Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

from such riff-raff? He knows all of this, because he’s seen it work for him time
and again, and it’s hard to argue with success. Anyone who steadfastly refuses
to recognize his innate superiority is simply a bit-player or antagonist in a grand
drama that is played out on center-stage in his own little parallel universe.
You might be tempted to pity the self-delusional Tin Pot Dom until you realize
the full magnitude of the damage that his kind does to submissives, to the D/s
lifestyle, and to society in general. As a result of this person’s delusional and
often paranoid behavior, submissives often end up stripped of their dignity,
sense of self-worth, self-confidence and trust. Others in the lifestyle are forced
constantly to defend our way of life because of the widespread stereotypes and
misconceptions that result from the actions of these bad apples. Even worse,
there are those high-profile, extreme cases where the worst of these selfdelusional,
criminally insane individuals kidnap people and keep them chained
in their basement or bury them in their backyards.
Now, before I am accused of engaging in fear-mongering, or the wanton and
indiscriminate slander of all the poor, innocent, harmlessly self-deluded Tin Pot
Doms everywhere, I hope you’ll allow me to just say that I did not mean to
imply that all self-deluded Tin Pot Dominants are psycho loons. I meant to
imply that most of them are.
Alrighty, then. Let the accusations fly.
There you have it, my perspective on what I consider to be the eight major
categories of Dominants and a ninth for the TPDs who are role players or selfdelusional.
My perspectives on this and other D/s lifestyle topics have been
shaped and impacted by thirty-five years of D/s relationships, a lifetime of
unusual life experiences, and an admittedly eccentric world-view. I suppose the
key to getting your money’s worth from this book will be your ability to take
from it what is useful to your relationships and activities, and to simply disregard
the rest. There isn’t much in the D/s lifestyle that can be characterized as right
or wrong. It is either useful to you, or it is not.
Frankly, I fully expect that some of the things I say in this book are going to
cause some people to foam at the mouth and perhaps even say not-nice things
about me. That’s okay. It’s all part of the process. I’d be far more concerned if
everyone were agreeing with me, since that’s usually my first clue that I’m dead
wrong about something.