Divorcing a narcissist: read the contents plus chapter 1
Separating or divorcing a narcissist or someone who has narcissistic traits can be a difficult, draining experience. This book is written for the spouse of such a personality, to support them step by step through the legal process, as well as through the difficult emotional journey that they'll be undertaking. It will help you recognise narcissistic behaviour, prime you on what challenges lie ahead and provide practical insights on how to survive the process. It will also help you work with your lawyer so you can both understand the potential pitfalls that could frustrate attempts to finalise your separation. The book is a companion volume to our book for lawyers, Narcissism and Family Law: A Practitioner's Guide
Separating or divorcing a narcissist or someone who has narcissistic traits can be a difficult, draining experience.
This book is written for the spouse of such a personality, to support them step by step through the legal process, as well as through the difficult emotional journey that they'll be undertaking. It will help you recognise narcissistic behaviour, prime you on what challenges lie ahead and provide practical insights on how to survive the process.
It will also help you work with your lawyer so you can both understand the potential pitfalls that could frustrate attempts to finalise your separation.
The book is a companion volume to our book for lawyers, Narcissism and Family Law: A Practitioner's Guide
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<strong>Divorcing</strong> A Narcissist – The Lure, The Loss And The Law<br />
Being above <strong>the</strong> laws and rules 73<br />
Violating boundaries 75<br />
Passive aggression 75<br />
Blameshifting76<br />
Lying77<br />
Fluctuating morals, impaired conscience and inability to feel guilt 77<br />
Narcissistic pseudologic and word salad 78<br />
Difficulty being alone 80<br />
‘Gas-lighting’81<br />
Projection83<br />
Lack of empathy 84<br />
Sense of entitlement 86<br />
Exploiting o<strong>the</strong>rs 88<br />
The need to control 88<br />
Toxic positivity 90<br />
Selfishness91<br />
The <strong>narcissist</strong>’s experience of ‘love’ 92<br />
Living in <strong>the</strong> ‘drama triangle’ – <strong>the</strong> <strong>narcissist</strong>’s home 95<br />
The dropping of <strong>the</strong> mask 96<br />
Chapter 3: Why me? 99<br />
Who do <strong>narcissist</strong>s target? 99<br />
Am I a <strong>narcissist</strong>? The spectrum of narcissism 103<br />
Am I a Closet Narcissist? 107<br />
Chapter 4: The <strong>narcissist</strong> and <strong>the</strong>ir children 111<br />
First, let’s talk about you 111<br />
How <strong>the</strong> <strong>narcissist</strong> behaves towards <strong>the</strong>ir children 112<br />
Narcissists view children as extensions of <strong>the</strong>mselves 114<br />
Conditional love 116<br />
Narcissists have a sense of entitlement 117<br />
How <strong>the</strong> <strong>narcissist</strong> uses <strong>the</strong>ir children as weapons 118<br />
Badmouthing121<br />
Issues regarding where <strong>the</strong> children live 121<br />
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