We also need someone to help with creating on-line product

pages. Please contact Pat Wolkow about training.

If you are shopping for Judaica on-line, we can usually match the price

offered or even purchase for less because of wholesale pricing. If you plan

to shop ahead of time for your needs, or wish to support your Sisterhood,

who in turn supports our Congregation, then give us a shout!

Pat Wolkow & Denise Gordon

Security Committee Information

Pat Wolkow

Your team is currently working on another grant to fund more security

hardening to the building and help with security personnel costs. These

grants, we hope, will allow us to avoid adding a “Security Fee” to our

membership dues statements, which many congregations have had to do!

In January we have scheduled security training and planning for temple

leadership and teachers. In this training we will learn how to best

prepare for emergencies through developing a plan of action. We will

also offer, for those who have not been trained, “Stop the Bleed” and CPR


Anyone interested in joining our team, please contact Pat Wolkow.

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Kevin & Lisa Bress

Wendy & Patrick Drabinski

Andrew & Marianne Fridberg

Phillip & Barbara Gilden

Arthur & Denise Gordon

Michael Gordon

Richard Hoffman

Kathleen & Michael Lazarski

Robert & Barbara Lynch

Linda & Stuart Needel

Ashiq & Ashira Quabili

Rayna & David Richardson

Howard & Melinda Brucker

Raymond & Evelyn Bell

Devon & Ronan Boardman

William & Terri Broemm

Debbie Rose Delaney

Ellen & Ken Farkas

Andrew Goldberg

Jayne Klein

Jeffrey & Carolyn Dobek

James Sirkis & Carla Rockmaker

Martin & Marcy Werde

Martin & Marcy Werde

Karen & Fred Edeson

October 2019 – Donors


Julie Sang

Jill & Brian Schorr

William & Kristi Schwartz

Eric & Anne Seeley

Brett & Debbie Temple

Jonas & Paula Vogelhut

Naomi Walton

Robin & Mark Way

Mark & Patricia Wolkow

Selma Wolkow

Elise & Michael Woods

Jill & Daniel Young

L'dor Vador

L'dor Vador

L'dor Vador

L'dor Vador

In honor of great grandaughter Olivia Whiteman

L'dor Vador

L'dor Vador

L'dor Vador


In memory of Arline Silverman

In memory of Bernice P. Davis


Shelby Getz

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Mi Sheberakh * We Pray for Healing

Adam Hyman

Amy Schoenberger

Arlene Zweibach

Barbara Chancey

Bea Kolchin

Bessie Speyer

Brandy Blazer

Carl Chancey

Carl Tannenbaum

Carol Buckman

David Richardson

Dvir Sabag

Fred Belkin

Gerry Murphy

Glen McCain

Harriet Colman

Jacob Corsman

Jason Sober

Jeni Wing

Jim Dandy

Jimmy Chancey

Karen Green

Kelcey Klass

Kimmie Rankin

Lee Tabackman

Lori Vetstein

Margaret Hass

Marie Grove

Marshall Rosin

Mary Jo Lodge

Michael Schneck

Pat Wolkow

Patrick Hauf

Paul Lever

Rabbi Fred Natkin

Richard Collins

Robert Sachs

Rosie Lidy

Sam Befarah

Shirley Oliner

Sidney Birnbaum

Stewart Natkin

Stu Needel

Terry Washburn

Terry Weiner

Todd Young

Tom Merriken

Toni Bonney

Recently Passed

Leroy Edward Baer

Father of Ann Cogan, father-in-law of Brad Cogan, grandfather to Joshua, Noah and Nina Cogan

December 2019 - Yahrzeits Observed

Lorraine Jachman

Alvin Needel

Arthur J. Davis

Julius Diamant

Aaron Hauchman

Steven Martin Shuman

Anna Goldberg Black

Lyn Stacie Getz

Merelyn Paul

Florence Schwaber

Kathleen Farrell

Harry Schultz

Irving Shur

Benjamin Hirsch

Morris Weinstein

Clara Schneck

Cheryl Miller Shimp

Morris Apple

Lillian Ribyat Braverman

Jacob Feinberg

Irwin Goldstein

Katherine Hamburger

Selma Weinstein

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Marcia Scheiner

Randy Bress

Melvin Chayt

Yetta Belitzky

Gerald Litwak

Kate Getz

Adolph Nord

Toby Needel

Nathan Sachs

Aaron Baumgarten

Joanne Levine

Howard Levy

Susan Seidenberg

Joseph Braverman

Wendy Ann Zion

Irving Passe

Dr. David Rosenblatt

Gladys Ertwine

Sylvia Hoffman

Miriam Cogan

Helen Ross

Miriam Sandow

David Ford

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