Stop Violence workbook 1 - Unesco
Stop Violence workbook 1 - Unesco
Stop Violence workbook 1 - Unesco
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Literacy and Life Skills <strong>workbook</strong> 2<br />
The Angry Iceberg<br />
Try this popular anger awareness exercise to identify external and internal<br />
triggers.<br />
Suggestion<br />
Draw an iceberg on a piece of paper. Your teacher will teach how to draw<br />
the iceberg: the smallest part is above sea level and the biggest part is<br />
below sea-level. Label the part above sea level ‘anger’<br />
Think about a situation in which you felt angry<br />
What were the external triggers? Write them above sea-level.<br />
What were the internal triggers? Write them below sea-level.<br />
hard for John, especially if he dislikes or<br />
envies Tom. It is no point just being simply<br />
ashamed of being envious but doing nothing<br />
about it. Envy in fact is a very common emotion,<br />
though some people suffer far more from<br />
envy than others. Some people use envy as a<br />
fuel to get themselves ahead. If you are simply<br />
suffering silently, or seeking revenge, then it is<br />
time to get help.<br />
Internal Triggers are what messages we give<br />
ourselves, the ‘self-talk’ that get us all worked<br />
up. Common ones are ‘why does this always<br />
have to happen to me’ or ‘as soon as I try, I fall<br />
down again’ or ‘the people I went to school are<br />
all better off than me, and look where I am? I<br />
am such a failure.’ See Chapter 6 in Help for<br />
Anxious People a book in this series, for help<br />
with dealing with feelings of failure.<br />
Three Ways to Deal with Anger<br />
1. AGGRESSIVE Anger is expressed either<br />
physically or emotionally to make sure<br />
that someone else is hurt.<br />
Behaviour choices: hitting, kicking,<br />
harassment, using put-downs, threats,<br />
murder<br />
Message to myself: I am going to take my<br />
anger out on someone else. I will blame<br />
them for my anger.<br />
2. PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE. Anger is bottled<br />
up inside.<br />
Behaviour Choice : Cold shoulder,<br />
revenge, and nasty rumours. Since the<br />
anger is bottled up, it can eventually blow<br />
up.<br />
Message to Myself: I am afraid to face the<br />
other person directly. Therefore I will try<br />
and use other ways to show my anger.<br />
3. ASSERTIVE<br />
Anger is expressed directly in nonthreatening<br />
ways that do not hurt:<br />
a) yourself<br />
b) another person<br />
c) someone’s property<br />
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