Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

life to keep twenty-seven angry slaves from beating you to a bloody pulp.
The Ineffable Dom
I’m going to invent a final unique category of Dominant, which I hereby christen
the Ineffable Dom. Ineffable is a word that essentially means “impossible to be
categorized or adequately described in words.” It’s a word that became
fashionable during the middle-ages as a way for many philosophers to
oxymoronically describe God as indescribable. My reason for creating this
category out of whole cloth is in recognition of the fact that many lifestyle
Dominants just can’t be neatly pigeon-holed into any of the other categories.
They are, quite simply, atypical or unique.
The Ineffable Dom is typically a Dominant who has been in the D/s lifestyle for
several years or longer and has, mostly through trial and error, learned what does
and doesn’t appeal to him and what works best in his D/s relationships. Over
this span of time, he has consciously explored and borrowed traits and
characteristics from other more traditional Dominant categories. Additionally,
the synergy created with each new partner brings new facets to the Ineffable
Dom’s understanding and interests. The Ineffable Dom steals unashamedly
from any D/s lifestyle tradition that strikes his fancy, taking what he considers
the best bits and pieces of each and tossing them all into a hodge-podge D/s stew
that, surprisingly, can turn out to be quite delicious. Never discount or
underestimate a Dominant simply because he cannot adequately describe in 25
words or less what kind of Dominant he is. He may just be an Ineffable Dom.
The Tin Pot Dom
The Tin Pot Dom is no more a Dominant than the person who wears a dollar
store eye patch on Talk Like a Pirate Day (September 19 th , by the way) is really
a pirate. Tin Pot Doms generally fall into two categories.
The first is the role player. This Tin Pot Dom doesn’t consider what he does as
a deception; he considers it role play. As far as he is concerned, D/s isn’t a
lifestyle; it’s entertainment. He sees what he does - role playing the part of a
Dominant - as a perfectly natural and appropriate behavior, mainly because he
believes he is interacting with people who are doing precisely the same thing. It
hasn’t quite dawned on him that those people really may be Dominants and
submissives, and not just acting out roles. The role player Tin Pot Dom believes
that everyone is simply making it up as they go along, so he feels pretty