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number of cases are being treated.<br />

Researchers believe that children develop multiple personal<strong>it</strong>ies as a way of coping w<strong>it</strong>h<br />

abuse so violent and sad<strong>is</strong>tic that the mind fractures. Each assault <strong>is</strong> then handled by<br />

one or more personal<strong>it</strong>ies —"selves," or "alters." Some personal<strong>it</strong>ies hold pain, others<br />

grief, others rage. Even happiness may be segregated in<strong>to</strong> a d<strong>is</strong>crete "self." The<br />

personal<strong>it</strong>ies often have no <strong>know</strong>ledge of one another, so a person w<strong>it</strong>h MPD "loses<br />

time " when one personal<strong>it</strong>y gives way <strong>to</strong> another, and can "come <strong>to</strong>" hours or years later<br />

w<strong>it</strong>hout any way of <strong>know</strong>ing <strong>what</strong> had happened in the interim.<br />

Brad, a victim of <strong>incest</strong> who suffers MPD, has learned <strong>to</strong> recognize a particular feeling<br />

that warns him he <strong>is</strong> about <strong>to</strong> sw<strong>it</strong>ch in<strong>to</strong> one of h<strong>is</strong> alters. It happens under stress, he<br />

says. "My eyes all of a sudden blur and everything goes <strong>to</strong> gauze."<br />

Cult<br />

I met another sufferer of multiple personal<strong>it</strong>ies—a <strong>you</strong>ng woman—the day after she fled<br />

a cult. My husband and I were guests of the people she ran <strong>to</strong>, and I sat up w<strong>it</strong>h her<br />

until early morning because she was afraid <strong>to</strong> be alone. She had been sexually <strong>to</strong>rtured<br />

by her father, brothers, and other cult members for all of her 28 years. As we talked, she<br />

sw<strong>it</strong>ched personal<strong>it</strong>ies.<br />

One of her alters was suicidal. Another <strong>want</strong>ed <strong>to</strong> call her family and tell them where<br />

she was. One was very <strong>you</strong>ng, five or six. One knew the dates of satanic holidays and<br />

the r<strong>it</strong>uals she had performed on them. At one point during the night she closed her<br />

eyes, then opened them again and looked at me w<strong>it</strong>h such an evil stare that the hair on<br />

my neck s<strong>to</strong>od up. Later, she asked me <strong>to</strong> put my arms around her and hold her, and I<br />

did.<br />

"I was my mother's gift <strong>to</strong> my father," says Sylvia, yet another woman who suffers multiple<br />

personal<strong>it</strong>ies. "My dad's a pedophile. He had sex w<strong>it</strong>h me until I was seven. My<br />

mom's a sociopath. She tried <strong>to</strong> suffocate me many, many times. She slept w<strong>it</strong>h my<br />

brother until he was fourteen. She made him her husband, even though my father lived<br />

w<strong>it</strong>h us. The last time I saw her was twenty years ago. I came by the house where she<br />

was living w<strong>it</strong>h my brother. He opened the door w<strong>it</strong>h a gun in h<strong>is</strong> hand. She had <strong>to</strong>ld him<br />

<strong>to</strong> shoot me."<br />

Sylvia and her family lived in a cult that practiced blood sacrifices. When she was three,<br />

she was r<strong>it</strong>ual<strong>is</strong>tically raped and sodomized by the cult leaders. Her life was so <strong>to</strong>rturous<br />

that she spl<strong>it</strong> in<strong>to</strong> alternate selves who carried on when she couldn't.<br />

<strong>What</strong> a Child Learns from being sexually abused<br />

"The one thing a child learns from sexual abuse," Dr. Summ<strong>it</strong> <strong>to</strong>ld me, "<strong>is</strong> how <strong>to</strong> be<br />

abused." Sexually abused children teach themselves <strong>to</strong> endure assault. Instead of<br />

learning <strong>to</strong> protect themselves, they learn that they can't protect themselves. As adults<br />

they can be blind <strong>to</strong> dangers others would find obvious. They may freeze or go limp<br />

when threatened. Someone who has never been abused can say no, can walk or run<br />

away, can scream and fight. The <strong>incest</strong> victim often doesn't <strong>know</strong> <strong>what</strong> <strong>to</strong> do except <strong>to</strong><br />

wa<strong>it</strong> for the danger <strong>to</strong> be over.<br />

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