Nineteen Fifty-Six Vol. 3 Issue 1

M
y name is Lindsey Macon. I am
21 years old, a senior here at The
University of Alabama and I am from
Mississippi. Most importantly, I am a Black
transgender woman.
Being Black and trans is a roller coaster to put
it calmly. Most people hear trans and the first
thing they think of is some tall, deep voice
person who you can clearly tell is a man. That
is nowhere near the case. We all don’t have deep
voices. We all aren’t tall and stocky either.
But that’s not what I’m here to talk about. I’m
here to talk about how life is being trans and
dating. In a nutshell, I would say it’s difficult to
say the least. You never know who just wants to
be with you just as some sick, twisted fantasy
that they’ve always wanted to try or who wants
to be with you for the amazing person you are.
Don’t get me started on the DL boys those
masculine men who are too afraid of what
society will think of them, so they act all hard
in public and often talk down upon those of us
in the LGBTQ+ community but behind closed
doors are blowing up our phones saying how
much they want us.
In my experience with being trans, it is always
important to tell someone who you are thinking
about being sexually active with that you are
in fact transgender. I personally have never
experienced any transphobia while here at
the University of Alabama. In my experience,
I find that when you be honest and upfront
with men their reaction is very accepting. For
instance. I’ve never had an experience where I
told someone that I was trans and it completely
went left field. Most men will respect you more
for telling them upfront then stringing them
along.
Now, I know sometimes this could be hard
because you want people to try to get to know
you for you and not for you being transgender.
But at the end of the day, it’s always important
to do the right thing and keep your safety first.
As a trans woman, the day-to-day can be very
hard especially with the hormones we take.
One day I might wake up mad at the world and
5 seconds later, I’m the happiest person alive. It
all varies because of the hormones.
Overall, though, I would say even with all the
ups and downs and challenges we as trans
women face, I wouldn’t change who I am for
anything in the world. I am living my life how
I want and as the strong woman that I aspire
to be. To all the transgender women reading
this, always remember to be who you are and to
not rush your process because it happens in the
blink of an eye.
I know it can be hard when you see other trans
women who are further along then you and
it makes you want to rush to get there, but
everyone has their own process. I have not
always looked how I do now and when I look
back, I realize that even though the process to
get here was long and hard, it was necessary so
that I could be where I am today.
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