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<strong>HERLIFE</strong> MAGAZINE FEBRUARY 2012 <strong>HERLIFE</strong>NEWYORK.COM<br />

KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED<br />

Interview with<br />

AndrÉa Demirjian<br />

the kissing expert<br />

cutting<br />

&<br />

the<br />

apron strings<br />

UALbany’s<br />

weekend mba<br />

program<br />

Christy Lee<br />

H ughes Loving Life


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herlife | contents<br />

february 2012<br />

16<br />

welcome 6<br />

health 10<br />

spotlight 12<br />

beauty 14<br />

inspirations 16<br />

cravings 20<br />

recipes 22<br />

trendsetter 26<br />

mother’s perspective 32<br />

christy lee hughes<br />

After another show-stopping performance on the stage, three-year-old Christy Lee Hughes proved to herself<br />

that acting was not just a fun thing to do, but a genuine calling. Seriously? At age three? You bet! When<br />

you know in your heart what you were born to do, destiny has a funny way of plugging into your soul and<br />

leading you in the right direction, no matter what your age.<br />

home 34<br />

business spotlight 36<br />

working <strong>women</strong> 38<br />

spotlight 40<br />

tie the knot 42<br />

14<br />

22<br />

in the region 44<br />

scene and be seen 48<br />

WHY WEDDING DRESSES ARE WHITE<br />

Whether your wedding bells are echoes from the<br />

distant past, still pealing in your newlywed ears, or<br />

softly chiming in your future, one thing’s for sure—<br />

you will always remember your wedding as the day<br />

you embarked upon a lifetime of love—togetherness<br />

and occasional befuddlement about why your<br />

beloved spouse does the things he or she does.<br />

double chocolate raspberry cake<br />

Chef Dale L. Miller, CMC, WGMC, AAC, is the<br />

Executive Chef of Sperry’s Restaurant in Saratoga<br />

Springs, NY. One of only 66 Certified Master Chefs<br />

in the United States and less than 600 (WACS)<br />

Global Master Chefs in the world. He is a Fellow of<br />

The Culinary Institute of America and Chairman of<br />

the Alumni Board.<br />

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herlife | welcome<br />

It’s All About Hear t<br />

photo by kermit hayes<br />

for kermit hayes photography<br />

Never a truer statement is to be made. Welcome to the month of February.<br />

Traditionally a very cold month, it’s highlighted by a celebration of the<br />

history of great men who have lead our country, a day that represents and<br />

reminds us to acknowledge those we love, a month to honor great African-Americans<br />

in history, and the month to pay attention to our heart health.<br />

In this month’s issue of <strong>HERLIFE</strong>, you’ll get to know two amazing <strong>women</strong>—<br />

actor Christy Lee Hughes, originally from the Capital Region, who is pursuing her<br />

dream in Hollywood and is passionate about her craft; and Andréa Demirjian, a<br />

graduate of Skidmore College, a writer, radio personality and an incredibly interesting<br />

lady who shares with us the inside scoop on kissing. We also give you a detailed<br />

glimpse into the passion that drives the UAlbany Executive MBA program, ranked<br />

fourth in opportunities for <strong>women</strong> by The Princeton Review. And for all of us, but<br />

even more importantly because it is the number-one killer for <strong>women</strong>, we learn<br />

about what our local Chapter of the American Heart Association is doing to better<br />

educate <strong>women</strong> on heart health.<br />

My notes this month are dedicated to the many African-American <strong>women</strong><br />

in history who have overcome great obstacles to make a positive impact. A true<br />

standout for me was Isabella Baumfree, born into slavery in New York’s Hudson<br />

Valley, who after receiving her freedom changed her name to Sojourner Truth. She<br />

dedicated her life to the anti-slavery movement and dictated her memoir, The Narrative<br />

of Sojourner Truth: A Northern Slave. She was a mother who experienced her<br />

son being sold illegally and escaped because she did not want her daughter to realize<br />

the same fate. She courageously went to court and won custody of her son, hence<br />

making history. She gave speeches all across New York State and the Northeast.<br />

She endeavored not only to advocate for abolition, but also for <strong>women</strong>’s equality. As<br />

a freed slave, she fought two battles—first to not be discriminated against because of the color of her skin, and secondly to not be discriminated<br />

against because she was a woman.<br />

She was courageous enough to stand and advocate for both sets of rights, delivering her well- received, now famous “Ain’t I a Woman?”<br />

speech in 1851 at a <strong>women</strong>’s convention in Akron, Ohio.<br />

Sojourner Truth had heart. She was courageous, passionate and determined. It is on her shoulders and those of many other great <strong>women</strong> in<br />

history that I stand, and am extremely grateful. May we continue to pursue our passions with all of our heart and from <strong>HERLIFE</strong>, endeavor to<br />

Keep Women Connected.<br />

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herlife | health<br />

How To Identify and Combat Household<br />

Mold and Mildew<br />

by candi smith<br />

Have you ever walked into someone’s home and immediately recognized a dank smell<br />

similar to one you find in antique shop, reminiscent of things that have been hidden<br />

away in attics and basements for a very long time? Well, believe it or not, fungus growing<br />

in one’s home has nothing to do the length of time it’s been there. It’s all about moisture<br />

and the circumstances that allow mold and mildew to grow, often in a relatively short amount of<br />

time.<br />

First off, it’s helpful to know the differences between mold and mildew. Mold is a fungus<br />

that grows in a form that looks like filaments. It is usually fuzzy in appearance, and varies in<br />

color from orange, green, black, brown, pink or purple. Mildew is actually a form of mold<br />

which grows flatly and is usually downy or powdery. Downy mildew starts out yellow in color,<br />

and then eventually fades to brown. Powdery mildew starts whitish in color, then becomes yellowish<br />

brown, and eventually turns black.<br />

Mold has been proven to cause health problems such as allergic reactions and respiratory<br />

problems due to the toxins it releases. Mold derives its energy from food and other organic<br />

products, and its spores are released into the air. It’s hardy and virulent, and able to survive in<br />

extreme conditions. By the time a person smells a musty odor and is able to see the mold, it’s<br />

already cultivated into colonies with its spores.<br />

Mildew usually causes more harm to<br />

plants and crops than humans, but it’s been<br />

proven that the inhalation of mildew causes<br />

headaches, lung problems, coughing and a<br />

scratchy throat. It can grow just about anywhere<br />

that moisture content is high such as<br />

clothing, leather, shower curtains, paper and<br />

window sills.<br />

By the time a person<br />

smells a musty odor<br />

and is able to see<br />

the mold, it’s already<br />

cultivated into colonies<br />

with its spores.<br />

Both mold and mildew are the result of moisture,<br />

so it’s important to keep your home dry<br />

and moisture-free. This can be accomplished<br />

by using a dehumidifier, removing perishable<br />

foods within three to four days, or by purchasing<br />

mildew removers at a hardware store.<br />

Areas in the home that are prone to collect<br />

moisture are those where plants are grown,<br />

basements and cold areas which harbor<br />

condensation.<br />

According to the Centers for Disease Con-<br />

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trol, individuals who are prone to allergies, who have asthma or other<br />

respiratory illnesses, or those with compromised autoimmune systems<br />

should avoid outdoor areas such as compost piles, grass cuttings and<br />

wooded areas. Indoors, they should keep their home’s humidity levels<br />

between 40 and 60 percent, and ensure that showers and cooking<br />

Both mold and mildew are<br />

the result of moisture, so it’s<br />

important to keep your home<br />

dry and moisture-free.<br />

areas are well-ventilated. If you find mold growth in your home, the<br />

source of the water problem should be fixed and the mold removed<br />

with a bleach solution of one cup of bleach per one gallon of water.<br />

Ensure that you open doors and windows to provide fresh air while<br />

cleaning, wear non-porous gloves and protective eyewear, and don’t<br />

mix the bleach solution with any other type of cleaner.<br />

Further recommendations for preventing and reducing the<br />

chance of mold in your home include using your air conditioner<br />

during humid months; cleaning bathrooms with mold-killing<br />

products; adding mold inhibitors to paint before applying; ensuring<br />

you have proper exhaust fans and ventilation; not installing carpet<br />

in bathrooms and basements; and removing or replacing previously<br />

water-soaked carpets and upholstery.<br />

Finally, the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency emphasizes<br />

that since there are literally thousands of types of mold spores, there<br />

is no way to prevent getting them in your home. However, what<br />

you can do is control moisture so that the spores don’t grow into<br />

colonies. It’s important to dry water-damaged areas and items within<br />

48 hours to prevent mold growth. If you find that absorbent materials<br />

such as ceiling tiles or flooring have been soaked by moisture,<br />

replace those items immediately. Prevent condensation in your<br />

home (often found on pipes, exterior walls, floors and roofs) by adding<br />

extra insulation.<br />

And be aware of the many things you can do to control moisture<br />

inside your home. These include taking shorter showers to reduce<br />

steam; always using your exhaust fan when cooking; landscaping to<br />

ensure that water runs away from your home; cleaning your gutters<br />

to prevent seepage in your basement; ventilate crawlspaces while at<br />

the same time covering any dirt to prevent water coming in from the<br />

ground; vent your clothes dryer to the outside; use area rugs (which<br />

can be washed often) versus carpeting when possible to avoid mold<br />

growth where it can’t be detected; caulk windows and install storm<br />

windows to raise the temperature of cold surfaces where moisture<br />

condenses; and, increase air circulation by the use of ceiling fans<br />

and moving your furniture away from wall corners. ■<br />

Sources used in this article include: diffen.com, cdc.gov and<br />

epa.gov.<br />

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herlife | spotlight<br />

Go Red<br />

For<br />

Women<br />

Sulagna (Suzie)<br />

Mookherjee, M.D.,<br />

cardiologist at Albany<br />

Medical Center and<br />

a member of the<br />

American Heart<br />

Association Capital<br />

Region Advisor y Board.<br />

by ann e. butenas<br />

It’s the number one killer of both <strong>women</strong> and men. In fact, it kills<br />

more <strong>women</strong> than the next five leading causes of death combined<br />

each year, yet it is something so many <strong>women</strong> never imagine could<br />

ever affect them. After all, isn’t heart disease most likely to viciously<br />

and unexpectedly attack older, overweight males who suffer in agony<br />

as they clutch their chests in pain before hitting the floor? While most<br />

certainly that scenario can play out, the fact of the matter is that heart<br />

disease is not often the loud and obvious predator we think it is, and<br />

when it decides to prey on <strong>women</strong>, its approach is frequently vague<br />

and nondescript.<br />

Dr. Suzie Mookherjee, Cardiologist and Board Member for the<br />

local American Heart Association (AHA) chapter in Albany, is very<br />

dedicated to the topic of heart health and stresses the importance of<br />

knowing the warning signs of heart disease, which are frequently, and<br />

sometimes unfortunately, overlooked or ignored, especially by <strong>women</strong>.<br />

“You don’t want your first warning to be your last,” she said. “I am<br />

big on the preventative side of heart disease, and I encourage annual<br />

physicals so you know your number for blood pressure, cholesterol,<br />

weight and if you are diabetic, your numbers there as well. Diabetes is<br />

not a friend of the heart.”<br />

While Dr. Mookherjee notes we cannot always control the genetic<br />

end of the spectrum, there are modifiable risk factors we can address.<br />

“One of the biggest enemies to the heart is smoking,” she commented.<br />

“Just by ceasing that habit, you can greatly improve the health of your<br />

heart. We cannot control the genes we were born with, but there are<br />

other factors in addition to not smoking that we can control either by diet<br />

and exercise and/or by the use of medications: blood pressure, weight,<br />

cholesterol levels and diabetes. The goal is prevention.”<br />

Among the most common symptoms of heart disease in <strong>women</strong><br />

are muscle pain in the back, neck, shoulder or arms; generalized<br />

fatigue; restlessness; unexplained shortness of breath; radiating pain<br />

into the teeth and jaw; nausea, vomiting and just an overall feeling that<br />

something isn’t quite right. “If we learn to recognize these symptoms,<br />

we can empower ourselves,” Dr. Mookherjee expressed. “It’s important<br />

to arm ourselves with the right information and make any necessary<br />

changes in our lifestyle, because the good news is that we can prevent<br />

this insidious killer.”<br />

As we waltz into Heart Health Month this February, the AHA is<br />

on the front lines, raising awareness of heart health while celebrating<br />

the power of <strong>women</strong> to come together to fight this disease. Katherine<br />

McCarthy, Senior Regional Director of Communications for the<br />

AHA in Albany, is excited to celebrate this month with a host of<br />

opportunities to raise awareness and funds to sustain continued<br />

research to fight heart disease.<br />

“The first Friday in February is designated as National Wear<br />

Red Day. On Friday, February 3, more than 500 work sites across the<br />

Capital Region will celebrate in this special day by wearing red and<br />

drawing attention to the need for <strong>women</strong> to become more aware of<br />

their own heart health, ” Katherine said. “ We have some amazing<br />

local supporters of this special day, including SEFCU, CDPHP and<br />

MVP. The Palace Theater illuminates its front in red each year, and<br />

last year SEFCU, CDPHP, First Niagara, WMHT and Realty USA all<br />

lit their buildings red on National Wear Red Day.”<br />

It’s not just that first Friday in February that will promote <strong>women</strong>’s<br />

heart health. Go Red for Women is a year-round campaign that<br />

works tirelessly to actively promote heart health issues for <strong>women</strong>.<br />

For example, Go Red for Women has already enrolled well over one<br />

million <strong>women</strong> who are committed to taking better care of themselves.<br />

The hallmark of this initiative is its annual Go Red for Women<br />

Luncheon, to be held this year on May 24 at the Albany Marriott,<br />

where guests will enjoy a variety of seminars and speakers dedicated to<br />

heart health issues.<br />

“This year’s co-chairs are Denise Gonick, the Chief Executive Vice<br />

President of Administrative Services and the Chief Legal Officer of MVP<br />

Health Care, and Lynne Oliker of the YMCA,” said Katherine. “We<br />

anticipate about 500 attendees and the money raised through this event<br />

will go towards funding further research. In the Capital Region alone,<br />

we are currently funding $1.2 million in research.”<br />

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Katherine elaborated, “We also have a local group called the<br />

Circle of Red which consists of about 50 <strong>women</strong> who support this<br />

cause at a high level. They are committed to heart health with this<br />

significant financial contribution and by meeting with the other<br />

members on a monthly basis for an exciting group activity, having fun<br />

and empowering each other. On the night before National Wear Red<br />

Day the Circle of Red will attend–all dressed in red–a production of<br />

The Sisters Rosensweig at Capital Repertory Theater.”<br />

As research efforts continue, the AHA is moving towards its 20/20<br />

goal, which is focused on reducing death and disability by 20 percent<br />

while increasing health by 20 percent by the year 2020. “It’s all about<br />

prevention,” stated Katherine. ■<br />

For more information on the local AHA chapter, heart health and<br />

Go Red for Women, visit heart.org or GoRedForWomen.org. You may<br />

also contact Katherine directly at 518-869-4049.<br />

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herlife | beauty<br />

Goin’ to the Chapel of Love,<br />

Potential Danger and<br />

Flying Bouquets:<br />

Why Wedding<br />

Dresses Are<br />

White and Other<br />

Wedding Traditions<br />

by chandra blackwell<br />

Whether your wedding bells are<br />

echoes from the distant past,<br />

still pealing in your newlywed<br />

ears, or softly chiming in your future, one<br />

thing’s for sure—you will always remember<br />

your wedding as the day you embarked upon a<br />

lifetime of love—togetherness and occasional<br />

befuddlement about why your beloved spouse<br />

does the things he or she does. But did you<br />

ever stop to wonder why we do the things we<br />

do at the wedding itself? How certain wedding<br />

traditions came about? Some of the answers<br />

may surprise you, but most of these traditions–<br />

just like love itself–have stood the test of time:<br />

All Dressed in White<br />

Prior to the mid-19th century, a bride’s<br />

attire was simply the best clothing she owned,<br />

in any color. Whereas today, the “layered<br />

look” isn’t something we normally associate<br />

with a wedding, a bride in those days often<br />

piled on layers of fur, silk and velvet, in order<br />

to convince her husband-to-be that she came<br />

from a well-to-do family. Then in 1840, Eng-<br />

land’s Queen Victoria stepped out in a white<br />

gown trimmed with orange blossoms for her<br />

wedding to Prince Albert, thereby becoming<br />

well-known not only for representing an era of<br />

emphasis on morals, modesty and decorum,<br />

but also for influencing the fashion choices of<br />

brides for centuries to come. From that point<br />

on, ivory-clad brides abounded, and white<br />

became the color of choice for weddings (and,<br />

ultimately, P. Diddy parties) the world over.<br />

Something Old,<br />

Something New<br />

Queen Victoria’s influence on weddings<br />

didn’t stop at the dress, however; the Victorian<br />

era also spawned the famous (and poetic)<br />

tradition whereby a bride wears certain items<br />

which, combined, are said to bring good luck.<br />

The “something old” forever links the bride<br />

to her past and to her family (even oddball<br />

Cousin Eddie, who took to wearing smoking<br />

jackets in fifth grade), while the “something<br />

new” represents a new life with a new family<br />

(weirdos included, but hopefully only<br />

encountered on Thanksgiving). The borrowed<br />

item, if loaned by an already-happily-married<br />

wife, is said to grant a bit of good marriage<br />

mojo to the new bride. The color blue represents<br />

a host of qualities ideal for a successful<br />

marriage, like faithfulness and loyalty—but<br />

also, by coincidence, matches the color of the<br />

The borrowed item, if<br />

loaned by an alreadyhappily-married<br />

wife,<br />

is said to grant a bit of<br />

good marriage mojo<br />

to the new bride.<br />

ocean, which represents an ideal honeymoon<br />

spot. And finally, the penny (originally a sixpence)<br />

in the bride’s shoe is, of course, said to<br />

bring the newlyweds good fortune—and thus<br />

the means to finance that ocean view.<br />

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Groomsmen and<br />

Bridesmaids<br />

Today, the men and <strong>women</strong> granted the honor of standing up<br />

next to the bride and groom on the blessed day take on a great deal<br />

of responsibility: hosting showers and throwing bachelor(ette) parties,<br />

delivering heartfelt and crowd-pleasing toasts at the reception, and<br />

flying to the rescue in the event of an 11th--hour wardrobe malfunction.<br />

Originally, however, the guy who served as a groom’s Best Man<br />

was also required to be a partner in crime—literally (and not just in a<br />

“What Happens in Vegas” sort of way). Back in the days when it was<br />

more common for a groom to take a bride by force than to smile and<br />

sweat his way through an uncomfortable dinner in an attempt to win<br />

the favor of her parents, the Best Man’s role was to assist the groom in<br />

kidnapping his bride. In this scenario, then, the “best” part of the Best<br />

Man title was more about his superior skills with weapons than it was<br />

about lifelong friendship or willingness to help the groom build a new<br />

backyard deck.<br />

Similarly, the <strong>women</strong> chosen by the bride to be her wedding attendants<br />

were required more for physical protection than for moral and<br />

emotional support. Whereas these days a bridesmaid’s dress for the special<br />

day generally morphs her into a clone of her fellow bridesmaids, its<br />

original purpose was to morph her (along with the other bridesmaids)<br />

into a clone of the bride. That way, any evil spirits or jealous former<br />

suitors would have a hard time distinguishing the bride from the other<br />

ladies, thereby failing at any plans to kidnap or hurl stones at her.<br />

Bouquet and Garter Toss<br />

In ancient times—even before brides started wearing rhyming<br />

items as good luck wedding day talismans—a bride was considered<br />

especially lucky on her wedding day. So lucky, in fact, that wedding<br />

guests would tear off parts of her dress as good luck talismans for themselves.<br />

Generally, a bride did not plan to wear her wedding dress again,<br />

anyway (although unlike today’s brides, she did not have the option to<br />

have it hermetically sealed and preserved for eternity). However, as you<br />

can imagine, it was still moderately unpleasant to have it ripped bit by<br />

bit from her body by wedding guests. As an alternative, then, the bride<br />

began throwing personal articles—such as her bouquet and garter—to<br />

the crowd in order to appease luck-grubbing guests and keep her attire<br />

intact. (And to think that these days, we consider it rude when a wedding<br />

guest fails to RSVP on time!)<br />

So it seems that a good number of well-known wedding traditions<br />

sprung from the fact that what we now know as a blessed occasion<br />

used to be pretty dangerous business! Luckily, we don’t seem to have<br />

those issues now—the most dangerous element of most weddings is the<br />

potential for an injury involving high heels and a conga line—but still,<br />

it never hurts to honor tradition and possibly earn Fortune’s favor in<br />

the process. ■<br />

Sources: aomdj.com, yourwedding101.com, wedding.theknot.com,<br />

articles.cnn.com, pibweddings.com and brideandgroom.com.<br />

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herlife | inspirations<br />

“I want people to know that<br />

it’s never too late to pursue<br />

your dreams. You can be<br />

whatever your heart desires<br />

if you set your intention and<br />

believe in yourself. I truly<br />

feel that the only things in<br />

life we regret are the things<br />

we do not do.”<br />

by ann e. butenas<br />

photography by jill richardson<br />

for jill richardson photography<br />

hair and makeup by jennifer mccarthy norton<br />

for true grace makeup<br />

wardrobe by new 2 you, upscale,<br />

resale & more latham, ny new2youny.com<br />

stylist nichole k. rigolosi<br />

for style by nichole kristen<br />

jewelry by connelly’s diamond gallery,<br />

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C hristy L ee<br />

Hughes<br />

After another show-stopping performance on the stage, threeyear-old<br />

Christy Lee Hughes proved to herself that acting was<br />

not just a fun thing to do, but a genuine calling. Seriously? At<br />

age three? You bet! When you know in your heart what you were born<br />

to do, destiny has a funny way of plugging into your soul and leading<br />

you in the right direction, no matter what your age.<br />

All grown up, professional actor Christy Lee Hughes, Albany native<br />

and now Hollywood resident, recalled that special time in her life,<br />

before she could even read. She pointed to a picture of the “Hollywood”<br />

sign and her mom asked her if she knew what it was. Despite her tender<br />

young age, Christy replied with all of the bravado and confidence of an<br />

experienced adult, “I don’t know, but that’s where I’m going to go!”<br />

While her mom embraced Christy’s obvious enthusiasm with<br />

all of the motherly love required at the time, she didn’t necessarily<br />

contemplate the depth of Christy’s proclamation. It wasn’t until<br />

years later when Christy’s talent, ambition, drive and trust in herself<br />

proved to her mom that the bold statement of a preschooler was less<br />

a misguided fantasy and more of a glimpse into a wildly spectacular<br />

future full of possibilities! When Christy sets her mind on something,<br />

look out! She definitely knows how to make dreams come true and<br />

former visions a reality!<br />

Of course, Christy knew when she was just a little girl that being<br />

an actor was not something just for her; it would be her gift to the<br />

world. “My first play was a Christmas play,” she recalled. “I was on<br />

stage with all of the other little kids and was the only one who knew<br />

everyone’s lines. I was whispering them into the ears of the other kids<br />

who forgot them.”<br />

Ever since she can remember, Christy has been fascinated with<br />

Hollywood and instinctively knew it was where she was supposed to be.<br />

Even when many people strongly suggested that Christy should just<br />

pursue a college degree and enjoy a “regular” life, Christy held fast to<br />

her performance ambitions and was actively involved in the community<br />

theater and was also a cheerleader in school. She has always loved an<br />

audience and never met a stage she didn’t like.<br />

Despite her inner calling to find her way in Hollywood,<br />

Christy first made sure to pursue her academic career, initially at<br />

Schenectady Community College, earning an Associate’s degree in<br />

paralegal studies and eventually receiving her Bachelor of Arts degree<br />

in Communications from SUNY-Albany. At one point, she even<br />

contemplated the rigors of law school, but her sincere desire to fulfill her<br />

dreams of acting quickly dissolved those ambitions.<br />

When she finally made her way out to Southern California in her<br />

early 20s, it was as if she had truly come home. “While it would have<br />

been much easier to take that proverbial nine-to-five job, that never felt<br />

right to me,” she noted. “When I came to California, however, I felt as<br />

if I had aligned myself with my true purpose. To me, the performance<br />

is all about making others feel good. I love the fact that through my<br />

performances, I can somehow help people.”<br />

This award-winning actress is a member of SAG, AFTRA and AEA.<br />

She is not only an accomplished and gifted actor, but holds her own as<br />

a comedienne, producer and writer. She honed her comedic skills with<br />

the Upright Citizens Brigade in Manhattan and with Lesly Kahn in<br />

Hollywood. She is currently with The Groundlings.<br />

Christy obtained her start in the business over ten years ago at<br />

Upstate Independents (UI), a non-profit organization consisting of<br />

media artists based in the Capital Region. “It is a wonderful resource for<br />

anyone interested in the entertainment industry,” she noted. “I learned<br />

a lot of valuable information and met some close friends through my<br />

association with UI. After serving on the board as the Secretary, I was<br />

then named its Vice-President. Kevin Craig West, a colleague and good<br />

friend is the current President.”<br />

Some of the highlights that comprise her extensive and impressive<br />

list of credits include earning the Critic’s Choice Award for Best Actress<br />

for her role as Anna in Amerikan Partizan at the Edwood Film Festival<br />

in New York in 2007. She also enjoyed the lead role in Thoreauly<br />

Lost at The Lake Placid Film Festival in 2008, which garnered her<br />

the Audience Choice Award. From there, she played the supporting<br />

role of Janice opposite Academy Award-winning actress Melissa Leo<br />

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of The Fighter fame in the film Predisposed, which was accepted to the<br />

Sundance Film Festival in 2009. Christy was also the principal role in<br />

the National IBM commercial, What Makes YOU Special and played<br />

opposite Thora Birch in the film, Winter of Frozen Dreams.<br />

Not one to rest on her laurels, Christy also wowed audiences as the<br />

lead role of Beauty in the national tour of Beauty & the Beast in 2006, an<br />

unforgettable experience for her and one she will never forget.<br />

By 2010, Christy showed audiences that she had what it took as<br />

an actor on a much deeper level in her profoundly moving role of a<br />

distressed mother in the emotional drama short, The Boy Who Became<br />

King. Through that role, she became associated with director Trudy<br />

Sargent and with Alyson Fouse of Scary Movie 2 and Bring it On fame,<br />

and is now producing with them a psychological thriller with comedic<br />

elements called Summerland, currently in pre-production.<br />

Also on deck for 2012 is What’s Hot with Christy Lee, her own<br />

talk show through Loyal Studios in Burbank about which she is very<br />

excited. Her natural approachability readily led to this appointment, as<br />

she met Bob Bekian, owner of Loyal Studios, on the red carpet through<br />

their mutual friend, Gordon Vasquez, owner of Real TV Films. Gordon<br />

had hired Christy as a host for Real TV Films, and once Bob saw her<br />

work, he enthusiastically extended the offer to Christy to host her<br />

own show. “We will cover all types of topics in this weekly show, “she<br />

enthusiastically noted. “It’s going to be so much fun.”<br />

Despite her obvious success, which still continues to knock on her<br />

door, Christy remains humble and down-to-earth. “I’ve been blessed, but<br />

I will always push myself to do more. I love what I do,” she said, before<br />

adding, “And my mom is my biggest fan. While she is always proud<br />

of my accomplishments, she is never surprised by them. I believe that<br />

if you do what you are supposed to do, remain grateful in the process<br />

and always do things with an attitude of service towards others, you’ll<br />

accomplish whatever you set your mind to. It won’t always be easy, but it<br />

will be worth it.”<br />

When not giving it her all in front of the cameras or on the stage,<br />

Christy loves to spend her free time hiking, running, playing with her<br />

adorable three-year-old Yorkie, Baxter, and just hanging out at the beach.<br />

She even enjoys being part of an adult kickball league. “I am far from<br />

high-maintenance,” she laughed. “I enjoy the simple things that don’t<br />

cost any money.” Sure, she’d love to travel the world one day, but right<br />

now, her focus is on her work.<br />

Even though she feels right at home in Hollywood, she still misses<br />

her roots in New York, especially when it comes to the people here.<br />

Christy has deep admiration for the genuine nature of the people of the<br />

Capital Region, a quality she confesses can sometimes be rather elusive<br />

in Hollywood. As one who was born and raised here, she appreciates the<br />

lifelong friendships she has developed along the way. “I tend to gravitate<br />

towards good people, and, sometimes in Los Angeles, friendships are not<br />

always as sincere as they might seem to be. I have come to appreciate the<br />

authenticity, values, integrity and loyalty of the people in my hometown.<br />

They showed me what a good person truly is,” she reflected.<br />

One local favorite whom Christy admires is Benita Zahn, anchor<br />

for WNYT. “Benita is not only beautiful outside, but inside as well,”<br />

expressed Christy. “She is intelligent, talented, successful and totally<br />

down-to-earth. I have watched her since I was a small child. Now she is<br />

singing and doing comedy and theater and I am so excited for her. She is<br />

such an inspiration.”<br />

Christy’s greatest fan, her mom, is also a dynamic inspiration for her.<br />

“She raised two kids from a very young age, and while we may<br />

have had our differences over the years, I have come to learn that she is<br />

a survivor who graciously taught me the core values of honesty, loyalty,<br />

love and forgiveness,” Christy reflected and then smiled, “You want my<br />

mother on your team. Otherwise, you’ll lose the game.”<br />

Before the conversation ends, Christy’s undeniable enthusiasm<br />

for life reminded her to tell me the story of when she went sky diving in<br />

Kauai awhile back. “That was the most exciting two minutes of my life,”<br />

she beamed. “I have never been happier in those two minutes.”<br />

By all accounts, it seems the rush associated with sky diving will<br />

carry over into her career, and I have reason to believe that her life will<br />

be the happiest ever. Even jumping out of a perfectly good airplane<br />

above a gorgeous landscape below can’t trump what’s ahead for this<br />

promising actor.<br />

“I want people to know that it’s never too late to pursue your dreams.<br />

You can be whatever your heart desires if you set your intention and<br />

believe in yourself. I truly feel that the only things in life we regret are the<br />

things we do not do,” Christy emphasized. Here’s to a life of no regrets! ■<br />

For more information, visit Christy at christyleehughes.com.<br />

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herlife | cravings<br />

by joanne dimarco | photography by molly sittner<br />

For most <strong>women</strong>, the four Cs of diamonds are important, but so<br />

are the four Cs of dining—Chocolate, Cheese, Chardonnay and<br />

Caffeine. For me, the perfect meal includes fantastic cheese,<br />

followed by a little something sweet. An evening meal is accompanied<br />

by a good glass of wine, while breakfast or lunch includes the perfect<br />

cup of tea!<br />

We were off to a great start at The Epicurean Bistro & Wine Bar<br />

in Latham Farms. I enjoyed the best cheese platter I have ever had—<br />

bar none. Our server offered us a selection of eight cheeses. Each one<br />

was unique and tempting, but we settled on a Cantalet, a cheddar-like<br />

cow’s milk cheese, the Barely Buzzed, a cow’s milk cheese rubbed<br />

with espresso and lavender, and the Ossau-Iraty, an aged sheep’s milk<br />

cheese with a fabulous nutty flavor. We paired the cheese platter with<br />

a Clos la Coutale Cahors Malbec, and we never wanted the cheese<br />

course to end.<br />

Fortunately, the Salade Waldorf, an endive salad with blue<br />

cheese, apples and walnuts, finished with shallot vinaigrette, was<br />

equally delicious. It was fresh, with an interesting blend of flavors.<br />

The only challenge was to not fill up on salad in anticipation of my<br />

entrée. Thankfully I was able to show some restraint! My Porc aux<br />

Échalotes Confites, also known as Pork Ribeye, was unbelievable.<br />

The Ribeye is a cut of meat taken from next to the loin that has a bit<br />

more marbling, and that had melt in your mouth flavor. It was topped<br />

with a caramelized shallot confit that had me savoring every bite. I<br />

tasted a forkful of the garlic mashed potatoes and they were tasty, but<br />

the vegetables were truly the star side dish. There was one perfectly<br />

cut piece each of broccoli, cauliflower, zucchini, squash, red pepper<br />

and mushroom, each cooked to perfection so the unique flavors were<br />

able to burst through. My companion chose an Acorn Squash Risotto<br />

and since there were two sizes available, she chose the larger one. In<br />

hindsight, the smaller portion would have been more than enough. It<br />

was creamy and delicious with a layer of acorn squash at the bottom.<br />

For dessert we were in for a real treat. Of course, I had to try the<br />

Crème Brûlée, but we also opted for a Key Lime Pie. The Crème<br />

Brûlée was executed perfectly, but oh my goodness, the Key Lime Pie<br />

was to die for. The only way I can describe the sensation is that when I<br />

took a bite, my whole mouth burst with flavor. By the second bite, my<br />

mouth was literally watering in anticipation.<br />

The Epicurean Bistro & Wine Bar, in<br />

addition to offering wonderful French<br />

cuisine, also has an extensive cheese<br />

case for retail purchase with a selection<br />

that rivals and even surpasses many of<br />

the area’s gourmet markets.<br />

The Epicurean Bistro & Wine Bar, in addition to offering<br />

wonderful French cuisine, also has an extensive cheese case for<br />

retail purchase with a selection that rivals and even surpasses many<br />

of the area’s gourmet markets. If you’re interested in becoming more<br />

educated in French food and wine, they also offer a “French Passport”<br />

where each month, a different region of France is featured both in<br />

the cuisine and the wine. This was my first time having dinner at the<br />

bistro, although I’d been there for lunch, and to meet friends for a glass<br />

of wine and appetizers. Latham is a great central meeting location<br />

and I’m happy to see The Epicurean Bistro & Wine Bar surviving and<br />

thriving there! ■<br />

Visit The Epicurean Bistro & Wine Bar at Latham Farms<br />

Shopping Center, 579 Troy-Schenectady Road in Latham, contact them<br />

at 518-786-8272 or check out their website at epicurean-ny.com.<br />

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Joanne DiMarco is a<br />

woman about town,<br />

professional networker<br />

and Vice President for<br />

Marketing and Talent<br />

Acquisition for Select<br />

Sotheby’s International<br />

Realty. She travels all<br />

over New York State<br />

and has a passion<br />

for the food and<br />

entertainment the<br />

region has to offer.<br />

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herlife | recipes<br />

Double Chocolate Raspberry Sweetheart Cake<br />

Makes 10 to 12 Small Heart-Shaped Cakes<br />

or (2) 8” Heart Cake Layers<br />

Ingredients:<br />

2 cups flour<br />

2 cups sugar<br />

1 cup baking cocoa<br />

2 teaspoons baking soda<br />

2 eggs<br />

1 cup vegetable oil<br />

2 cups water<br />

1 teaspoon vanilla<br />

Raspberry preserves, as needed<br />

Fresh berries and whipped cream, as needed<br />

recipes by<br />

chef dale miller, cmc, wgmc, aac,<br />

executive chef, sperry ’s restaurant<br />

photo by<br />

jill richardson<br />

1. Place all dry ingredients in a bowl.<br />

2. Mix eggs, oil, water and vanilla together and whisk by hand<br />

into dry ingredients until smooth.<br />

3. Spray small individual heart-shaped or Bundt cake pans<br />

with non-stick coating and fill cups about two-thirds<br />

to the top. (Two 8” heart-shaped or round cake pans<br />

may be substituted)<br />

4. Bake in a 325°F convection oven until cake springs back to<br />

the touch or a toothpick comes out clean. Do not overbake.<br />

5. Let cool for about 5 minutes before removing them from<br />

the pans. Serve warm with warm Chocolate Ganache (see<br />

recipe at right).<br />

6. Slice off the rounded part of the cake so that you have a<br />

flat bottom. Place cake on a wire rack and spread with<br />

raspberry preserves.<br />

7. Ladle ganache over cakes, allowing ganache to flow over<br />

the sides. You may have to tip cake slightly so that the<br />

ganache will be even and smooth.<br />

Note: Cakes may be heated in the microwave in short bursts<br />

before glazing with warm Chocolate Ganache. ■<br />

Chef Dale L. Miller, CMC, WGMC, AAC, is the Executive Chef of Sperry ’s Restaurant in Saratoga Springs, NY.<br />

One of only 66 Certified Master Chefs in the United States and less than 600 (WACS) Global Master Chefs<br />

in the world. He is a Fellow of The Culinary Institute of America and Chairman of the Alumni Board. He is an<br />

active member of the American Culinary Federation and its Honor Society, the American Academy of Chefs and<br />

was unanimously voted in and inducted as a lifetime member of the elite Honorable Society of the Golden<br />

Toque, the highest acclaimed recognition a chef can receive in America.<br />

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Chocolate Ganache<br />

Ingredients:<br />

1 pound semi-sweet chocolate chips<br />

1 cup heavy cream<br />

1 ounce butter<br />

½ to 1 cup hot black coffee<br />

Up to 1 ounce liqueur (optional)<br />

1. Heat chocolate chips, cream and butter in a double<br />

boiler on low heat, whisking constantly until smooth.<br />

2. Add hot black coffee in small amounts to get ganache<br />

to a desired glazing consistency.<br />

3. Small amounts of flavored liqueurs may also be added<br />

if desired (such as Gran Marnier, Frangelico,<br />

Cointreau, etc.)<br />

Note: Be careful to not get water into the chocolate<br />

mixture because it will seize up. ■<br />

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herlife | mother’s perspective<br />

Cutting the Apron Strings<br />

How to Raise Happy, Healthy, Independent Kids<br />

by chandra blackwell<br />

If you’re a parent, you know what it’s like<br />

to wish for more sleep, more time and<br />

sometimes more patience. But one thing<br />

a parent hardly ever has to wish for is more<br />

advice...or criticism. Turn one direction and<br />

overprotective (a.k.a. “helicopter”) parents<br />

are being criticized for shielding their<br />

children from even the most minor difficulty<br />

or discomfort and creating, in some minds,<br />

a nation of wimps. Turn the other way, and<br />

mouths stand agape at the concept of freerange<br />

kids, a term coined and popularized<br />

by (in)famous mom Lenore Skenazy, who<br />

allowed her nine-year-old son to navigate the<br />

New York subway system alone. No matter<br />

where you fall on the spectrum, you may<br />

Where is<br />

the happy<br />

medium?<br />

be wondering: where is the happy medium?<br />

How can you cut the apron strings in a<br />

timely and appropriate way, so that your kids<br />

grow up happy, healthy, and confident—but<br />

also safe? The truth is that most kids grow up<br />

way too quickly for a parent’s comfort, but<br />

with a little effort and some deep breathing,<br />

you can support your kids without “hovering,”<br />

and encourage their independence and<br />

self-reliance without leaving them to the<br />

wolves.<br />

Toddlers (1-4)<br />

Resist the Urge to Rescue<br />

As parents, we have a built-in protective<br />

instinct that can make it difficult not to<br />

swoop in and save the day when we see<br />

our children struggling. And sometimes,<br />

of course, that’s appropriate; if<br />

your toddler’s shoelace gets caught<br />

in a sewer grate and there’s a<br />

garbage truck coming, it’s probably<br />

best to do what it takes<br />

to get him out of the street<br />

(and out of harm’s way) as<br />

quickly as possible. However,<br />

if he’s merely struggling<br />

to put his pajamas on by<br />

himself, it’s okay to offer<br />

encouragement from<br />

the sidelines while<br />

he figures it out<br />

on his own, even<br />

if he gets a little<br />

frustrated. It may<br />

quite literally<br />

require sitting on<br />

your own hands<br />

to do it, but encouraging a toddler to work<br />

out his own dilemma can help him begin to<br />

develop a healthy sense of self-reliance.<br />

Big Kids (5-8)<br />

Decisions, Decisions<br />

Even as adults, we depend on others;<br />

very few of us, for example, produce<br />

all of our own food, manufacture our own<br />

vehicles or cut our own hair (more than<br />

once, anyway). So of course, your child will<br />

continue to depend on you to meet certain<br />

basic needs, such as <strong>keeping</strong> her fed and getting<br />

her to the doctor and to soccer games.<br />

However, at this stage of her development,<br />

she should not be too reliant on others for<br />

making basic decisions; while she may rely<br />

on you to provide advice or perspective, she<br />

should be making her own choices in many<br />

situations. As a parent, you can encourage<br />

more independence in your “big kid”<br />

by allowing her to make simple, everyday<br />

decisions on her own: which clothes to<br />

wear (you can intervene to make sure she’s<br />

dressed appropriately for the weather, but<br />

may have to turn a blind eye to some aesthetic<br />

choices), what to order in a restaurant<br />

or which of Kafka’s works best speaks to the<br />

existential dilemma. What’s important here<br />

is that she’s becoming more confident using<br />

her own judgment as she moves toward<br />

more independence.<br />

Pre-teens (8-12)<br />

Talk About It<br />

At this stage, your child’s worldview–<br />

and sphere of influence–has expanded<br />

well beyond the nucleus of your home and<br />

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family. It now includes friends, coaches, teachers, other parents<br />

and perhaps an annoying celebrity or two. This extension of social<br />

relationships, while sometimes frightening to a parent, is a normal<br />

and healthy stage of a child’s development. While you will have to<br />

relinquish some of the influence you once had over your child, you<br />

still remain an integral part of his life, and can help him navigate<br />

this stage of development by <strong>keeping</strong> the lines of communication<br />

Show him that you’re interested<br />

in what’s going on in his life<br />

by talking about school,<br />

about his teachers, about his<br />

worries, hopes and dreams.<br />

open. Show him that you’re interested in what’s going on in his life<br />

by talking about school, about his teachers, about his worries, hopes<br />

and dreams. And as always, keep fostering age-appropriate ways for<br />

him to become more independent; for example, now you might<br />

occasionally charge your child with planning a menu and making<br />

dinner for the family, allow him to choose paint colors and décor<br />

for his room (see previous comment about turning a blind eye to<br />

aesthetic choices) or, if he receives an allowance, give him sole discretion<br />

as to how to spend a specific percentage of his money. Above<br />

all, continue to work together as a family, to give him a solid base of<br />

support as his world expands.<br />

Teens (13-17)<br />

Get Ready to Compromise<br />

By fostering a sense of independence in your child early on,<br />

you can help alleviate some of the rebellion that can occur during<br />

the teen years. And once your child becomes a teen, allowing her to<br />

express her individuality in appropriate ways can make her less likely<br />

to revolt. Of course you’ll still need to keep boundaries in place,<br />

but be ready to compromise on certain issues, such as personal<br />

style (which may require a new mantra for you: “It’s only hair… it’s<br />

only hair…”), rules and responsibilities. Though you should resist<br />

the urge to think of your child as the adorable toddler you once<br />

cuddled, a good many of the toddler principles come into play here:<br />

resisting the urge to “rescue” your teen when she’s trying to make a<br />

tough decision or dealing with the consequences of a choice she’s<br />

made can continue the effort you began long ago to encourage her<br />

independence—and make her better equipped for the “real” world<br />

that looms in her immediate future. ■<br />

Sources for this article can be found: askdrsears.com,<br />

simplemom.net, teachersandfamilies.com, greatschools.org,<br />

parentline.org, cyh.com, noomii.com and nytimes.com.<br />

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herlife | home<br />

The 10 Best Plants<br />

For The Busy Home Gardener<br />

by linda r. price<br />

House plants are fairly reasonable<br />

and will grow under indoor growing<br />

conditions. Indoor conditions<br />

may not be ideal, but most plants will<br />

adapt and survive. The basic elements for<br />

plants are light, soil, water, temperature and<br />

humidity.<br />

Light<br />

Plants must have light to survive. Low<br />

light is usually found when windows face<br />

the north and receive no sun. Medium<br />

light comes in windows facing east or west.<br />

These windows receive the early morning<br />

or late afternoon sun. High light comes<br />

from southern exposures, is intense and<br />

should be avoided. The length of the day<br />

and the number of hours the sun shines<br />

in the window affect the amount of light<br />

received. Light is also reduced or increased<br />

by buildings, trees, shrubs, air pollution,<br />

and curtains or shutters which restrict<br />

light coming into the windows. Learn to<br />

judge your plants’ health by observing their<br />

growth. Plants which receive sufficient<br />

light grow compact forms while those with<br />

insufficient light will be leggy with widely<br />

spaced leaves.<br />

run-off after 30 minutes. Judge the amount of moisture available to the plant by touching the<br />

soil. If it feels dry, the plant probably needs watering.<br />

Temperature<br />

House plants will grow well in the average home temperatures of 68 to 74 degrees and will<br />

benefit from a temperature drop of up to 10 degrees at night. In the summer, as the afternoon<br />

sun is considerably stronger and hotter, you will probably need to move plants farther away<br />

from the window. Winter temperatures are generally not a problem unless plants are kept in<br />

cold, unheated rooms.<br />

Humidity<br />

Low humidity can be a problem. Both plants and humans benefit from raising the humidity<br />

level. A humidifier is a good idea if your apartment or house is constantly dry and overheated<br />

from central heating. If this is out of the question, try placing plants on pebbles in low trays<br />

filled with water; keep plants above water line.<br />

Soil<br />

The plants on our list like either a<br />

sandy soil or an all-purpose one. Both are<br />

available in garden centers.<br />

Water<br />

Plants need water to survive, but most<br />

do not like their feet kept wet so pour out<br />

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The Ten Best Plants<br />

1. The cast iron plant (Aspidistra Elatior) is virtually indestructible.<br />

The plant has tall, dark-green broad leaves. The cast iron plant grows<br />

in any light, needs an all-purpose soil and moderate watering.<br />

2. Spider plants (Chlorophytum Comosum) are solid green or greenand-white<br />

with grassy leaves; plantlets develop on tips of long runners.<br />

The plantlets can be left alone or broken off to give to friends. The<br />

plant looks great on a tall table or in a hanging pot. It likes low-medium<br />

light, sandy soil and light watering.<br />

3. The rosary vine or string-of-hearts (Ceropegia Woodii) is a smallleaved<br />

vine, purplish in color with tiny flowers (bright light) or mottled<br />

green (lower light). The small bulbs along stems create new plants. It<br />

looks best in a hanging pot, adapts to any light conditions, likes sandy<br />

soil and moderate watering.<br />

4. Dumb cane (Dieffenbachia) has variegated tall leaves, is poisonous<br />

if eaten and is fast-growing. It likes low-medium light, all-purpose gardening<br />

soil and moderate water. Place on a window sill for best results.<br />

5. Dracaenas have elongated striped leaves and are variously known as<br />

the corn plant, the ribbon plant, the gold dust plant, etc. They grow in<br />

any light, need all-purpose soil, like light watering and look fabulous as<br />

floor plants.<br />

6. Peperomias are low-growing round leaves in various colors and<br />

textures. Two of the most popular are “Emerald Ripple” and the watermelon<br />

peperomia. Peperomias like low-medium light, all-purpose or<br />

sandy soil, light watering and look beautiful when placed in a window.<br />

7. Philodendrons are large-leaved shrubs or heavy vines requiring supports.<br />

The most well-known are the heart-leaf philodendron, the splitleaf<br />

philodendron, the fiddle-leaved philodendron and the velvet-leaf<br />

philodendron. Philodendrons grow in any light, all-purpose soil and<br />

like moderate watering. The small-leaved plants do well in a window<br />

sill and the bigger varieties on the floor.<br />

8. Snake plants (Sansevierias) are another hardy, virtually indestructible<br />

plant with spiky, mottled leaves edged in yellow or green with<br />

yellow edges. They like any light, all-purpose or sandy soil and light<br />

watering. They can grow in a windowsill.<br />

9. The umbrella tree (Scheflera Actinophylla) has shiny, long, oval<br />

leaves. It likes medium light, all-purpose soil and moderate watering.<br />

Schefleras look best as floor plants.<br />

10. The arrow-head plant (Syngonium Podophyllum) has mediumsized,<br />

veined, dark or light green arrow-shaped leaves. It is fast-growing<br />

in bright light, but will grow in any light. It likes all-purpose soil and<br />

moderate watering. The plant grows well as a window sill plant or in a<br />

hanging pot. ■<br />

Source for this article: The Lazy Indoor Gardener by Roberta Pliner 1976<br />

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herlife | business spotlight<br />

University<br />

at<br />

Albany<br />

dorothy urschel<br />

Weekend MBA Program<br />

don purdy<br />

by ann e. butenas<br />

While you could probably assimilate countless reasons<br />

why you don’t have time to earn an MBA or any other<br />

advanced degree, spending just a few minutes with the<br />

professionals at the University at Albany’s AACSB-accredited School of<br />

Business will undoubtedly give you many more reasons as to why you<br />

should consider getting that long-desired graduate degree.<br />

Don Purdy, Director of the Weekend MBA Program at University<br />

at Albany, has such a sincere enthusiasm for not only the school’s<br />

highly-regarded program, but for its amazing students, as well. “The<br />

core of our program is executive in nature,” he noted. “Students of all<br />

cultures, industries and backgrounds have the unique opportunity to<br />

engage in lively interaction in a stimulating classroom environment<br />

led by top-flight instructors. Our classes are composed of lawyers,<br />

scientists, doctors, project managers, nurses and even music teachers.<br />

The diversity is amazing.”<br />

The all-inclusive program is the only executive-level MBA program<br />

headquartered in the area and is the value leader among similar<br />

programs in New York State. It is also ranked in the top five MBA<br />

programs for Greatest Opportunities for Women, according to The<br />

Princeton Review.<br />

To reach as many <strong>women</strong> as possible, Don is very active in the<br />

Albany-Colonie Regional Chamber’s Women’s Business Council,<br />

attends events sponsored by the YWCA and the Women’s Employment<br />

& Resource Center, and markets the program in such <strong>women</strong>-specific<br />

vehicles as <strong>HERLIFE</strong>.<br />

“There is a reason why we are being recognized for our excellence.<br />

We truly do provide <strong>women</strong> with the resources and relationships<br />

to ‘power up’ their careers. In fact, one recent alum shared with<br />

me that she was just promoted to Senior Vice President-Investments<br />

in her company. I’d say that was a nice return on her investment!”<br />

Don noted.<br />

“The weekend format provides for a very unique and distinctive<br />

structure for students to balance the demands of their lives while still<br />

pursuing an MBA. The students are in a cohort with other working<br />

professionals from a host of backgrounds and varying life experiences.<br />

This allows for continued growth, understanding and experiences not<br />

typically found in other classroom settings,” he emphasized.<br />

From the very first day of class, it is obvious that the Weekend<br />

MBA Program is very different from others. It’s inviting, uniquely challenging<br />

and professionally stimulating, truly catering to the needs of<br />

students who already have multiple demands upon their lives.<br />

“We have students that come from as far away as New York<br />

City, Lake Placid and even Montreal to participate in our program,”<br />

expressed Don. “One student in particular, who was transferred from<br />

Montreal to London midway through the program, still continued with<br />

us by traveling to and from London every other weekend. He was committed<br />

to the program just as much as we were committed to helping<br />

him complete his academic goals.”<br />

One of the most exciting aspects of the program is its international<br />

trip. Each July, the student travels abroad to experience, learn and<br />

understand global business firsthand. Past destinations have included<br />

visits to Argentina, Ireland, Hungary, Chile, China and Munich. The<br />

2012 adventure is slated for the magical and mystical land of India.<br />

While the Weekend program is rigorous in nature, the rewards of<br />

this 22-month journey are endless. Students, who are working professionals,<br />

have the opportunity to discover and learn about cutting-edge<br />

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usiness practices over the weekend and immediately apply those to<br />

their jobs on Monday morning.<br />

“The courses are taught by faculty members who are very learned<br />

in their respective fields,” expressed Don. “They have extensive<br />

research in their specialties. Students attend class every other weekend<br />

on Fridays from 2 p.m.—8:30 p.m. and on Saturdays from 9<br />

a.m.—4:30 p.m. The cohorts commence in the fall, averaging 25 to<br />

30 students in each class. The students’ average age is 40, with an age<br />

range of 24 to 62.”<br />

Dorothy Urschel, a 2009 graduate of the Weekend MBA Program,<br />

is a solid testament to the lasting and impactful benefits of the<br />

program. Although she already had an advanced degree in Sciences,<br />

she chose this particular program for its flexible curriculum that<br />

allowed her the opportunity to tailor the learning experience to meet<br />

her professional goals.<br />

When she began the journey towards her MBA, Dorothy was<br />

already the Director of Cardiac and Vascular Surgery at St. Peter’s<br />

Hospital in Albany. While she still holds that position, the MBA allowed<br />

her to do her job with greater confidence and expertise, while<br />

at the same time enabling her to expand her involvement with other<br />

aspects of the business. Further, what she learned in the program<br />

provided her with greater understanding of the activities of other<br />

departments in her organization.<br />

“There is a reason why we are<br />

being recognized for our excellence.<br />

We truly do provide <strong>women</strong> with<br />

the resources and relationships to<br />

‘power up’ their careers.”<br />

While Dorothy will admit the coursework was challenging and<br />

demanding, it was also a very positive and rewarding experience, and<br />

notes that it is a great way to open doors for career advancement. “The<br />

coursework combined theory and practice, and the professors encouraged<br />

us to incorporate real-world problems from our professions into<br />

our assignments and projects,” she noted. “Earning my MBA was a<br />

valuable signal to my employer because it demonstrated I was hardworking,<br />

ambitious and dedicated.”<br />

Even though Dorothy would wholeheartedly encourage anyone<br />

interested in pursuing an MBA to do so, she does caution that it is not<br />

a decision to take lightly. “A person has to be prepared to put in the<br />

work,” she said. “It’s more like a marathon than a sprint, so it’s important<br />

to mentally prepare for the test of endurance.” ■<br />

For more information on the Weekend MBA Program, and to look<br />

at the schedule of upcoming information sessions, visit them online at<br />

http://www.albany.edu/business/weekendMBA_index.shtml or contact<br />

Don at 518-442-4964, at dpurdy@albany.edu, or at @UAlbanyMBA.<br />

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herlife | working <strong>women</strong><br />

Separating<br />

Work and Personal Personas<br />

by candi smith<br />

Over 150 years ago, Sojourner<br />

Truth proclaimed that she could<br />

birth babies and plow fields—and<br />

emphasized, “Ain’t I a woman?” The more<br />

things change, the more they stay the same.<br />

We still work at home, outside the home and<br />

everywhere in between.<br />

But it’s important that as you forge professional<br />

and private personas, you set clear<br />

boundaries to help create rhythm in your<br />

life. Fortunately, today’s woman has many<br />

resources available at her fingertips to help<br />

guide her with this duality.<br />

Separate your work and home lifestyles<br />

by using technology consistently. For<br />

instance, carry two different mobile phones,<br />

ensuring that only one is used for work calls<br />

and emails. It allows you to continue to communicate<br />

with necessary professional contacts<br />

throughout the day and frees up your personal<br />

cell phone for calls from family and friends.<br />

Many employers provide a phone to you for<br />

business purposes. Additionally, by dedicating<br />

a line to work calls, you can take a business<br />

expense write-off (if self-employed) for taxes.<br />

If you work out of your<br />

home, make sure you<br />

dedicate a space for<br />

your home office.<br />

If you work out of your home, make sure you<br />

dedicate a space for your home office. It psychologically<br />

helps you put on your “professional<br />

hat” when you need to have your head<br />

in the game. And it helps keep your work life<br />

from seeping into your personal and private<br />

time.<br />

Create structure in your day by using<br />

some type of planner (online calendars work<br />

great because they have reminders and notifications<br />

that might otherwise get missed on<br />

hard copy calendars). This allows you to have<br />

a set end of your workday, especially important<br />

if you tend to be a workaholic who has<br />

a hard time recognizing when the workday<br />

is through. It also keeps you focused on tasks<br />

that you need to complete.<br />

Try to keep a notepad handy at all times<br />

for when you have those flashes of brilliance<br />

(which usually come in the middle of the<br />

night!). This allows you to jot down a few<br />

professional notes, but quickly return to your<br />

personal time. Don’t fully flesh out business<br />

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ideas at this time—just refer to your notes later to start the creative<br />

processes flowing.<br />

Create separate email addresses for your work and private lives,<br />

along with appropriate email auto-responses. For instance, if you know<br />

that during your workday you won’t check your private email, set up an<br />

auto-responder to your family and friends that lets them know you’re<br />

unavailable during working hours. Likewise, on the professional side,<br />

set up a response that lets your clients or coworkers know the hours<br />

they can reach you. Then be sure you are diligent about being available<br />

so you don’t discredit yourself.<br />

Be smart about how you conduct<br />

yourself on blogs, social networking<br />

sites and in posted photos.<br />

Using technology to establish boundaries makes things easier<br />

but some areas can get a bit stickier. What happens when you have<br />

personal issues that carry over into the workplace such as a divorce,<br />

death in the family or financial problems? It’s important to do your<br />

best to only bring your professional persona into the office. Otherwise,<br />

you might cause your boss or peers to lose confidence in your ability to<br />

do your job. Create a plan of action that allows you to tackle whatever<br />

you’re dealing with so that you’re not adding job loss to your already<br />

stressful situation.<br />

Avoid hanging out with gossipy colleagues. If they will dish their<br />

own dirt, they will surely dish yours as well. Many accomplished<br />

<strong>women</strong> have regretted being open in the workplace about their private<br />

lives and putting their “business in the street.” While it’s human nature<br />

to want to reach out and connect with others, you need to carefully<br />

assess who you can trust with your personal issues. But if you find that<br />

there’s no one in the workplace you can turn to, seek outside professional<br />

help. If available, your company’s Employee Assistance Program<br />

is a great confidential resource to use.<br />

You’ve probably heard the phrase “dress for success”—this adage<br />

still rings true. Sweat pants and flip flops are perfect for a night of movies<br />

and popcorn on your couch. But don’t even think about showing<br />

up to work in them if you want to be taken seriously. And keep your<br />

conversations and language professional at all times in the workplace,<br />

even if you cuss like a sailor at home.<br />

Finally, remember that sometimes things you do in your private<br />

life have a way of finding themselves being discussed around the office<br />

water cooler. Be smart about how you conduct yourself on blogs, social<br />

networking sites and in posted photos. And don’t ever bash your boss,<br />

place of employment, or your peers and coworkers. ■<br />

Sources for this article were found at: profitably.com,<br />

bradleygauthier.com and www.wikihow.com.<br />

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herlife | spotlight<br />

Andréa<br />

Demirjian<br />

t h e k i s s i n g e x p e r t<br />

by ann e. butenas<br />

“I<br />

believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.”<br />

Who could forget that classic line from Bull Durham, sensually<br />

and directly uttered by Kevin Costner? And when it comes<br />

to kisses, celebrated author Andréa Demirjian knows all about such<br />

kisses…and then some! Her hit book, Kissing—Everything You Wanted<br />

to Know About Life’s Sweetest Pleasures, takes an analytical scoring of her<br />

own personal accounts and magically transforms them into kissable tales<br />

of wonder, lust, love and heartfelt emotions to which many of us can<br />

relate and for which many of us pine.<br />

This New York City native, graduate of Skidmore College in<br />

Saratoga Springs and former advertising executive who has spent the last<br />

12 years consulting her own clients, recalled how she accidentally on<br />

purpose became the author of such an engaging title.<br />

“If you had ever told me that I would write a book about kissing, I<br />

would never have believed it,” she recounted. “However, this book just<br />

came about after an amazing and unexpected kiss that led to some silly<br />

introspection on my part. It was as if that single kiss awakened the Sleeping<br />

Beauty within, reawakening my spirit and restoring my confidence.”<br />

That reawakening led her to pursue the quest of her romantic side<br />

while indulging her analytical side. She began to keep a spreadsheet of<br />

her kissing activity, but such precision for an otherwise emotional act was<br />

nothing new for this ambitious woman. And setting the stage for obtaining<br />

a kiss began years before she had scribed her book.<br />

“When I was in seventh grade, Spin the Bottle was popular,” she<br />

laughed. “Before the night of a particular party, I would draw up a floor<br />

plan where the party would be and designate make-out points where my<br />

friends and I would kiss the boys.“<br />

Her calculated spreadsheet, then, came as no surprise to those who<br />

know her well. “I had columns on the sheet for the person I kissed, his<br />

age, hair color, eye color, how he was dressed, his profession, political<br />

preference and even who made the first move,” Andréa explained. “It<br />

was very detailed and highly insightful.”<br />

“If you had ever told me that I<br />

would write a book about kissing,<br />

I would never have believed it.<br />

However, this book just came about<br />

after an amazing and unexpected<br />

kiss that led to some silly<br />

introspection on my part.”<br />

It was very fascinating, too, and when she showed this spreadsheet to<br />

friends, they saw things in it that Andréa didn’t, or, no pun intended, had<br />

failed to read between the lips! “My friends saw trends and patterns in my<br />

kissing behavior,” she said. “This led to further insight into the process that<br />

allowed me to objectively learn something about myself. For example,<br />

when I was younger, I favored darker skinned, darker-haired men, but as I<br />

got older, I seem drawn to fairer-haired and fairer-skinned men.”<br />

Self-indulgent folly or fodder for a great book? Yes…and yes. Andréa<br />

figured she had stumbled upon a unique opportunity to teach others to<br />

analyze their kissing behaviors. While she initially considered crafting<br />

an article to pitch to various magazines, she broadened her thinking and<br />

decided she had enough to write a book, one that is not only academic in<br />

nature but is tempered by a very frivolous and fun ambiance.<br />

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So, her quest began. She pursued the idea in 2002 and worked on<br />

it, gathering various data and studying the physiology of kissing, eventually<br />

pitching the idea to agents. By February 2005, she struck a deal.<br />

While this book primarily appeals to <strong>women</strong>, the guys love it, too, and<br />

her research included interviews with men about what they want.<br />

“What men want is really not much different from what <strong>women</strong><br />

want,” explained Andréa. “They want to feel loved and desired, too. Men<br />

possess an equal degree of sentimentality once you get them to think<br />

about it. They will recall special moments, such as their first date or the<br />

kiss at the altar.”<br />

Kissing has been around for centuries, and it shows no sign of<br />

disappearing anytime soon. Sometimes, even a little dab’ll do ya! “Go<br />

for that spontaneous grab in the morning,” Andréa encourages. “Give<br />

“Go for that<br />

spontaneous grab<br />

in the morning.<br />

Give your partner<br />

something to think<br />

about during the<br />

day. Just because a<br />

relationship is not<br />

new doesn’t mean it<br />

has to be stale. Keep it alive with<br />

the excitement of unexpected kisses<br />

or lingering pauses on the lips.”<br />

your partner something to think about during the day. Just because a<br />

relationship is not new doesn’t mean it has to be stale. Keep it alive with<br />

the excitement of unexpected kisses or lingering pauses on the lips. Kissing<br />

is an intense and intimate connection. People crave that. Even as we<br />

age, our spirit still longs for such emotional expression.”<br />

When we are born, hopefully all of us are lavished with kisses from<br />

admiring relatives. As we approach our final chapter, sometimes a kiss<br />

is the last touch we will feel from a loved one. Then there are all of<br />

the kisses in between our first and last breath. Those are the ones that<br />

create such memorable experiences. Never give a kiss simple lip service.<br />

Instead, in the words of the author, “Kiss with enthusiasm and respect.<br />

Kiss with abandon and no regret. Kiss knowing each one counts towards<br />

something. And forever be in quest of kissing.”<br />

And once you have completed this kissing journey, Andréa promises<br />

another book on the horizon soon. As for what it will deliver, well,<br />

you’ll just have to wait and see. After all, I don’t kiss and tell! ■<br />

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herlife | tie the knot<br />

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DeAnna’s Bridal Boutique<br />

in West Sand Lake<br />

Bridesmaids’ gowns:<br />

They each chose and bought their<br />

own (in espresso dark brown)<br />

Hair styling:<br />

Jenn Kim from Swagger<br />

in Saratoga Springs<br />

makeup:<br />

Jennifer McCarthy Norton<br />

of True Grace Makeup<br />

Photography:<br />

Jill Richardson<br />

Florist:<br />

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DJ:<br />

Lee Waddell<br />

Caterer:<br />

Mallozzi’s Italian<br />

Schenectady, NY<br />

Cake:<br />

Mallozzi’s Italian<br />

venue:<br />

Ceremony - St. Mary’s Church<br />

in Ballston Spa<br />

Reception - The Canfield Casino<br />

in Congress Park, Saratoga<br />

Kelley Timothy<br />

by marilyn wright<br />

photography by jill richardson<br />

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Kelley Marie Brennan is 33 years old, and is a Reading Teacher at<br />

Lake Avenue Elementary School in Saratoga.<br />

Timothy William Brennan is also 33, works for<br />

Freihofer’s, and cooks part-time for Bentley’s Tavern. They both live in<br />

Saratoga Springs.<br />

Kelley and Timothy attended SUNY Potsdam for undergraduate<br />

school where they met, and dated their freshman year at college. After<br />

going their separate ways at the end of the school year, they would see<br />

each other now and then over the next 11 years at weddings and parties<br />

of mutual friends. Finally, in 2007, they re<strong>connected</strong> and began dating<br />

again, and have been together for the past four years.<br />

Tim proposed on October 8, 2010, but there was an interesting<br />

twist. One New Year’s Eve, they went to a party and played a game where<br />

everyone wrote a New Year’s resolution on a piece of paper, put it in a<br />

hat and passed it around. Everyone pulled one resolution out of the hat,<br />

read it out loud and guessed who wrote it. Kelley ended up getting Tim’s,<br />

and it said, “To marry the woman of my dreams.” In October, the couple<br />

went to a family cabin for a weekend getaway. The first night there, Tim<br />

gave Kelley a heart-shaped box. She opened it and inside was the little<br />

white piece of paper...the resolution that said, “To marry the woman of<br />

my dreams.” When she looked at him, he was down on his knee with the<br />

ring in his hand, asking her to marry him!<br />

Their wedding was on Friday, September 16, 2011, with a<br />

wedding party that consisted of a Maid of Honor (Kelley’s best friend,<br />

Amanda Johnson); a Best Man (Tim’s cousin, Devin Mahoney); three<br />

bridesmaids (Kelley’s sister-in-law, Kristin Ekstrom, her friend, Kristin<br />

Finn and Tim’s sister, Kelly Brennan); four groomsmen (Kelley’s brother,<br />

Craig Ekstrom, and Tim’s friends, John Waters, Brian Finn and Brian<br />

Borges); and two flower girls (Jenna Ekstrom and Kimani Castro, Kelley<br />

and Tim’s nieces).<br />

The special day started with all of the girls taking their time<br />

getting ready at the Union Gables Inn, which is also where the bride<br />

and groom, bridal party and their friends stayed the night of the<br />

wedding. It was absolutely beautiful and they had the whole Inn to<br />

themselves for the night!<br />

Since Kelley is a teacher, she couldn’t take too much time off at<br />

the beginning of the school year, so they went on a two-night “mini<br />

honeymoon” the day after the wedding to the Mirror Lake Inn in Lake<br />

Placid. During the school break, the newlyweds are going to an allinclusive<br />

resort in Aruba for a week! ■<br />

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herlife | in the region<br />

Calendar of Events<br />

NOTE: All calendar events must be submitted by February 15 for consideration in our April issue. Please include<br />

event location, date, details and contact information and email Sherry@herlifenewyork.com. Events considered<br />

for publication are normally limited to community wide/charity events or events hosted by our advertisers. We<br />

cannot guarantee that all events submitted will be published.<br />

February 2<br />

Spoon and Whisk: Magnificent<br />

Chocolate!<br />

Date: February 2<br />

Time: 7:00pm–9:00pm<br />

Location: 1675 Route 9, Clifton Park, NY<br />

Details: Delicious, yet temperamental,<br />

chocolate is a classic way to say “I love<br />

you.” This session will cover the essentials<br />

of working with chocolate and give you the<br />

confidence to create spectacular desserts at<br />

home, featuring instructor Chef Sue Hatalsky<br />

and on the menu Chocolate Sponge Soaked<br />

in Rum Syrup with Decadent Chocolate<br />

Swiss Buttercream and topped with<br />

Chocolate Fans.<br />

Contact: spoonandwhisk.com or<br />

518-371-4550<br />

February 3<br />

First Friday with Elissa Halloran<br />

Designs<br />

Date: February 3<br />

Time: 11:00am–7:00pm<br />

Location: 229 Lark Street, Albany, NY<br />

Details: Stop by Elissa Halloran designs<br />

on first Friday and check out funky designs<br />

for the body and home; great consignment<br />

clothing. Handmade jewelry and work by<br />

local artists<br />

Contact: 518-432-7090 or ehdesigns.com<br />

Saranac Lake Winter Carnival:<br />

Space Alien Invasion<br />

Dates: February 3–February 12<br />

Times: All Day Events<br />

Location: Saranac Lake Area Chamber of<br />

Commerce, Saranac Lake, NY<br />

Details: The annual ten-day festival will<br />

include performances, sports, dances, parades<br />

and two sets of spectacular fireworks above<br />

the world-famous Ice Palace. Kicking off with<br />

the coronation of the Winter Carnival King<br />

and Queen, the event proceeds with the lighting<br />

of the Ice Palace, fireworks, parades and<br />

performances, and culminates in the Carnival<br />

Slide Show and Gala Fireworks. The 2012<br />

edition marks the 115th anniversary making<br />

the Saranac Lake Winter Carnival the longestrunning<br />

event of its kind in the eastern U.S.<br />

Contact: saranaclakewintercarnival.com or<br />

518-891-1990<br />

The 15th Annual Saratoga<br />

Winterfest 2012<br />

Dates: February 3–February 5<br />

Times: Various<br />

Location: Saratoga Springs, NY<br />

Details: The spirit of winter in the Spa City<br />

with a weekend of live music, special events, great<br />

entertainment and, of course, Chowderfest!<br />

Contact: saratoga.com/winter/winterfest.cfm<br />

February 4<br />

“Bein’ Green: Why Every Color<br />

is Beautiful”<br />

Dates: February 4–February 5 and February<br />

11–February 12<br />

Time: 12:00pm–4:00pm<br />

Location: W.E.B. Du Bois Center, 684<br />

South Main Street, Great Barrington, MA<br />

Details: This exhibit features the fanciful<br />

artwork of Sesame Street and Muppets illustrator<br />

Joel Schick. The proceeds from the<br />

exhibit will be donated to Berkshire County<br />

Kid’s Place, Pittsfield. The illustrations and<br />

paintings of beloved characters such as<br />

Kermit the Frog, Cookie Monster, Elmo,<br />

Gonzo, Miss Piggy and many others from<br />

the Muppet menagerie will be on display<br />

throughout the Center, along with some of<br />

the finished books and toys for which the<br />

illustrations were created.<br />

Contact: duboiscentergb.org or 413-644-9595<br />

2012 Polar Cap<br />

Date: February 4<br />

Time: 10:00am<br />

Location: Lake George Elementary<br />

School, Lake George, NY<br />

Details: Don’t go into hibernation—put<br />

on your winter running gear and join us for<br />

a different kind of race! The Adirondack<br />

Runners Annual Polar Cap race is four miles<br />

of frosty fun. Cost: $20 preregistered ($15 for<br />

Adirondack Runners members) $25 race-day<br />

registration.<br />

Contact: 518- 636-6789<br />

Saratoga Chowderfest 2012<br />

Date: February 4<br />

Time: 11:00am–4:00pm<br />

Location: Participating Restaurants in Saratoga<br />

Details: Come enjoy samples of chowder<br />

from 50 local restaurants in Saratoga. Once you<br />

taste them all, you can vote for your favorite!<br />

Contact: discoversaratoga.org/chowderfest<br />

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February 7<br />

Herzog Law Firm Estate and<br />

Medicaid Planning Seminar<br />

Dates: February 7–February 9<br />

Times: February 7–February 8, 2:00pm,<br />

February 9, 10:00am<br />

Locations: February 7, Courtyard by Marriott,<br />

11 Excelsior Ave. Saratoga Springs, NY<br />

February 8, Courtyard by Marriott, 455 Washington<br />

Ave., Albany, NY<br />

February 9, Hilton Garden, 235 Hoosick St. Troy, NY<br />

Details: Join attorney Debra Verni for a<br />

discussion on the basic estate planning documents<br />

everyone needs and how to protect<br />

assets from the costs of nursing home care,<br />

probate and taxes. Call to reserve a seat.<br />

Contact: Stacy at 518-641-0026 or<br />

herzoglaw.com<br />

Torso Lingerie-Men’s<br />

Shopping Night<br />

Date: February 7<br />

Times: 6:00-9:00pm<br />

Location: 55 Front St., Ballston Spa, NY<br />

Details: Back by popular demand and in<br />

time for Valentine’s Day gift shopping. Enjoy<br />

food and refreshments and complimentary<br />

gift wrapping. One nigh only discounts<br />

include 25% off any single item and 20%<br />

off each additional item purchased. Bring a<br />

friend and you are eligible to enter a drawing<br />

to win a $100 gift certificate.<br />

Contact: TorsoLingerie.com<br />

February 8<br />

DLG Women’s Seminar: Know Your<br />

Financial Options and Strategies<br />

Date: February 8<br />

Location: DLG Wealth Management, 6<br />

Executive Park Drive, Clifton Park, NY<br />

Time: 6:00pm-8:00pm<br />

Details: Women are making more financial<br />

decisions than ever before. In this complimentary<br />

seminar, learn about options and<br />

strategies to help you harness your finances<br />

and accomplish your financial goals. Network<br />

with other <strong>women</strong> in an interactive workshop<br />

and enjoy a light meal. Call for reservations.<br />

Contact: Wendy Elliott at welliott@dlgwm.<br />

com or Tonia Kelley at tkelley@dlgwm.com,<br />

or call 518-348-0060.<br />

Live Well ADK-Weight Loss<br />

Seminar<br />

Dates: February 8, February 15 and February 29<br />

Time: 6:00pm<br />

Locations: February 8 and February 29, 12<br />

Haviland Road, Queensbury, NY<br />

February 15, 78 Church Street, Saratoga<br />

Springs, NY<br />

Details: If you are overweight, lack energy,<br />

are addicted to sugar or in chronic pain, attend<br />

this complimentary seminar and learn<br />

how the Live Well ADK Diet Program promotes<br />

a healthy lifestyle. Call today to reserve<br />

your seat.<br />

Contact: 518-793-5555<br />

February 9<br />

Animal Protective Foundation<br />

“Tails of Treasure” Recycled<br />

Jewelry Event<br />

Date: February 9<br />

Time: 3:00pm–7:00pm<br />

Location: Waters Edge Lighthouse Restaurant,<br />

2 Freemans Bridge Road, Glenville, NY<br />

Details: This annual event features thousands<br />

of pieces of previously owned jewelry<br />

for sale. Everything, including fine, vintage,<br />

costume, handcrafted, silver, gold and gemstone<br />

jewelry has been donated by the public,<br />

and is priced, sorted and available at very<br />

affordable prices. Cash bar and raffle baskets<br />

also featured. You may bring gold and silver<br />

to be donated and melted down to the event.<br />

All proceeds benefit local homeless pets at<br />

the Animal Protective Foundation in Scotia.<br />

Admission $3.<br />

Contact: animalprotective.org or Kim Jess<br />

518-374-3944, ext. 119<br />

Williams Center – Skin<br />

Care Seminar<br />

Date: February 9<br />

Time: 5:30pm<br />

Location: Williams Center, 1072 Troy-<br />

Schenectady Road, Latham, NY<br />

Details: You and your friends are invited to<br />

attend an informational seminar on how to<br />

take care of your skin using effective prescription<br />

and physician strength products. Call<br />

today to book your reservation.<br />

Contact: 518-786-7000<br />

February 10<br />

Capital Region Wine Festival<br />

Grand Opening<br />

Dates: February 10–February 11<br />

Time: 6:30pm<br />

Location: Proctors Theater, 432 State<br />

Street, Schenectady, NY<br />

Details: The Grand Opening of the Festival<br />

begins with a wine tasting, and then moves<br />

to the Apkarian stage with ‘A Taste of Italy’<br />

featuring Andy LoRusso, The Singing Chef.<br />

Enjoy a multicourse dinner prepared on stage<br />

with wine served to you at your table!<br />

Cost: $75.<br />

Contact: proctors.org/events/capital-regionwine-festival-grand-opening<br />

or Judy at<br />

518-382-3884, Ext. 134<br />

Drue Sanders Custom Jewelers:<br />

Trollbeads Special Event<br />

Dates: February 10–February 14<br />

Times: February 10–February 11, 10:00am–<br />

4:30pm<br />

February 13–14, 10:00am–5:30pm<br />

Location: 1675 Western Avenue, Albany, NY<br />

Details: Stop in for special offers. Get a<br />

FREE bracelet with the purchase of a decorative<br />

clasp; buy 3 beads, get a 4th bead free<br />

(up to a $31 value); receive $50 off a two-tone<br />

bead worth $250 or more; receive $100 off a<br />

gold bead worth $500 or more.<br />

Contact: druesanders.com or 518-464-9636<br />

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Connelly’s Diamond Gallery—<br />

Valentine’s Day Trunk Show<br />

Dates: February 10–February 11<br />

Times: February 10, 10:00am–5:00pm<br />

February 11, 10:00am–3:00pm<br />

Location: 594 New Loudon Rd., Latham, NY<br />

Details: Closeout jewelry trunk show and<br />

all in-store merchandise at 50 percent off!<br />

Refreshments will be available.<br />

Contact: Dennis Connelly at 518-782-0569<br />

February 11<br />

Clifton Park Winter Festival<br />

Date: February 11<br />

Time: All Day Event<br />

Location: Clifton Park, NY<br />

Details: Join your friends and neighbors<br />

during this day of fun and excitement in and<br />

out of the cold! There will be local competitions,<br />

winter activities, family fun and more!<br />

Contact: cliftonpark.com/winter/winterfestival.cfm<br />

or 518-371-6667<br />

The College of Saint Rose<br />

Camerata<br />

Date: February 11<br />

Time: 7:30pm<br />

Location: Massry Center for the Arts, 1002<br />

Madison Avenue, Albany, NY<br />

Details: The acclaimed Hyperion String<br />

Quartet will join the Saint Rose Camerata<br />

in a performance of music by Dvorak, Boccherini<br />

and Mozart. Described as “vivacious”<br />

by New York City’s WQXR public radio and<br />

“a single living breathing organism - bringing<br />

grand and glorious life to the music” by<br />

Classical Voice of North Carolina. Free to<br />

the public.<br />

Contact: strose.edu/concerts or<br />

518-337-4871<br />

February 17<br />

The Flurry Annual Dance &<br />

Music Festival<br />

Dates: February 17–February 19<br />

Times: February 17, 1:00pm–9:00pm<br />

February 18, 9:00am–1:00am<br />

February 19, 9:00am–6:00pm<br />

Location: Saratoga Hilton & Saratoga City<br />

Center, 522 Broadway, Saratoga, NY<br />

Details: The Flurry is a great winter weekend<br />

for dancers and music lovers of all ages!<br />

There will be dances, workshops, singing,<br />

concerts, jamming, performances, family<br />

events, storytelling, crafts and more!<br />

Contact: saratoga.com/winter/dance-flurry.cfm<br />

Winter Wonderland Week<br />

Dates: February 17–February 26<br />

Time: Varies<br />

Location: Mt. Sabattis, Long Lake, NY<br />

Details: Presidents’ Day week is a vacation<br />

for adults and kids, now in its third year!<br />

Snowmobile tours and sculpture garden at<br />

Mt. Sabattis. Long Lake Winter Olympics<br />

include skating races, sledding races, and<br />

obstacle course in the snow.<br />

Contact: mylonglake.com or 518-624-3077<br />

February 18<br />

The Third Annual Mac-n-Cheese<br />

Bowl in Albany<br />

Date: February 18<br />

Time: 11:00am–12:30pm<br />

Location: Albany Marriott, Wolf Road,<br />

Colonie, NY<br />

Details: Mac ‘n Cheese is a favorite food<br />

of all ages! Come to the Albany Marriott in<br />

Colonie and taste 30 different varieties of the<br />

dish, prepared by local restaurants. Then, vote<br />

for your favorites! The proceeds benefit the Regional<br />

Food Bank of Northeastern New York.<br />

Cost: $15 for adults/$5 for kids ages 5 to 12/<br />

free under 5.<br />

Contact: saratoga.com/event/mac-n-cheesebowl-40165<br />

Raquette Lake Winter Carnival<br />

Dates: February 18–February 19<br />

Times: All Day Events<br />

Location: Raquette Lake, NY<br />

Details: A two-day event featuring small<br />

town tradition and big time fun. The library<br />

is open all day for warmth, but outdoors is<br />

where the action takes place. Look for events<br />

and games for kids ages 5-12.<br />

Contact: mylonglake.com or 518-624-3077<br />

February 23<br />

Power Up-UAlbany Weekend<br />

MBA Program Informational<br />

Session<br />

Date: February 23<br />

Time: 6:00pm<br />

Location: Clifton Park, Executive Education<br />

Center, Clifton Park, NY<br />

Details: Attend and information session of<br />

the UAlbany Executive MBA, ranked fourth<br />

for opportunities for Women by The Princeton<br />

Review.<br />

Contact: dpurdy@albany.edu or<br />

518-442-4964<br />

February 25<br />

The Winter Ball: Bond Shaken<br />

Not Stirred<br />

Date: February 25<br />

Time: 8:00pm–12:00am<br />

Location: Hall of Springs, Saratoga Spa<br />

State Park, NY<br />

Details: Join Saratoga Performing Arts<br />

Center’s (SPAC) Junior Committee at the<br />

Second Annual Winter Ball: Bond Shaken<br />

Not Stirred. All proceeds benefit the Classical<br />

Performing Arts at SPAC. Cost $65-$100.<br />

Contact: hallofsprings.com<br />

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herlife | scene and be seen<br />

Herlife Holiday Party<br />

photography by molly sittner<br />

The <strong>HERLIFE</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong> Holiday party<br />

was held on December 14, 2011, at<br />

Saratoga National Golf Club. A grand<br />

buffet was provided along with drink specials,<br />

including the famous HERtini, and attendees<br />

enjoyed music by the Garland Nelson Ensemble.<br />

Ricardo Sopin and Iraida Volodina, professional<br />

dancers and instructors from the Arthur<br />

Murray Dance Studio in Saratoga Springs who<br />

were featured on Dancing with the Stars and<br />

are the current Arthur Murray World Rhythm<br />

Champions, provided a dance demonstration.<br />

In addition, Frank Adams Jewelers, Connelly’s<br />

Diamond Gallery, The Mirror Lake Inn and<br />

Marika Charles donated prizes to be raffled off.<br />

The proceeds benefited The Guardian House, a<br />

shelter for homeless female veterans located in<br />

Ballston Spa, New York.<br />

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