ACC Accord Summer 2021 Issue 111
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and the subject of abortion is highly<br />
emotive. To work professionally we<br />
must be impartial and for me it is<br />
simply a case of meeting people<br />
where they are at, just as Jesus did,<br />
and trusting God for the bigger<br />
picture.<br />
MISCARRIAGE<br />
Most people associate baby loss<br />
with miscarriage, which affects<br />
around 1 in 4 women. While some<br />
women accept this as something<br />
that just happens, others can find it<br />
devastating. Even the terminology<br />
of miscarriage, a pregnancy<br />
miscarried, being ‘lost’, may make<br />
the Mother feel at fault somehow<br />
and she may develop complicated<br />
feelings towards her body which<br />
impact on her self esteem. Access<br />
to the Miscarriage specialist groups<br />
is very patchy across the country<br />
and only after three miscarriges<br />
will it be medically investigated.<br />
Early miscarriage can be just as<br />
devastating as a later loss, the<br />
number of weeks a woman is<br />
pregnant does not equate to<br />
her feelings of loss and grief, nor<br />
indicate how far the bonding of<br />
parent and infant has progressed.<br />
An infant loss after 22 weeks has<br />
both a birth and death certificate,<br />
but very often miscarriage is an<br />
invisible loss with nothing to<br />
commemorate the life.<br />
ART WORK<br />
Using art I have worked with clients<br />
creating memory boxes filled<br />
with precious mementos, letters<br />
and even certificates of life, all<br />
preciously stored and contained<br />
within. Clients have also designed<br />
jewelry, painted stones, written<br />
poems and planted gardens. These<br />
are all ways of commemorating<br />
and expressing emotion. I have<br />
asked clients to form a clay bulb<br />
and used this as a focus for<br />
guided imagery, where we plant<br />
the bulb safely within a beautiful<br />
garden that is watched over by<br />
a gardener. Clients have found<br />
this particularly powerful and by<br />
introducing the gardener there is<br />
a spiritual element that the client<br />
may choose to explore. Art creates<br />
a visible tangible focus for what is<br />
often an invisible unacknowledged<br />
grief. By creating an object, it holds<br />
and legitimises the feelings – this<br />
happened, it mattered, I matter. I<br />
have been a witness of grief and<br />
a keeper of secrets, some clients<br />
choosing to leave their objects with<br />
me, while others take them home<br />
and treasure. The act of creation<br />
is the opposite of loss and life<br />
affirming while allowing the client<br />
to authentically express their grief.<br />
Working creatively also offers the<br />
client personal agency at a time<br />
when they may feel out of control<br />
and overwhelmed by their loss.<br />
ART IN A PANDEMIC<br />
In this time of pandemic I have<br />
sent out art materials and I have<br />
also used therapeutic journaling,<br />
talking through an art directive<br />
and asking the client to reflect<br />
and journal, which engages them<br />
psychodynamically. I have found<br />
advantages working remotely<br />
in being able to offer greater<br />
accessibility and the clients have<br />
responded positively with this<br />
new way of working. At a time<br />
when it feels all<br />
resources<br />
are being<br />
directed<br />
towards coping with the pandemic,<br />
women are still facing unplanned<br />
pregnancy and pregnancy loss.<br />
Isolation can make it even more<br />
difficult for those seeking help. This<br />
is vital work. I hope to train others<br />
about pregnancy loss and raise<br />
awareness to break the taboos of<br />
societal silence.<br />
Reading:<br />
Grief unseen, Healing Pregnancy<br />
loss through the Arts, Laura Sefel.<br />
Therapeutic Arts in Pregnancy,<br />
Birth and New Parenthood,<br />
Susan Hogan.<br />
Pregnancy & Abortion<br />
Counselling, Joanna Brien & Ida<br />
Fairbairn.<br />
Complicated Grief, Attachment &<br />
Art Therapy, Briana MacWilliam.<br />
Amanda Padley<br />
About the author<br />
I’m an Art<br />
psychotherapist,<br />
wife, mother,<br />
writer and potter,<br />
who lives near<br />
Wrexham in North Wales,<br />
halfway up the first mountain.<br />
After working for many years as<br />
a community artist and being<br />
interested in spiritual art, I<br />
achieved a twenty year dream of<br />
studying art therapy and finally<br />
went to University aged 42. I<br />
loved the training and felt drawn<br />
to working with adult women<br />
and women’s issues. I have<br />
three miniature pekin chickens<br />
which make wonderful garden<br />
companions and a she-shed<br />
where I enjoy the calm discipline<br />
of working on a potter’s wheel.<br />
It feels the opposite of working<br />
with clay in therapy. If all that<br />
sounds very busy, I am forced to<br />
take very good care of myself as<br />
I also live with MS and disability.<br />
I am currently also studying<br />
part-time for my PGCE. I hope<br />
to go to teach and train other<br />
professionals about pregnancy<br />
loss.<br />
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