Australian Women's Book Review Volume 14.1 - School of English ...
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The One Who Looked Like Beethoven<br />
By Alison Lambert.<br />
I phone her and she's delighted to hear from me, asks me over and though it's been over 20 years we<br />
just talk and talk and talk. So much shared history. Both <strong>of</strong> us born in 1943, the vanguard <strong>of</strong> the babyboomers;<br />
both ex-nurses, single now; both struggling with clutter <strong>of</strong> both a domestic and a historical<br />
nature. She was the nurse in the labour ward when I had my first baby, at seven in the evening on 27<br />
February 1968. She was kindness itself.<br />
Historical, herstorytell. She's stayed here, in this pretty hinterland area an hour or two from the city;<br />
whereas I escaped and have just come back, tail between my legs (keeps your pink bits warm though)<br />
because I'd run out <strong>of</strong> options, it seemed. Well, options that I could stand, anyway. I sometimes look at<br />
women who've stayed with their husbands and careers and I wonder, what is the price <strong>of</strong> their comfort<br />
and security?<br />
You get that. I do anyway, nearly every time. I'm living in this shed on my son and daughter-in-law's<br />
property, and lucky that my son is building me a little place here, but I don't quite fit in this area <strong>of</strong><br />
relative affluence.<br />
Even so I tell some <strong>of</strong> my stories with a laugh, though I do get some shocked looks and changing <strong>of</strong><br />
subject. Whereas this poor love is still licking her wounds from her one true love, who I remember way<br />
back kept leaving her then coming back, leaving again with mouthfuls <strong>of</strong> accusations against her that<br />
some apparently still believe. J became, from what she tells me, a broken-down alcoholic schizophrenic<br />
with leukaemia. It was the pot, she said, some people just shouldn't have it. But her ex-father-in-law<br />
still won't let her near him ('he's OK as long as he keeps away from you').<br />
Misguided bloody arsehole.<br />
I can see why so many people have got angry on my behalf, when they've heard me tell <strong>of</strong> this<br />
predicament or that. I hear myself in her, that gentle voice with the question in it, the plaintive why?,<br />
the small quiet shock that grows as you find yourself on a beach with the tide going out, dumped by the<br />
big lively sea. Still more or less sound, as you look at yourself; not too scarred by your<br />
relationshipwrecks; plenty to <strong>of</strong>fer, yet there you are, a bleaching old bit <strong>of</strong> flotsam in the eyes <strong>of</strong> the<br />
beachcombers. I am angry that after all this time, all her efforts, being a single mum to kids who<br />
believed his version <strong>of</strong> it all, hanging in there in the very place <strong>of</strong> her humiliation, running tuckshops<br />
and local markets while the locals lopped at this poppy who could have been tall - oh yes, brains there<br />
all right, it takes brains to get depressed doesn't it, just going <strong>of</strong>f to the pokies or whatever doesn't<br />
work, oh no you've got this keen mind and it has to stew and chew and because <strong>of</strong> innate loving<br />
kindness you don't blame others so it has to have been your fault. I am angry to hear her still<br />
questioning in this way.<br />
But it's hard to know what it is that's making me angry. I am angry with whatever it is that lets her, and<br />
me, at this stage <strong>of</strong> our lives, still be struggling with not enough money, unwashed dishes, an unmade<br />
bed, an unquiet mind. We talk, we analyse via various modes: social, gender, astrological,<br />
psychological, Buddhist. We speak these languages. The answer lies in all <strong>of</strong> them and then some, we<br />
decide.<br />
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