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out of the military as men conform to the roles they are derived from. You had front-line soldiers who took orders from officers. When the leather groups were created, they continued similar relationship forms because they were exciting and people enjoyed it. What developed in our community was the dynamic power fetish and how they relate to real-world relationships. In the straight world, you see manifestations of this with dominatrixes and submissives. During the 80s and 90s, there were types referred to as Master/Slave which now we reference as Daddy/Boy. What that speaks to is someone who may be a more submissive personality and would be “collared” by a more dominant “sir.” I want to emphasize that this is always a mutual, consensual relationship. Generally, the Sir is a sexual mentor who offers guidance, romance, and training. Over time, Leather families develop and provide guidance. The Sir will often have many subs, forming a poly relationship with the other subs. Generally, the family is exchanging power dynamics. Giving up some power can be highly erotic for both the Sir and the sub. It can also be a very therapeutic place that allows one to turn off their brain to control a situation in a trusted case. It can be a profound experience. It is easy to look at the flogs and whips and think it is abusive, but everything we practice is safe, sane, and consensual. In my experience, it is a form of healing from past traumas. Sir Den. courtesy of Stephanie Norwood LEATHER CULTURE LINGO Poly: The prefix “poly” means many, and polysexual individuals are attracted to people of multiple genders IML: Stands for International Mister Leather and is a national yearly competition that celebrates leather culture Bears: A bear is a larger and often hairier man who projects an image of rugged masculinity Daddy/Boy: A type of dominant/submissive relationship Collared: Refers to when someone wears a collar; a device of any material worn by a person around the neck to indicate they’re submissive Daddy: Older man sexually involved in a relationship or wanting sex with a younger male Sir: Male dominant Boy: Male submissive Dom/Dominant: Person in power, with influence, or in charge Sub/Submissive: Obedient or passive, person who yields to charge UPCOMING EVENTS HOIST will be hosting the third leather contest for Mid-South Kink & Leather Sir in the fall. They will also be doing a Leather Run in October. To find out more about HOIST or the events coming up, visit hoistmemphis.org. Sir Den (IML—1st candidate to rep Mid-South since the early 90s). ART AND LEATHER CULTURE Artists like Tom of Finland helped to define and shape masculinity in the gay subculture of leather communities. Where TOF succeeded well was in creating an aesthetic which called upon male archetypes. This was the opposite of the effeminant gay man, a stereotype which misrepresented many in the gay male community. Through his art, TOF created a series of masculine images which men aspired to be, to dress up as, and to live up to in their own identities. His work became relevant during the 80s. He was in leather circles, worked internationally, and was the IML (International Mister Leather). See more: Watch the 2017 TOF foreign film and read the TOF: The Art of Pleasure book for more history on his art. 20 Sex+Love | focuslgbt.com
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