Articles Book I - Pg 66-180 (1977) - triadoption

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by Rita Rooney
copla nk Wl maw up mv mim Md a maaims In lvly 1976 to dlfor
adopllm Serrnlm *can th & d ih. Wrth mlhn md lh
ago. Ihen llltls choice for r#rWs mpmlbllly toward hr.
a preyant tmug*r. I'm mno
T h L a hsrln Cwnh [kpnnunt
lo bellm It was th right thlns lo do. of Adwmv Is on0 of MY agmdn
I only with I had bem rllmed lo dad now pmnfin~ sroup mslons for blnh
with It motiarully. Imtnd, m w a molhen Gwp leadst Idilh hdlrr
told me to put th nporlmcs behind rmptuum 7h mothen am nat
me. Out d klndnns. mv prmu nrrrr mtms (Ix h pu-of pttlng Mp ulkd wilh me about IL'And JI tho In bun- pld chlldm. Thq arc*
urns I necdcd dapmlrCl lo Ulkr the I-liy of dlnqulhmmr
pat^ O'Canan. a Mldrmtm wife thlhrr. dr youp dm lhrm an wlln
I., pnlQ detlel.''
with hr prt, but on& ail., mn of
unrndvcd fecllng hut hr win PIychohgiul amputation
drughlm She Isonsda ym(nsnum- Whit n unu of ih.i. rml.Ual Pamy IYGonnrn &I wt lo pma h.h of lur IUbml IdunIlon fa Adoptin
bn of blnh 10, lulunn p ~ mNH u Or. Arch Som~ky, a Unknly of 011. 41. "I had to ha I m M ra, Familk), a hllnncdiburd otynl.
jdnlng 10- lo right A mplh Imm lomla at La Andn mhl.lrlrl nfrn . thins" he uw *I nnl lo CWcw ud muon that addraur id1 lo adoplm.
of lha natural wthn md help nmen to the limr up d a chlld u PI)- 801 I lob. I mlhd brd, bah Il adoptkr p#mu md. fw th mat plt
rho may slill bo clwtd with their ch0losk.l Impuuuon. Somtky, uha job and at nylnlng IUM ulf-wprcl. Mnh moth ucnL
has a m.l&pub- 11 wr yean before I M& IL And Ihr, Awlhe, gmup, n* M0pUOtl FON~
lhc Dcpnmml d Hullh. Eduutlon ll~hd W on rdoptlon, ua m w wen lonely wid^ m m I rmld d Phlladdphla. wu lormed to promar
and Wdfmdr Chlldm's Burru oll- btnh mohrn In hll prlvau pnnla nrlly -(ids In"
mmmunluuon .mng tnditlaul a&
mrtn them am S mlllbn rdoptd per- He Dbvrm lbl molt don't mtrr PI)- It wun'l until s h ru 18 thx hw -ria "Uz." m d lu kadso. uh
MI in the Unltd Suur lhmrcclcrlly, chothcni.r butM the* yn up a ~d.d Sha WU U) blCD.N th~hrnunb.mdhddbruuxhn
Iharr 5 mllllonwwnmuha hawplmd child. l k hm managed m 4 tht pnyant ayln and dd gulls mmd adoptkc pma d d not undrntrnd
chlldnn for doptlm Pmfoliwls In npn- hm th wbcdan llu~ Was Ih. bclng punhhedl Shdd r h h r lnrdmL
the fidd haw 1- bm adrmrnt In It dlm dm as tho kq m lhdr in haw held out .@nu rrrnmtlonl Mwl fight horUUty
"pmlmln~ Ih. Mnh mother. Now the abilly to mp.
WhnswnhrMmmwlWIhq
molhon an Nng lhq don'l -1 pro- Sm4hbwfof New Imqup t h ~ fwnd a pod home1 5tm cbmn, il a inmen&
trctlon. Wh.1 they & want Is deals In hn au pmsum started bulldins "11 I- rtnnje, but I &dm mn amwnt of hat(lih drcctd to worn from the burdm dpllt Ihqum.And Immrdui.Cy &her th Mnh of hf ' ~NH If Ihq mn toQlhn. Ho one uha sh up b&)a for adopllon. Uh
Ihr, wml their chlldm to bow thq drvghla h 19%. It wl th fad lhm ' Idd mo I hd ddtt m tht Wamr fomtutrly, much d It mmn f m
urn.
for hegh rdml drlr lo belong lo dubs. tlon. I only know imld hm rr, pan adopdn &mu lrhoam bllnded 10 dr
Hush& don't know 5mdy f d het nnt opn njmtm In lhdr lk. I vu SUM m toqrl blnh molhtl urntire. Mat d c
whm rh rmrrned lo vhod and got a .IIaboul lhn" lPmy hr $Inn kmwd rdopl r &,Id bruvu ltwlrn Inlcndr
In many pm d lhc cwnlry, a+ lenrr frm h.r dub pmldmt dm-4 hotwimarotognhr.ud~hamt. In dupmllon lo, h chlld lhcl *MI
tlon rgmcln haw bosun lo rymd to In8 *w blmt her manknhlp otd.
1.n m I.=,. krnt in ih. a- FJ.. oh m much. thw oltm 1111 lo undcnwd
Iha ~ n& -~-. of -. banh - ~.~~ arnntr Th. Chsl. "I k*d caltr thar I1 I wanted to
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dm's Horn Soclm of Min-u was lurvhr. I hid to kean . &v .. ml h1dd.n.
one of lho nnt to bm pat-adop~~on As r mwk I llvcd for wan In a ucm , "&l:' member d rhs La haelm pRnt g k p I1 CUB ~Con~md
wunldlng. Man& Spmcer, dlrcctor wrld d v mn," ha reullr
Cwny grwp who wna to -In United Ulnhprmlll, I mllonal oaaniof
lh. plognm, rrpom that a mjody Sharm mnglOv7 of st. Paul. M~M. ~nonymws bvxa hn ldmbn -Id zrtion wllh orlglnl a lhs tall CMIL
01 the blnh moth- rho xck round- was 17 .t-?n rho pro Mnh to a un hum hcr rglng pamu rnua. 'fnv Uke la munlepm. CUO pmvldn np
ing ara lhov rrhD placed chlldrm Not und h was 4 months old -Id m applauds lh. dopcna pamu &11 dons lo, wmm rho faced ihr IOU
yeae befm~. Thq mns lor wwnnce ha ricn dmqul~hnunl papom
fwhawnaaldndrnd IwthbirLh of a chlld through adopurn. It Is
and dlrdm. Sent hw mm tdd "All r)ul lime. h. wu In a fmtn mollter rho ucdfld het mn (dl1181 I-kd In pwhlng lrddatlm leadins
lklr hu$bnds.A y.amnumlrrmfry homo,'rh qlrlm "I went tom hlm IO hmr hlld mlmht - hw a hmw fw a lo an crdunp of Information arms
rbout huhm to dl thdr chitdmn. ono day, nd I know I had no c h h beler llfo."
adoption agmclrr Nona al th youg
The sutras d t h Mlnnuota pm- but lo Ahmward, I mnt ham. ud Amnd the llms adoption pmfa- dn as~lstmcs lo m m xrrchlng for
srlm has pmmpted asmdn In 16 slrln marked b birthday in black on q liunals bcyn pmrodrns d i n s ch~ldrm. As I CUB leader ilplaim.
loask~n~pen&$ hlp ln ddopn# calmdu. . . My btgnnl pmblnn wn wrrlcn lot blnh rmh, nmm 7h.h whv . w dl . blnhturentas or*
r~m~lar ~ n l c On n a ru~tonrl lml. The (NIL It m r long toma belolo I l .mud lhmwlrn wen fonnlng u(fhdp
Chnidtm's Wdlrn L~ma of M,,o lo llurl .mwa ayln"
gmup, Pay O'GolMn is coloundcr
trndcd family, lib yandpamt. We
rn not tying I0 dace the adopllve
!nrnU''
Adoptlon leadm m united In their
bdlef lhrl It Is Umo for r rcvarvl In
rtlitudo tmrrd umed motherhood.
Shannon Maturnam, chief of fmlly
and communiy mien for IDnus.
poinu out lhcn hu been a subtle
lwilch fmm hunnlng a w n m~ a n
bcouw Jts geu pmrnt to shunnlng
hot because sha cham adoption for
her baby. She uw yrls lahy an lac-
Inn namous pmrun lmm lhdr peen
to keep lhdr brbin
Or. Sannty dainn the trend 01 teen.
rgen Leeping L U k might chmsa II
the molhcnwsr.rltomd la prtlripln
In apm rdoplims. He ctln numerous
om In which m v n d mother hn
staled sip would place 11cr child lor
rdoplbn 11 yuratm wrur't abwlula.
Il. akato plan ~ ~~orlng #he blnh
molho mrr,lonrl nriu and infomulion
about k b, lcrrlng her lussurd
she made the right decision.
Then at. -. ,nrlu#ling MarluU
Spmca. *ha tltlnk d en needs. n m
.doptlon lrnaursa. "11's wronl" ,It.
more M w thn !ha social carlrrn
w. call rmnugws m ~ of n d ~ v
Ins th bru fuNn for h., chrld."
Spmur Worn the uud t h word
"mntm" a1 !mII, suggullns it plant.
fear In ih. mid of adoptm prmu "The blah moh nmr komn pn
of the chJds family, w them it no n
unla Wm 4n ulkltlg abovl r mltns
be- &n *,~d Mnh mothot."
Dtttnrnt to &ughtm
Sh. ~~. '7h chrnsn In t h
rvallabml,y d btnh mntml and aboc
llon hid lrwro -1. lo R-eumlno
tho n4- rhl ih. blnh mother hu
brm m outua Y.n *so, pmu held
up, slrl rho 'pl In ih. Irmlll waf u
dunmu 10 J.u&tan who ml&ht
mako ah um m lrb Thrt Und d
wrd. We want IO be part of an n.
conlinutd
dslnmnt Is simply iwdld In odfls
YxI~N."
been a+rmmlng Iha lnmr mnflln that
follow nlinquihmmt. It tmk r pat
pat& O'tamun, who d m het marria-
has adopted four child- IVI
deal of painful lnlmpealm, but todw
Yvrm tIanln#ton nolonger mtb het
he only mlly bayn to Mk*. n hn
om xlf.mrth when rh adopt& her
flnl wn and tsrllzd th Iq rh had
ginn other parmU 4 hr &don
pn More. She~dds:
M'S blnhday In blrrt Instead, rh
lhlnb of hlm 15 he 11 tdy, not as rh
m dm. "tla wn 16 rrrrntly," urr
Sham. "I Itwwghl of him sslllns hh
flnt ddn