Lot's Wife Edition 3 2024
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Standing on the Borderline<br />
By Erica Di Pierro<br />
Nowadays I scrub myself clean of anything representing a stereotypical mentally ill person.<br />
No more will people say I remind them of Harley Quinn or Ramona Flowers, no more will<br />
I meet their sexualised expectation of a mentally ill woman.<br />
I’m dying my hair back, thinking carefully about the tattoos I want, I don’t fall asleep at 3am<br />
with some depressing playlist, and I’m finally selling all my lifeless clothes at the Sunday<br />
market. I no longer identify with that. I’m not proud of it, I wasn’t happy, it wasn’t me.<br />
I’m not insulted that I dress “basic” now, I’m not insulted I no longer meet your expectations<br />
of me. I traded my chains and fishnets for basic tees, and I feel better now.<br />
As I reach for that abrasive loofah, I do contemplate why I can’t accept who I was when<br />
I was deep in the trenches, begging everyone to believe that it was a stranger, begging<br />
myself to believe that was never me. I’m not my illness, that’s not who I am, but as someone<br />
who has walked in my own shoes, shouldn’t I be a little more understanding of the roads<br />
I’ve travelled?<br />
Too often I’m sitting on the fence between accepting myself and being okay with it or<br />
tearing any resemblance of mental illness and keeping it as far away as possible. How<br />
can I be okay with this, do you know what people say about me?<br />
Sometimes I feel like I must carry the agonising burden of being a spokesperson for BPD,<br />
those three words come up in a conversation and I feel eyes pierce me like they know<br />
a big secret I’m hiding. The desperate need to say something to disprove of borderline<br />
symptoms is haunting, cursed with the fear that people think I want this and I’m so quirky.<br />
Screw you TikTok.<br />
Even the few positive attributes this illness gifts me is something I wish I could get a<br />
shovel and weed out of my garden. Everything feels like a double-edged sword, everything<br />
is a double-edged sword. A sweet sensitivity that snowballs into debilitating anxiety,<br />
compassion, and loyalty like a dog, and will never be reciprocated in any relationship. It is<br />
not fun fighting everyone else’s wars yet never being able to stand next to your own army.<br />
Shame is unfortunately ingrained in me, one Google search and there’s more results on<br />
BPD being toxic manipulators than there are helpful resources. I walk around with a scarlet<br />
letter, people stop and stare knowing I’m a horrible, toxic gaslighter. Constantly scared<br />
that those around me walk on my field of landmines, running a never-ending marathon<br />
questioning, ‘what if I am the stereotype?’ It’s getting quite lonely locked away with a moat<br />
of eggshells and glass shards.<br />
Perhaps this is a perspective that changes with the years, right now detachment feels like a<br />
home, maybe I’ll keep dancing with these ideas. I am not borderline; I am not a borderline.<br />
No one says I am a thyroid problem, or I am a cold. The less I dwell on stereotypes and<br />
playing the painful losing game of trying to change people’s beliefs, the easier it is to<br />
cope. Maybe at the core of wanting to appear so extremely unwell is just simply wanting<br />
someone to care, not to be immediately seen like a monster.<br />
An Offering in Defense of Aphrodite<br />
By Lucia Lane<br />
This piece was originally published by Pnyx Magazine<br />
Love and war lay tangled together, laughed at<br />
but the punishment was a failure<br />
being bare before them brought her no shame,<br />
she was the goddess of beauty<br />
seeing her marriage dissolve brought her no pain,<br />
she was goddess of love, not matrimony<br />
She didn’t hate her husband because he was ugly<br />
but he demanded her hand and expected fidelity<br />
only choosing her because others lusted<br />
and fought over her frequently<br />
But Ares didn't hesitate to remember<br />
that love finds the spot where it hurts and adds pressure<br />
she was older than the others and wilder<br />
finally, someone who matched him in power<br />
he saw the parts of her nobody knew<br />
she had begun as goddess of war<br />
and would always be the more violent of the two<br />
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