Nineteen Fifty-Six Vol. 3 Issue 1

the University of Alabama, said. “It's important
to feel the sadness, but you can't let yourself
wallow and stay there. Definitely take some
time to reflect on how things are and take some
time to get comfortable being by yourself.
Being happy on your own is such an important
part of the healing process.”
Rushing into a new or a sexual relationship
is also not going to erase the sadness. In fact,
it may bring more pain. Trying to get with
someone new right after a breakup forces
you to compare the new person with your ex,
leading to disaster for yourself and them. Using
sex as relationship therapy causes unwanted
companionship with people you see nothing in.
Also, drinking the pain away is probably the
last situation you want to find yourself in.
Resorting to alcohol and drugs is an extreme
way of coping, and never fixes the affair. These
substances can lead to addiction, depression,
and worst of all death.
The initial relief of pain is not permanent and
leads to a spiral of worse conditions than what
you started with.
“The problem occurs when alcohol becomes
your way of coping with or blocking out
emotions,” writer Alicia Schultz said. “In short,
you shouldn’t feel like reaching for a drink
every time a painful feeling comes up. And if
you do feel that way, it might be best to lay off
the booze for a while. As tough as it can be,
avoiding alcohol may set you on the path to
feeling better for the long haul.”
A breakup is never an easy thing to shake off.
There are several vices that can numb the pain,
but not heal it. Surrounding yourself with
positivity clears out the negativity of a breakup.
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