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mittee in Charlotte, expanding efforts to help

defeat Jesse Helms. In 1991, Tonda Taylor

formed Time Out Youth. That same year,

Charlotte hosted the international conference

for Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians

& Gays (PFLAG).

In 1992, as RAIN and the Guild booted

up, local activists began working toward the

adoption of an LGBT-inclusive public accommodations

ordinance. Though the effort would

ultimately fail, being voted down by the city

council in November 1992, it was a significant

first step toward expanded legal rights

for local LGBT citizens just four years after

Charlotte’s first gay advocacy group, First

Tuesday, was founded.

Other community achievements would coneditor’s


by Matt Comer

Charlotte’s community is growing up

This year marks platinum anniversaries

for not one, but two different community organizations

here in Charlotte. For two decades,

the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN)

and the Charlotte Business Guild have served

community members in untold and myriad

ways. No doubt, qnotes has long covered both

groups’ events, successes and achievements,

but no amount of paper and ink will ever accurately

tell the story of how these groups, and

others in Charlotte and across the Carolinas,

affect people in positive, life-changing ways.

Both RAIN and the Charlotte Business

Guild were founded in 1992. It was one of

several landmark years in Charlotte’s LGBT

history in the early 1990s. In 1990, the Human

Rights Campaign set up its first field com-

tinue. In 1994, students at Winthrop University

in nearby Rock Hill, S.C., formed their LGBT

student organization. The same year, NC Pride

brought its festival and parade to the streets of

the Queen City.

In the years to follow, Charlotte took a turn

to the not-so-pleasant. Years of regressive

politics resulted in controversies over the gaythemed

play “Angels in America” and local

arts funding. State Sen. James Forrester from

nearby Gaston County introduced and then

successfully passed the state’s Defense of

Marriage Act. Community empowerment and

capacity-building took a back seat as LGBT

citizens put their advocacy into defense mode.

In the face of such opposition, outcries

for change were prompting growth again.

New advocacy groups like the Mecklenburg

LGBT Political Action Committee were created.

As the millennium came and went, local

citizens began to push again for expanded

civil rights and changes in local law and

policy. The LGBT Community Center of

Charlotte was founded.

Groups like RAIN and the Charlotte

Business Guild, among others, have been


through the thick of both the good times and

the bad times. Scores of community leaders,

professionals and volunteers have worked

with the organizations, striving to keep people

alive, to keep gay business flourishing and to

provide support for those most in need.

Our history and the history of organizations

like RAIN and the Charlotte Business

Guild are all intertwined. They tell a story of a

changing society. They mark the ebb and flow

of political culture, of discrimination, of loss,

of challenge. More importantly, however, they

share the collective experience, knowledge,

wisdom, passion and commitment of real

people with real courage working in the face

of real obstacles toward real, lasting and

positive change. That’s the real story. That’s

what really counts. That’s what will shape the

future. That is what history will remember.

Charlotte’s LGBT community is growing up.

Our organizations are becoming long-lasting

institutions. With reminders of the past and

remembrance of those who came before, we

each will continue to move forward with unity

— for the betterment of ourselves, our city

and our world. : :

I woke up on Wednesday morning, Nov.

7, 2012, almost leaping out of bed with a big

smile on my face, because I knew who was

going to be president for the next four years.

It is President Barak Obama, the nominee I

volunteered for during the last two months.

Along with this good news, I was elated to

see how many other Democratic U.S. senators

were elected, especially among women,

and the new Democratic governors. I was

disheartened about Gov.-elect Pat McCrory’s

election, but that’s a topic for another column.

I quickly opened up my computer and got

onto the various websites that I check daily to

see how the states where marriage equality

was on the ballot were fairing. Lo and behold,

Maryland and Maine voters approved marriage

equality. Soon, Minnesota would do what we in

North Carolina did not succeed in doing: they

voted down an amendment outlawing marriage

equality. They are now in-line to be a state

that welcomes marriage equality. A few days

later, Washington state voters also approved of

marriage equality. And, with that, the evil spell

was broken. Voters across the board of both

political parties and independents voted for

marriage equality. The National Organization

for Marriage (NOM), Family Research Council

and the American Family Association forces

had lost. The onerous hex was gone! After 33

states amended their constitutions to deny

people marriage equality, four states heralded

a new day in America. And, the last state to

amend its constitution, perhaps in the history of

the United States? North Carolina.

The mastermind who perfected the art of

amending state constitutions that denied my

partner and me the right to choose to marry or

be in a domestic relationship was the nefarious

Karl Rove, e.g., “Bush’s brain,” “Turd bloson

being a gay parent

by Brett Webb-Mitchell :: qnotes contributor

North Carolina: The last state that

amended its constitution with the

purpose of outlawing marriage equality

and institutionalized hate

som.” Rove used marriage amendments as a

“wedge issue,” part of a conservative strategy,

placing marriage equality on statewide ballots

during a presidential year. In language that was

non-offensive, but hate-filled, these amendments

were meant to be a “get out the vote”

dog-whistle among conservative voters whom

he assumed were largely homophobic and of

the “Christian right” variety, or what columnist/

blogger Andrew Sullivan calls “Christianists.”

My home state of Oregon was one of those

states who amended their constitution to take

away marriage equality in 2004. This same

tactic was taken by the Republicans in the

N.C. General Assembly as they originally tried

to get the vote to amend the state constitution

on Nov. 6, 2012, during the presidential

election, thus getting more people to vote for

the Republican nominee from both among the

African American community, Republicans and

Christianist party members. However, as a last

minute agreement to get a veto-proof majority

in the General Assembly, the legislators

who drove this amendment without debate,

compromised and let the vote be taken on

the day of the primary elections, May 8, 2012.

Again: North Carolina is the last state to amend

its constitution, joining with the other states of

the former Confederacy and beyond in denying

people rights and privileges others can freely

participate in and use.

What does this feel like to live in North

Carolina now? U.S. Sen. John Kerry, then a

young soldier, once asked, “How do you ask

a man to be the last man to die in Vietnam?”

at the end of the war. As a citizen of North

Carolina, I find myself living in a place that may

be the very last state to amend its constitution

with words of exclusion rather than inclusion,

with homophobia and anti-“gay marriage”

being the dying war. As a gay parent in North

Carolina, I shudder in the knowledge that

my state — the state that gladly receives my

taxes without treating me as an equal citizen

as a straight parent and denies me the right to

choose to be married or be in at least a domestic

partnership — is the last state to amend its

constitution on the issue of marriage. North

Carolina is not my home state. Those who

voted to amend the constitution embarrass me,

but more sadly embarrass themselves, driving

away new businesses and cultural opportunities,

let alone revenue from weddings, receptions

and honeymoon locations. It most likely

will take another vote of the populace to undo

this mark of shame in the state constitution. It

is a dark stain of hate locked in the very fabric,

the very laws, of the state. : :


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Bruised not beaten:

N.C. gay activists see new roads to equality

Equality NC wants to focus on local equality initiatives following anti-LGBT amendment and legislative losses

by Matt Comer ::


with Equality North Carolina,

the statewide lesbian, gay,

bisexual and transgender

(LGBT) advocacy and education

organization, said at their

annual conference at the

University of North Carolina-

Greensboro on Nov 17, that

they will begin shifting their

focus to increase their support

of equality initiatives on the

local level in North Carolina.

Stuart Campbell, executive

director of Equality North

Carolina, told a crowd of over

300 conference attendees that

his group would begin to work

on passing employment nondiscrimination

laws in cities

and towns across the state.

“We’re going to have to

grow the base,” Campbell said

in his morning address, “by

creating coalitions and working

with folks on the local level with

lots of different communities.

We’ll be building a movement

that will ultimately lead to a

statewide effort.”

The move comes after a divisive constitutional

amendment battle and November elections

handed more control to Republicans.

In May, 61 percent of Tar Heels voted to

approve an anti-LGBT state constitutional

amendment. The campaigns for and against

the amendment racked up millions of dollars

in expenditures in a statewide campaign that

brought newspaper, radio and television advertising

and on-the-ground outreach to both

rural and urban parts of the state.

After the election, Equality North Carolina’s

prospects for LGBT-inclusive legislation are

dimmer. Republicans strengthened their

majority in the General Assembly and former

Charlotte Mayor Pat McCrory was elected the

state’s first Republican governor in 20 years.

Campbell said the group will be working to

ensure support from new Republican allies.

“Republicans in the legislature need

exactly zero votes to pass anything they

want,” Campbell said. “If we want to stop

anything bad we’re going to have to find some

Republicans to work with us. If we can’t find

them, we’re going to have to recruit them.

We’re going to need to find fair-minded candidates

of any party to support us.”

With LGBT advances in the legislature

practically dead-on-arrival for now, the

statewide group’s local focus will take the

organization to cities small and large. They

want to work on local ordinances and policies

prohibiting anti-LGBT employment discrimination,

extending domestic partner benefits and

other measures.

“We plan to look at between two and four

cities a year and expand on the ground at the

local level if the laws are already there or enact

them where they are missing,” Campbell said.

Equality NC Communications Director Jen Jones, right, presents Salem College student

Sammi Kiley, left, with the organization’s inaugural Student Leadership Award at the Equality

NC Gala on Nov. 17.

Lessons from a neighbor

Equality North Carolina’s shift to more

local issues mirrors the strategy of other

advocacy groups across the South faced with

unfriendly legislatures.

Activists in South Carolina faced their own

anti-gay amendment in 2006. It passed with

78 percent approval. Advocates there have

also been long-accustomed to working with

Republican lawmakers.

South Carolina Equality’s focus on local

equality initiatives has been successful.

Several cities and counties there include LGBT

protections for public workers and citizens in

a variety of employment, housing and public

accommodations laws, including state capital

Columbia and beach port city Charleston.

Ryan Wilson, executive director of SC

Equality, hopes successes on the local level

will eventually move statewide legislation.

“In a state where 50, 60 or 70 percent of

the state is protected by some of these ordinances,”

Wilson said, “then you can go back

to the legislature and say, ‘Look, the world

has not come to an end. This is what our local

communities want.’ Then maybe you can pass

a law statewide.”

SC Equality’s local work hasn’t come at the

expense of State House lobbying.

“Last year, the safe schools bill went all

the way through one of the houses of the

State House and was on its way through the

second one before it encountered the end of

the session,” he said.

Like Equality NC, SC Equality has seen the

importance of identifying allies in Republicanled


“Definitely, relationships were built with

moderate Republicans on things like safe

schools,” Wilson said. “There are places

where you can find common ground on bullying

or workplace discrimination.

You have

to sort of work beyond

the ‘R’ and the ‘D’

designations and start

finding folks regardless

of party affiliation

who will care… They

exist. It is just a matter

of building those

relationships and

empowering people

from their districts to

have a voice.”

Despite recent

setbacks, North

Carolina activists see

a variety of positive

accomplishments and

outcomes Campbell

said his group will use

to their advantage.

“We demonstrated

that we are a

committed community,”

Campbell said of

the amendment fight.

“We came together. We worked really hard.”

The amendment loss “awakened a sleeping

giant,” Campbell said. “We turned out over

800,000 people who stood with us. We’re not

as alone as it sometimes feels.”

That power will come in handy when it is

time to mobilize supporters again, Campbell

said. ”We have to find a way to tap into that

feeling of fairness and equality our friends and

neighbors have and expand upon that.”

Barber schools gala

attendees in social justice

Following their annual conference, supporters

of Equality North Carolina gathered

at downtown Greensboro’s Empire Room

for a night of fundraising, reverie and calls

to action.

The Rev. Dr. William J. Barber, II, president

of the North Carolina NAACP, was among

several attendees honored with awards this

year. He was also the gala’s keynote speaker.

He called those present to action and unity on

matters of social justice.

“We might lose the battle, but

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Guild to bestow awards

CHARLOTTE — The Charlotte Business

Guild (CBG), a member of the Charlotte

Chamber Diversity Action Council, is hosting

its 20th Anniversary Gala on Dec. 1, 6:30-11:30

p.m. at the Renaissance Charlotte SouthPark

Hotel, 5501 Carnegie Blvd.

Long-time activist Don King will be the

guest speaker.

The event will feature a cocktail/networking

cash bar hour, followed by a plated dinner

with choice of entrée, as well as entertainment,

dancing and door prizes.

During the evening, the guild will present

its annual Community Service Award to unannounced

recipients in the LGBT community

leader, LGBT-friendly business and straight

ally categories.

Founded in 1992, the guild has managed

the annual awards since 2004.

Admission is $65 per person and can be

obtained online at the guild’s website at

— L.M.

Leaders honored

CHARLOTTE — Grassroots Leadership

will honor two Queen City leaders at a special

event on Dec. 13, 6-8 p.m., at Unitarian

Universalist Church of Charlotte, 234 N.

Sharon Amity Rd.

Mecklenburg County Commission member

Jennifer Roberts and Unity Fellowship Church

pastor Bishop Tonyia Rawls will be given the

Community Leader Award for their “enduring

dedication to the common good.”

Executive Director Bob Libal and founder

Si Kahn will make the presentations.

The function will also serve as a fundraiser,

benefiting the work of Grassroots


The organization began in 1980 and helped

to train and support “leaders, organizers, organizations,

networks and coalitions that will

make long-term positive change inevitable.”

To reserve a spot, call 704-332-3090 or


For more information, visit

— L.M.

Chorus brings out reindeers

CHARLOTTE — One Voice Chorus will

present “The Reindeer Games” on Dec. 7-8 at

7:30 p.m. and Dec. 8 at 2 p.m. at the Unitarian

Universalist Church of Charlotte, 234 N.

Sharon Amity Rd.

This holiday concert’s theme is a tribute

to the London Olympics. Audience members

can compete for glory or cheer on their

favorite “OV-lympian, the promoters said. A

reception follows.

Tickets are $20, evening shows, and $15

for adults and $10 for children for the matinee.

Proceeds go to support One Voice Chorus.

Other concerts in the 2012-13 season

are “Telescopic Hearts” on Feb. 17; “Songs

of Wisdom” on April 5-6; and “Hollywood

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Squares: British Invasion” on June 6-8. Details

will follow in subsequent qnotes’s issues.

The chorus is also engaged in a challenge

campaign that ends on Nov. 30.

Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte Director

John Quillin and Rick Haffner, said that if

$2,500 is raised by the deadline date that

they will match it. No contribution is too

large or small.

Outreach programs slated for December

include performances for residents at the

Charlotte Men’s Shelter, neighbors visiting

Urban Ministries Center, foster families in the

region, and public advocates working with the

Community Building Initiative.

For tickets, to make contributions or for

more information, visit

Checks may also be mailed to One Voice

Chorus, P.O. Box 9241, Charlotte, NC 28299.

— L.M.


Chorus celebrates 14th season

WINSTON-SALEM — Triad Pride Men’s

Chorus (TPMC) will hold a winter concert,

“Celebrate,” on Dec. 8, 8 p.m., in Greensboro

at Greensboro Day School, 5401 Lawndale

Dr., and Dec. 15, 8 p.m., in Winston-Salem at

Wake Forest University, Wait Chapel, 1834

Wake Forest Rd., as part of its 14th season, A

Season of Pride.

The concert also marks the end of an

era for the chorus as its conductor, Woodson

Faulkner II, steps down to pursue other


TPMC will also be sponsoring a food drive

for Triad Health Project in Greensboro and

AIDS Care Services in Winston-Salem. Bring

extra dried or canned goods when attending

the concerts.

Tickets are $15 in advance and $20 at

the door.

For tickets or more information, visit

— L.M.


Gender-neutral housing approved

CHAPEL HILL — Members of the

University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill Board

of Trustees approved a proposal on Nov. 15

that would allow students to choose their

dormitory roommates regardless of gender.

The flagship public school becomes the first

UNC System institution to approve the new

housing option, which will be available to

students next fall.

The proposal was initially denied by

Chancellor Holden Thorp earlier this year. A

committee of several trustees unanimously

backed the plan during the week of Nov. 12.

Students at the school have been campaigning

for the change for some time. They

say being given the option to choose their

own roommates will increase safety. Many

LGBT students, they say, have faced bullying

and harassment living with unfriendly or

hostile roommates.

Foundation to launch in December

CHARLOTTE — Twelve In Twelve

(, the non-profit

organization founded by J.D. Lewis

that took his two sons, Jackson and

Buck, around the world for 12 months

doing relief work on all seven continents

and 12 countries, will launch The

Twelve In Twelve Foundation at Harvest

Moon Grille at The Dunhill Hotel, 237

N. Tryon St., on Dec. 12 from 5:30-7:30

p.m. Admission is free and the public is


Lewis, an accomplished actor,

playwright, acting coach and commercial

talent who moved to Charlotte in

2007 to open an Actor’s Lab office and

to raise his children, has established an

official 501(c)(3) for Twelve In Twelve

to facilitate other families making such

international humanitarian trips and to

continue to raise money and awareness

for the organizations Lewis and

his sons helped on their journey. qnotes

featured the family prior to their journeys

in its May 28, 2011 issue (goqnotes.


Twelve In Twelve was created because

J.D.’s 13-year-old son came home

from school one day and said, “Dad, we have this great life…How come we aren’t doing more

to make a difference in the world?” That sparked an idea that would change their lives forever.

They created a not-for-profit organization and held grassroots funding-raising events to

finance the cause. In July 2011, they headed out on a journey of a lifetime. At the time, they

did not know that it was a world record, the first family to do humanitarian work on all seven

continents in one year.

The family traveled to St. Petersburg, Russia, where they volunteered in an orphanage

for children with Down Syndrome. In Chiang Mai, Thailand, the father and his boys volunteered

at The Elephant Nature Park, helping elephants rescued from abuse. The family say

the Dalai Lama speak for four days and then took up English lessons for Tibeten refugees. In

Nairobi, Kenya, they volunteered at an HIV clinic.

The family even traveled to Antarctica, where they volunteered on The Ushuaia Ship

and assisted scientists and crew. But, they didn’t forget about home. They traveled to the

Deep South, volunteering with Operation Upward, a food program for inner-city kids in

Jackson, Miss.

The Foundation will help raise awareness, donations and supplies for the organizations

they worked with worldwide.

J.D. Lewis created an extensive photographic and film library along his journey. The

13,000 photo images and film footage will be developed into a documentary and will include

interviews with those the family met along the way.

The ultimate mission of Lewis’ Twelve In Twelve is to establish a local office, website and

network of organizations, helping to guide other individuals and/or families interested in volunteering

to positively impact the global community. Twelve In Twelve also seeks to inspire

both children and parents to engage in the issues that are impacting the world by promoting

the efforts of Twelve In Twelve volunteer families.

For more information, visit

— from press releases

“No one should feel unsafe,” senior

Zaina Alsous, one of the campaign’s student

organizers, told The News & Observer.

“Dorms are rites of passage, and no one

should miss out.”

Chapel Hill becomes the first public college

or university in North Carolina to offer

a gender-neutral housing choice. Nearly 100

other schools across the country already

offer similar housing choices, including

North Carolina private schools Duke

University, Guilford College and Warren-

Wilson College.

For more on the story and links to further

coverage from The News & Observer, visit

— M.C.

Photo Credit: Blyte Spirit Photography


ALFA plans AIDS remembrance

HICKORY — The AIDS Leadership

Foothills-area Alliance (ALFA) will host a

World AIDS Day HIV/AIDS awareness event,

“Universal Access to Care and Human

Rights,” on Dec. 1 at First United Methodist

Church, 311 3rd Ave. N.E. During the day’s

programming, it will commemorate those lost

and celebrate victories in treatment and prevention

services. A reception will be held at 3

p.m., with a service following at 3:30 p.m.

For more information, call 828-322-1447,

ext. 224, email or visit

— L.M.



Gay marriage by the numbers

LOS ANGELES, Calif. — On Election

Day, the residents of Maine, Maryland and

Washington affirmed that their states will

recognize marriages for lesbian and gay

couples. An analyses of Census 2010 data

conducted by the Williams Institute suggests

that approximately 35,000 same-sex couples

live in these states and that over 17,000 will

marry in the next three years. Many of these

couples are raising children, ranging from 14

percent of same-sex couples living in Maine

to 20 percent in Maryland.

After the vote, same-sex couples can now

marry in nine states in the U.S. and the District

of Columbia. As a result, 20 percent of samesex

couples now live in states where they can

marry. Overall, 16 percent of the U.S. population

lives in states where same-sex couples

can marry.

If the U.S. Supreme Court affirms or let’s

stand the 9th Circuit opinion striking down

Proposition 8 in California, 35 percent of

same-sex couples in the U.S. will live in states

where they can marry; and 28 percent of the

U.S. population will live in states where samesex

couples can marry.

— D.S.

Business index shows growing support

WASHINGTON, D.C. — In the 2013

Corporate Equality Index, released Nov. 14,

a record 252 businesses achieved the top

rating of 100 percent, earning the coveted

distinction of “Best Places to Work for LGBT

Equality.” As a point of comparison, 13 businesses

earned a 100 percent in the inaugural

CEI 11 years ago, demonstrating that a new

normal has arrived. The policies, benefits

and practices companies must implement

to earn a perfect score are best-in-class

demonstrations of corporate commitments to

LGBT workers. The top-rated businesses span

across industries, geographies, and size.

This year’s report at a glance (available in

full at

• A record 74 major businesses and law firms

publicly supported pro-equality legislation at

the state and federal levels.

• The 2013 CEI saw the largest growth in the

survey’s history with 54 new businesses participating.

The number of employers officially

rated in the CEI has skyrocketed from 319 in

2002, to 688 this year.

• This year’s CEI marks the first time a majority

of Fortune 500 companies have nondiscrimination

policies that cover gender identity

(from 50 percent to 57 percent), while an

astonishing 84 percent of overall CEI participants

cover gender identity.

• Transgender-inclusive healthcare coverage

continues to rise. Now in its second year as

a mandatory criterion for a company to earn

100 percent, 287 participating companies (42

percent) offer comprehensive healthcare

coverage to their transgender workers, up

from 19 percent last year.

— D.S.

Trans observances held in Nov.

LOS ANGELES, Calif. — Trans Awareness

Week was observed earlier this month. It is

a time devoted to raising visibility of trans

people and the issues affecting their lives.

The week culminated on Nov. 20 with the

Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day to

honor those who have lost their lives to transphobic

violence. To mark the Week, LGBT

media watchdog group GLAAD released four

new videos in the “I AM: Trans People Speak”

video series. GLAAD says the video campaign

“can help us better educate people about

what it means to be transgender and build

understanding that leads to equality.”

— D.S.

Business leaders attend summit

LONDON, England — On Nov. 13, at the

first Out on the Street: Europe Leadership

Summit, chief executives from some of the

world’s largest companies came together

with senior leaders from Bank of America

Merrill Lynch, Barclays, Citi, Credit Suisse,

Deutsche Bank, Goldman Sachs, Morgan

Stanley and more to discuss how the financial

services industry can advance LGBT

equality. This is the first time that so many

senior leaders have convened to work for

LGBT equality, in Europe.

The event builds on the successful Out

on the Street summits, held annually in New

York, which earlier this year brought together

over 200 senior leaders from across Wall

Street, including the CEOs of Bank of America,

Goldman Sachs, KPMG and Elliott Capital.

The summit focused on a number of topics

of global interest to LGBT employees, straight

allies and their companies, including: a crossindustry

discussion on the importance of LGBT

equality from a client perspective; the role and

importance of having straight allies and how

best to engage and “activate” them; and an

in-depth comparative discussion of women’s

experiences, both gay and straight, in banking.

— D.S.

UPS pulls Boy Scout funding

ATLANTA, Ga. — United Parcel Service

(UPS), a corporate donor of the Boy Scouts

of America, has announced a new policy that

will cease all future

funding to the Boy

Scouts until gay

Scouts and leaders

are welcome within

the organization.

Eagle Scout

Zach Wahls (pictured),

founder of

Scouts for Equality,

launched the

campaign on just days after Intel

Corporation, one of the Boy Scouts largest

corporate donors, affirmed the company is no

longer supporting the Boy Scouts of America.

Like Intel, UPS gave hundreds of thousands of

dollars to the Boy Scouts in 2010, despite the

organization’s anti-gay policy.

— D.S.

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special coverage

presented by

RAIN marks

20 years of service

From the end of AIDS Crisis to today, Regional AIDS

Interfaith Network founder and staffers devoted to

life-changing relationships and service to community

by Matt Comer ::

Trained as a minister and having worked in several congregations,

the Rev. Deborah Warren didn’t foresee herself leading

an HIV/AIDS organization. All that would change in the early

1990s as Warren was faced with the realities of the lingering

effects of the harrowing AIDS Crisis.

Warren had just begun an internship at Carolinas Medical

Center. There, she met AIDS patients face to face. She heard

their stories. She felt their pain.

“I didn’t know that much about AIDS and, certainly earliest

on, had that same kind of fear of contagion that other people

had,” she says. “I would meet people who were going home

from the hospital and most of the people I saw in the hospital

didn’t really have enough support. You can imagine: a very sick

person going home and trying to fend for themselves.”

What she experienced pulled on her heartstrings. She wondered

why more people of faith just like her weren’t doing more

to help those who, at this time, needed more support than ever.

In the 20 years since, Warren has turned her passion

for service and care into a career and the organization she

founded in 1992, the Regional AIDS Interfaith Network, or RAIN,

has served literally thousands and thousands of those affected

and infected by HIV.

This year, the group celebrates two decades of community

service and lives changed for the better. And, though the organization

celebrates, its leaders are quick

to pause and remember that growth for

their group hasn’t come without its share

of hard times.

“I was at the hospital training as

a chaplain and I also became the first

chaplain assigned to the infectious disease

clinic,” says the Rev. Debra Kidd,

RAIN’s senior director of programs.

“Just to watch the loneliness, the pain.

Patients would come in for their visit

and walk in. The next time you saw them

they were using a walker or a cane. The

next time they were in a wheelchair and

the next time they couldn’t show up. It

was just devastating.”

Warren and Kidd, affectionately dubbed “the Debbies” by

those who know them, have patiently persevered since those

sometimes-horrific days. They say attitudes have changed.

Medicines have effectively killed the notion that AIDS is a

death sentence. Families are growing into much better acceptance

of their loved ones.

Warren says she’s also proud of the relationships RAIN has

helped to build.

The community service of RAIN and its staff has long been essential — and rewarded.

Ten years ago, several staffers at RAIN were honored for their service. Pictured here on

the front cover of the Oct. 26, 2002, print edition of qnotes are: (l-r) Rev. Amy E. Brooks,

regional program director; Rev. Stephanie Speller-Henderson, minority program

director; Rev. Deborah C. Warren, founder and executive director; and

Rev. Debra K. Kidd, program director.

“A lot of different communities started coming together,”

she says. “I’m most proud that we’ve brought so many different

people together. That was not the intent when we were

founded, but the commonality we’ve all found is that we care

about AIDS, whether you are gay or straight, African-American

or Caucasian, liberal or conservative, if you live in the wealthy

Myers Park area or an area with fewer resources.”

Warren says RAIN has opened the door to “cross-boundary

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experiences” and says life-changing relationships have been built.

In their daily work, Warren and Kidd are on guard against changing

funding models and other challenges facing those tasked with prevention

and education. The biggest change, Warren says, is a shift from national and

governmental funders from a broad-based prevention strategy to one targeting

only HIV-positive people.

“Earlier on we had a much more robust community education program,”

Warren says.

Despite the challenges, Kidd says RAIN has stuck to it. Their record sometimes

surprises people, she says, who might not have guessed the organization

would live so long.

Warren is confident the organization will continue to grow. Her dream: full

care for those with HIV.

“I look forward to developing a model with a clinical partner where we truly

serve all the needs of people with HIV,” Warren says. “We’ll have strong medical

treatment and medication with the wrap-around supportive services.”

Kidd knows the future will bring changes. She and Warren, along with

other RAIN staff, are ready.

“”We’re going to keep going,” she says. “We’ll show you. It’s hard. It might

morph and do something else or different and it’s already done that in 20 years

and had to. I look forward to the challenges what that’s going to be.” : :

Under new leadership,

AAS-C continues service

The Alliance of AIDS Services - Carolina (AAS-C)

continues its more than 20-year service to the

Triangle area as they continue to welcome new

executive director Stacy Duck into its fold.

Duck was hired on Aug. 6 and brough with her a

wealth of experience from her service as executive

director of the Chatham Social Health Council in Siler

City, N.C.

Duck has 22 years of experience in mental health

and five years of experience with HIV prevention and

education, including 12 years with the State of New York’s Developmental

Disabilities Services Office. Duck has also contributed to numerous scholarly

articles on Latino men and their sexual health in conjunction with ongoing

research at Wake Forest University’s School of Medicine.

AAS-C serves people living with HIV/AIDS, their loved ones, caregivers

and communities at large, through compassionate and non-judgmental care,

prevention, education and advocacy.

Dating back to a 1989 consolidation of a number of grassroots AIDS

service organizations in the Triangle, AAS-C currently provides an array of

services to people living with HIV/AIDS in an eleven-county region. These

services include medical and non-medical case management, pastoral

counseling, nutritional counseling and a food pantry, prevention, testing and


For more information on AAS-C, how you can get involved as a volunteer

or for more information on services, visit : :

— compiled from press release

special coverage presented by

HIV in the United States:

At A Glance

CDC estimates 1.2 million people in the United

States (U.S.) are living with HIV infection. One in five

(20 percent) of those people are unaware of their infection.

Despite increases in the total number of people in

the U.S. living with HIV infection in recent years (due

to better testing and treatment options), the annual

number of new HIV infections has remained relatively

stable. However, new infections continue at far too

high of a level, with approximately 50,000 Americans

becoming infected with HIV each year.

In 2010, an estimated 47,129 people were diagnosed

with HIV infection in the 46 states with confidential

name-based HIV infection reporting since at least

January 2007. In that same year, an estimated 33,015

people throughout the U.S. were diagnosed with AIDS.

Since the epidemic began, an estimated 1,129,127

people in the U.S. have been diagnosed with AIDS.

An estimated 17,774 people with AIDS died in 2009,

and nearly 619,400 people with AIDS in the U.S. have

died since the epidemic began.

By Risk Group

Gay, Bisexual, and Other Men Who Have Sex with

Men (MSM) of all races and ethnicities remain the

population most severely affected by HIV.

• CDC estimates that MSM account for just 2 percent

of the U.S. population, but accounted for 61 percent

of all new HIV infections in 2009. MSM accounted for

49 percent of people living with HIV infection in 2008

(the most recent year national prevalence data are


• In 2009, white MSM continued to account for the largest

number of new HIV infections of any group in the

U.S. (11,400), followed closely by black MSM (10,800).

• Young, black MSM were the only risk group in the

U.S. to experience statistically significant increases in

new HIV infections from 2006-2009 — from 4,400 new

HIV infections in 2006 to 6,500 infections in 2009.

• Since the epidemic began, almost 300,000 MSM with

AIDS have died, including an estimated 6,863 in 2009.

Heterosexuals and Injection Drug Users also

continue to be affected by HIV.

• Heterosexuals accounted for 27 percent of estimated

new HIV infections in 2009 and 28 percent of people

living with HIV infection in 2008.

• Since the epidemic began, more than 80,000 persons

with AIDS, infected through heterosexual sex, have

died, including an estimated 4,434 in 2009.

• HIV infections among women are primarily attributed

to heterosexual contact or injection drug use. Women

accounted for 23 percent of estimated new HIV infections

in 2009 and 25 percent of those living with HIV

infection in 2008.

• Injection drug users represented 9 percent of new

HIV infections in 2009 and 17 percent of those living

with HIV in 2008.

• Since the epidemic began, more than 175,000 injection

drug users with AIDS have died including an

estimated 4,759 in 2009.

By Race/Ethnicity

• Blacks continue to experience the most severe

burden of HIV, compared to other races and ethnicities.

Blacks represent approximately 14 percent of

the U.S. population, but accounted for an estimated

44 percent of new HIV infections in 2009. Blacks

accounted for 46 percent of people living with HIV

infection in 2008.

• Since the epidemic began, more than 250,000 blacks

with AIDS have died , including 8,782 in 2009.

• At some point in their life, approximately 1 in 16 black

men will be diagnosed with HIV infection, as will 1 in

32 black women.

• In 2009, the estimated rate of new HIV infections

among black men was six and a half times as high

as that of white men, and more than two and a half

times as high as that of Hispanic/Latino men and of

black women. In the same year, the estimated rate

of new HIV infections among black women was 15

times that of white women and over three times that

of Hispanic/ Latina women.

Hispanics/Latinos are also disproportionately affected

by HIV.

• Hispanics/Latinos represented 16 percent of the

population but accounted for 20 percent of new HIV

infections in 2009. Hispanics/Latinos accounted for 17

percent of people living with HIV infection in 2008.

• Since the epidemic began, an estimated more than

95,000 Hispanics/Latinos with AIDS have died, including

2,853 in 2009. : :

— Last modified and reviewed on March 14, 2012,

by the Centers for Disease Control Division of

HIV/AIDS Prevention ( and the National

Center for HIV/AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD, and TB

Prevention (

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New advances could help keep

HIV at bay

Truvada, OraQuick newest tools for prevention efforts

by Matt Comer ::

special coverage presented by

Two new advances in HIV/

AIDS prevention and testing

could mean big changes for

those at-risk of infection. This

summer, the Federal Drug

Administration offered their

approval to new uses of AIDS

medicine Truvada and to an athome

HIV test.

Dale Pierce, practice

manager and Ryan White

Program director at Rosedale

ID in Huntersville, says the two

new advances offer plenty of

hope for prevention. Yet, he

describes both as a sort of

“double-edged sword.”

Pierce, who is HIV-positive,

said his experience taking HIV/

AIDS medications played a

crucial role when he and his

partner, who is HIV-negative,

discussed Truvada. His partner

had considered using the medicine

for its newly-approved

prevention method. Known as

a pre-exposure prophylaxis,

or PrEP, Truvada can be taken

daily by an HIV-negative person

to help reduce the risk of HIV


OraQuick’s new at-home HIV test will benefit some who might find it uncomfortable to visit health centers or other public

spaces for free HIV testing events.

Photo Credit: Agência Brasil, licensed under Creative Commons.

“As someone who has gone through having to take the medications

and dealing with its side-effects and how the medicine alters your lifestyle,

it wasn’t something we were willing to try,” Pierce says. “At this

point, we are more focused on practicing safer sex and being aware of

what’s going on.”

Though Pierce and his partner have opted not to use Truvada, he says

it can be of practical use to those at-risk. He offers some warning, hoping

that the potential reduction in infection risk doesn’t give some a false

sense of security. Safer sex practices, he said, are key to prevention.

Pierce says he’s more hopeful about OraQuick, the new at-home

HIV test from OraSure. He has his worries — chief among them the

availability of medical and psychological counseling in the aftermath

of a positive result. Generally, though, the test is a good step toward

increasing the availability of HIV testing for more people.

“It is easer access to testing for those people who might be fighting

the stigma, who may not want to go to free testing events or the health

department,” Pierce says.

At the end of the day, Pierce is glad to see the improvements. But,

he’s quick to remind: “There is no 100 percent sure-fire means to stop

[HIV] transmission,” he says. Knowledge, awareness and safer sex

practices need to be at the forefront of everyone’s mind. : :

— Compiled from the Federal Drug Administration and from

information provided by the AIDS Community Research

Initiative of America (ACRIA).

Quick Facts


Approved by the FDA in July to reduce the

risk of HIV infection among uninfected individuals.

Recommended for use by those who

are at a high risk of infection or those with

HIV-positive sex partners. Used daily as a preexposure

prophylaxis (PrEP). Must be used in

combination with safer sex practices. Shown

to reduce HIV infection among MSM by as

much as 42 percent and among heterosexuals

by as as much as 72 percent. Available by

prescription only. Critics have concerns that

availability of the new drug could discourage

safer sex practices. For more information, visit


Approved by the FDA in August. A rapid

home-use kit used for self-testing. Provides

results within 20-40 minutes. Test uses sample

of fluid from moth. One line appears on stick

if test is negative. Two lines indicate HIV antibodies

were detected. Follow-up confirmation

testing with more robust, lab-based testing

methods is recommended to confirm result.

Unable to determine HIV infection within

the first three months of potential exposure.

False negatives possible after three months.

Available for sale in stores and online to all

people age 17 or older. Critics have concerns

that the in-home testing leaves individuals

without immediate or effective counseling,

referral care and the psychological impact of

testing among casual sex partners or in other

adverse situations. For more information, visit : :

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special coverage presented by

Rosedale ID fundraiser

nets thousands

HIV/AIDS clinic provides food pantry, free testing

by Matt Comer ::

Nearly 350 people attended a special

evening of music, awards and fundraising

in early November at Rosedale ID’s annual

Evening of Hope and Inspiration. The event,

featuring gospel singers Christy Sutherland

and Lynda Randle also featured their annual

Inspiration Awards presented to radio hosts

Matt Harris and Ramona Holloway and youth

activist Jordan Mitzel.

Dale Pierce,

Rosedale’s practice

manager and Ryan

White Program director,

said the event was a

success. Proceeds

will benefit their food

pantry, named in honor

of Jeanne White Ginder,

the mother of 1980s

AIDS victim Ryan White.

Ginder was also present

at the event.

“We took donations

prior and through sponsorships,

we had a lot of

local businesses…step

up,” Pierce said of the

support. “We’re looking

at, after expenses,

$5,000-$6,000. It doesn’t

sound like a lot in the

big scheme of some of the larger fundraisers

in town, but helping people with $30 or $35 gift

cards can have a huge impact on people who

might not have food for the holidays.”

Pierce said the event also served as a way

to raise awareness. The diversity of the audience

was astonishing, he said. Many people,

he said, had not heard of Ginder or her son.

“We got a lot of really good responses

hearing feedback from people who had never

heard Jeanne speak, which I thought was really

important for people who might not have known

who Ryan was or the significance of the Ryan

White Program or the effect his mom had on the

Youth activist Jordan Mitzel, who has

raised thousands of dollars for the

Regional AIDS Interfaith Network’s

Charlotte AIDS Walk, speaks after

receiving an Inspiration Award.

Network President Debbie Warren,

an Inspiration Award recipient in

2011, stands in the background.

Photo courtesy Dale Pierce

movement,” Pierce said. “It really opened this

generation’s eyes to what people really went

through during the early stages of the fight.”

Pierce said education and awareness are

becoming increasing important as time slowly

moves further and further away from the challenges

of the 1980s AIDS Crisis.

“We are starting to see a rise in cases of

younger gay males coming in

to Rosedale and finding they

are HIV-positive,” he said. “It

doesn’t seem like it has the

same weight that it did back


He added, “The great thing

is that it is manageable and

there are great treatments and

people are living longer…but

the fact is that there still is no

cure and people are still dying.

It does alter your lifestyle.”

Rosedale, a medical clinic

which offers full treatment and

care to those with HIV, has

begun to offer free testing every

Tuesday at their Huntersville

offices. Soon, he said, they might

expand their free testing. Several

attendees at their fundraiser

asked if Rosedale could do testing

events at their churches or

other organizations. Others also learned about

different ways they could be involved.

“We did a good job this year of … driving

home the awareness factor and getting

people more educated,” he said. “Several

people talked to me…and didn’t know there

was a Charlotte AIDS Walk. They wanted to

know when it was and how to get involved.

There were people who came just for the

music portion of the event and then signed up

to volunteer with us.”

You can learn more about Rosedale ID,

their services and their food pantry at : :

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Carolina HIV/AIDS resources

AIDS Service Organizations in North Carolina

North Carolina is blessed to have a plethora of community resources and

programming for those living with HIV/AIDS. Several groups throughout the

state work to keep the public educated, provide testing and counseling and

support and case management to those who test positive. To the right are

resources for the Triad, Triangle and Charlotte.


special coverage presented by

AIDS Care Service

206 N. Spruce St., Winston Salem, NC 27101-2747, 336-777-0116

AIDS Care Service provides housing, food pantry services, client services, Ryan White HIV case

management and a variety of support services for Latino and people of color clients.

Triad Health Project

801 Summit Ave., Greensboro, NC 27405, 336-275-1654

Triad Health Project provides case management and other client support services, HIV testing

and prevention outreach, medical, social service and legal referrals, food pantry and nutritional

resources and education, support groups and education, art and exercise programs.


Alliance of AIDS Services-Carolina

324 S. Harrington St., Raleigh, NC 27603, 919-834-2437,

Alliance of AIDS Services-Carolina provides case management, HIV/STD testing and counseling,

emergency assistance for rent and utilities, transportation assistance, housing information and

referrals, mental health, substance abuse or support group resources, referrals and programs.


Carolinas CARE Partnership (formerly Regional HIV/AIDS Consortium)

7510 E. Independence Blvd., Suite 105, Charlotte, NC 28227, 704-531-2467,

Carolinas CARE Partnership provides free HIV/STD testing and counseling, housing assistance,

peer training, case management and other services, prevention and education. Carolinas CARE

Partnership also houses the popular D-UP program, a peer education outreach effort among

young men of color who have sex with men.

House of Mercy

701 Mercy Dr., Belmont, NC 28012, 704-825-4711

House of Mercy provides end-of-life nursing, housing and medical care for persons living with

advanced AIDS. Services include physical therapy and medication assistance.

Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN)

P.O. Box 37190, Charlotte, NC 28237-7190, 704-372-7246,

RAIN (Regional AIDS Interfaith Network), founded in 1992, engages the community to transform

lives and promote respect and dignity for all people touched by HIV through compassionate care,

education and leadership development. Services include CARE Management, Peer2Peer support

& outreach, support groups for youth, faith-based training, chaplain services and caring volunteers

who provide practical support to persons living with HIV and AIDS. RAIN also provides HIV

awareness and prevention education programs to thousands of people each year and is the only

HIV non-profit in the Charlotte metropolitan area providing direct client services.

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20 Questions

LeMond E. Hart, Charlotte

by David Stout ::


14 qnotes Nov. 24-Dec. 7 . 2012

In a typical day LeMond Hart wears several

different hats…and sometimes several

different shirts, pants and shoes, too. You see,

in addition to being a student, a partner in a

long-term relationship, a father figure and a

veteran, he’s also a model. And, he just turned

40 on Nov. 22.

LeMond graduated from Charlotte’s

Independence High School in 1991. He gave

the military eight years, then resettled in the

Queen City with his life partner Jerry Crayton.

Currently, LeMond is in school pursuing a

degree in Health Information Technology. He’s

also an in-demand model for photographic

and runway work. We wanted to get to know

this well-rounded man a little better so we

did what we do. Now you do what you do and

keep reading.

What do you enjoy for breakfast that’s not a

traditional breakfast food?

A cup of coffee, a banana and a Muscle Milk.

Which pair is more obviously a couple: Yogi

Bear & Boo Boo, Dr. Quest & Race Bannon or

Mr. Peabody & Sherman?

Yogi Bear & Boo Boo, of course. Always at

rest areas and in the woods! Jus’ sayin’.

Are you happier with 95-degree days or

32-degree days?

95. Like Nelly says, “It’s getting hot in here…”

What’s your favorite song from the disco era?

“Disco Fever.”

Do you make your bed everyday?

It’s a must! Being prior military and having a

little bit of OCD, my whole day would wrecked

if the bed did not get made.

How do these films rank based on the number

of times you’ve seen them: “The Avengers,”

“Fantastic Four,” “The Incredibles,”


“X-Men,” “X-Men,” “X-Men” (see the sexiest

action hero question below) and “The

Incredibles,” because it was cute!

Which circus act would you most like to

learn to perform?

I want to be shot from the cannon!

Have you ever ridden in a hot air balloon?

No, but I have jumped out of an airplane.

Would you attend a pole dancing

exercise class?

Attend one? I think I could teach one! LOL!

Which old skool rap act is your favorite?

It’s gotta be Wu-Tang Clan, particularly on the

track “Triumph.”

Are there more ink pens, safety pins or thumb

tacks in your home?

There are ink pens galore in here…I’m in


Have you ever been bitten by fire ants?

In the military, I sat on an anthill in the woods.

That was no fun!

Who’s the sexiest action movie star ever?

Hugh Jackman…hands down! I am married

to Wolverine in my gay cartoon life. Don’t

judge me! LOL!

How often do you wear cologne?

Err duh! I’m gay.

Which “culture challenged” TV family

would you rather live beside: Al and Peg

Bundy, Dan and Roseanne Conner or Fred

and Lamont Sanford?

I guess Dan and Roseanne. I would already

know that she was “family” from her attire;

Fred G. Sanford and I would fall out over that

dirty yard; and, Peg would get on my nerves!

Chicken McNuggets, chicken salad or

chicken livers?

Chicken salad, please! I hate livers and processed


Which is greater, your ring finger size or your

shoe size?

My shoe size is bigger. ;-)

Did you ever have a jheri curl?

Did I? I was Lil Michael Jackson! Mine was

not too moist though. “Juices and Berries!”

Have you ever played “Spin the Bottle”?

Yeah and I’m shy!

What’s your go-to word or phrase to express

frustration or anger?

This is working on my nerves!! : :

Photo Credit: Mert Jones Photography

ENC sets new course

continued from page 5

we’vealready won the war…by pulling on

the right strings of justice, love and humility,”

said Barber, who was an instrumental ally in a

coalition of groups which opposed the state’s

anti-LGBT constitutional amendment.

The amendment, among other issues,

Barber said, was a wake-up call for young

North Carolinians.

“Young people who have been tought that

North Carolina was reasonable and progressive,”

Barber said, woke up on May 8 to a

figurative “ice-cold water shock.”

“Even here in North Carolina — though

our black and Latino brothers and sisters have

always known it — the Tar Heel soil is fertile

for hate and fear,” Barber said.

The civil rights leader called forcefully for

a new politics of change.

“We must have a 21st century fusion politics

where we stand together not sometimes

but all the time,” Barber said, calling for stronger

and more united stands against anti-LGBT

discrimination and on prison reform, health

care, education, immigrant rights and voting

rights, among other topics.

“If we stay together long enough and

strong enough, we will win,” Barber said.

Barber called out divisive religious leaders

who he said are misleading followers and

abusing the teachings of the Bible.

“You go and tell Franklin Graham,” he

said of the son of evangelist Billy Graham,

among others, “you want a real conservative

and you ask them why they say so much of


what God said so little and so little of what

God said so much.”

Barber’s keynote was followed by

award presentations. Durham Democratic

state Rep. Larry Hall received the group’s

Legislator of the Year award. Salem College

student Sammi Kiley was the group’s inaugural

student leader honoree. Recipients

of this year’s Bob Page Equality Champion

Awards included Asheville’s Rev. Jasmine

Beach-Ferrara, Charlotte’s Chris McLeod &

Krista Tillman, the Triad’s Rev. Julie Peeples,

Durham blogger Pam Spaulding and

Wilmington’s Sherre Toler. : :

The Common Market

Neighborhood store prepares for 10th anniversary

Plaza Midwood


For those looking for a bit of the unusual, a bit of the hip or a

bit of that small-town general store feeling, there’s no other place

like The Common Market. Owners Blake and Cress Barnes have run

the business for a decade this year, expanding from their one original

Plaza Midwood location to a second in South End. The owners say their

award-winning deli, their craft beer and wine, cheeky gifts and a warm sense of

community keep customers, as diverse as the neighborhood around them, coming back

for more. The Common Market is currently offering a variety of special events and sales as

it gears up for its 10-year anniversary part on Dec. 8, including a “Hell of a Day” wine sale, a

break dance competition, local arts displays, sampling for locally-made food and performances by

the band Shana Blake and the Pivotal Souls as well as special acts from fire throwers!

Visit Common Market: 2007 Commonwelath Ave. and 1515 S. Tryon St.

Learn more:


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drag rag

by Miss Della

qnotes contributor

It’s tea time at the pageant scene!

16 qnotes Nov. 24-Dec. 7 . 2012

As I sit down to write another tardy Drag

Rag, it occurs to me, as it does every once in

a while, that I have not rounded up much tea

this time. It seems the pageantry calendar is

dry about this time, with the exception of a

few tidbits. Pageant enthusiasts notice this

every once in a while and it seems like it happens

before and after the holidays. Don’t ask

me why!

I mentioned to you all that I would eventually

round up the names of the runners-up

from Mr. and Miss Unlimited from a couple

months ago. Our handsome Mr. Unlimited

My’Kel Knight-Addams was happy to

oblige. His runners-up included Raquan

Demornay and Charlotte’s Scooby Damone

Knight-Addams. For the ladies, runners-up

to Alexis Nicole Whitnmey included Dorae

Lorenz and Charlotte’s London Nicole Dior.

Also, there was a Miss West Virginia United

States at Large held recently and although

a judge’s scores got missing and it was not

originally called out this way, after the dust

settled, Paisley Parque won Evening Gown,

Talent and Americana Sportswear. She was

crowned and Charlotte’s Cierra Nicole was

first runner-up and she won On-Stage Q & A.

I do know the Miss America prelims are

not scheduled to start up until around March,

but hopefully a tour will be scheduled for

the new MGA, Sally Sparkles, so she can

tip through NC sometime soon. By the next

time we meet up here, we will have an EOY

prelim or two to talk about and, hopefully,

some Continental and U.S.ofA. stuff as well.

I understand the reigning Miss U.S.ofA.,

LaWanda Jackson, has been visiting and

working a good bit in Raleigh at Legends.

LaWanda, do get to the Queen City sometime

as well, my dear!

This time, our promo is of the newest Miss

Gay U.S.ofA. At Large, Dorae Saunders, who

is also the reigning Miss Scorpio at Large (and

is a former Miss Scorpio, along with a million

other titles, it seems). Surely many readers

remember she was a finalist a couple years

ago on “America’s Got Talent” and she also

appeared in the movie “Trantasia,” based on

the Most Beautiful Transexual pageant held in

Las Vegas a few years ago. It will be good to

see her again the next time we run into each

other at a pageant or a show somewhere. I’m

sure she’ll be beaming, as I’ve watched her

Dorae S. Saunders of Columbia, S.C.: the newly

crowned Miss U.S.ofA. At Large

compete (and judged her a time or two) for

years now and she has come into her own.

Just a couple weeks ago, the All-American

Goddess prelims took place at Scorpio.

Promoter Brooke Divine-Storm LaReese was

spread thin playing hostess to everyone —

and spent a pretty penny, too. Many titleholders

were in the building to be presented or to

perform or both. Many were mentioned in the

previous Rag, but I was disappointed to learn

that Dena Cass nor Alexis Nicole Whitney

would be joining us. It was good to see several

folks, including Savannah Leigh, Shae Shae

LaReese and head judge Jennifer Warner

who reigns as Miss United States Icon. I can

say I was blown away by the professionalism

exhibited by both All-American Goddess

titleholders, Whitney Paige and Asia O’Hara.

One can really tell Whitney gained a lot of

her training from the days of competing in

the Miss America system, that’s for sure. Top

notch and pure drag all the way! Before coming

to Charlotte, Whitney stayed in Nashville

with friends Brandy Andrews and her roomie

Mo and they were in awe of this drag legend.

(And, Brandy loved cooking for her!)

Oh yeah — the results! Tia Douglas is

the new NC All-American Goddess and her

runner-up was Aria B. Cassadine. For the At-

Large girls, Nina Fierra won and her RU was

Phoxee Roxx.

Before going to press, I heard from a dear

old friend of mine, my little sis Brandonna

DuPree, now making her home back in

Minnesota by way of a short stint in DC. She

was in DC for a pageant, Miss United States,

and she was calling to pour some pageant tea,

as she had just placed as 1st RU there and

won Interview, Gown and Most Beautiful. She

told me she travelled with the ever-popular

Tiffany T. Hunter of Continental fame, who

now also makes calls Minnesota home. I had

no idea! Anyway, the winner was Mercedes

Munro of California. she won Talent. Aunye

Diamond of Maryland was 2nd RU and she

won presentation. The pageant was held at

Club Omega.

Hopefully next time, we’ll have a lot more

pageant tea to be thankful for! Happy Belated

Turkey Day! : :

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Nov. 24-Dec. 7 . 2012 qnotes 17

out in the stars

by Charlene Lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor

November 24 - December 7


The Sun enters affable, honest Sagittarius.

Our hopes and aspirations know no bounds

even if a few of the niceties fall through the

cracks. So, while we may not be the smoothest

of operators, we still know how to maneuver

around obstacles.

SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Things right now

highlight your glowing personality. People of

influence gather around you and anxiously

await for your ideas. Use this hot intensity for

niceness instead of nastiness. The temptation

may be to settle an old score, but wise, gay

Archers understand that revenge is one of

the few dishes that is best eaten cold, along

with potato salad.

CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Think beyond your

own petty concerns. The universe demands a

more humanitarian effort from you. So rather

than continue to view life from the sidelines,

volunteer, donate and get involved in any worthy

cause. What a change of pace for you!

And, yet, smart pink Caps also realize that the

more they give, the more they get. No not in


AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Compadres are mere

putty in your hands. Folks gravitate to you as

you command the group dynamic. This is fine

as long as you don’t let the party turn into a

great performance. There is a time for the

conquering diva and a time for democratic

camaraderie. Choose the latter, Aqueerius.

Life moves on and the blush will soon be off

your particular rose.

PISCES (02.20-03.20) Guppies are not ones to

kow tow to the rich and powerful. It almost

seems beneath them. But, if you were to think

of it as “greasing the wheels” to your eventual

success, it may be a bit more palatable. And, it

will be so easy for you to do now. Really, what

is the harm in oiling a few large cogs? It is fine

as long as you don’t do it with your tongue.

ARIES (03.21-04.20) Even if you are no longer a

student, you can still learn a thing or two. Your

curiosity is piqued and you yearn to expand

your knowledge. Good. Don’t be lazy, gay Ram.

Get off your duff and scratch your itchy hooves

through school or travel. You can snare a

foreign comrade in this wild journey. Two travel

as cheaply as one if they bunk together.

TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Queer Bulls can charm

the pants off just about anyone now. You simmer

in your sexuality, so try to blow a few fuses

as you increase your voltage. Choose your conquests

wisely; you may not know when enough

is enough and it would be a shame to waste

energy on liaisons who are bull dozing guzzlers.

Then again, it could be rather fun.

GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Feel free to discuss

any nit picky issues with partners now. But,

be warned — when pink Twins become too

comfortable in relationships, they may begin

to take partners for granted. As charming as

you think you are, remember to be especially

caring and thoughtful now. If not, ask for

forgiveness with buckets of champagne and

crates of attention.

CANCER (06.22-07.23) It’s a time of great

accomplishment in your day-to-day job.

Gay Crabs should make the best use of this

beneficent energy by unleashing new ideas,

beginning prized projects and planning your

best moves at least three moves ahead. Also,

use this time to revamp your diet and exercise

regime. It is never too early to prepare for festive

nude holiday celebrations.

LEO (07.24-08.23) Unleash your creative, gay

muse. Paint, dance, write or create something

beautiful. If you’re no Picasso, then put your

juices to work planning a delightful party or

five. It is a time for romance, so add a dash

of fun into an otherwise monastic life. Proud

Lions needn’t stay home nursing their memories.

Get out there and flip your tail around

town, honey.

VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Queer Virgins often

decorate their homes in early functional office

style. This time period demands a warmer,

charming and comfortable home decor. So,

trade in your modern, steel highback chair

for something a bit more cushy and inviting.

When you begin to feel cuddly, who knows

who you can lure into your web to snuggle

with you. How fly is that?

LIBRA (09.24-10.23) If you have something…

anything…meaningful to say, say it with conviction.

Proud Libras can sugarcoat any harsh

comments and be diplomatic with almost

anyone. Create connections and rebuild any

frayed ties. If you give even the most beastly

folks a chance to redeem themselves, you

may even find something genuinely nice about

them. And, then again.

SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) They say you should

never count your chickens before they’re

hatched and, yet, you can now hatch a very

clever investment strategy. Even secretive

strategists offer you tantalizing tidbits of fiscal

information. Make good use of every snippet

of advice, do your homework and carefully

invest your dough. Gather those nest eggs and

sit on them a while, proud Scorp. : :

© 2012 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC.

All Rights Reserved. Entertainment.

info: Visit for

e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry.

My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology

For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is

available at bookstores and major booksites.


Do you believe the awareness of HIV/AIDS has

increased or decreased in the time since the 1980s

AIDS Crisis? What is to blame: Is it funding,

generational changes or ‘HIV fatigue’?

See the options and vote:

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on the map



Barbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316

free BBQ from 3-6 p.m.

The Sunday Social Spades/Card Games &

House Muzik, Nickel Bar

from 5 p.m.-Midnight

House Cast Show, The Scorpio

with DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m.

Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshed

free dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m.

karaoke, 9 p.m.


Movie Night, Bar at 316

starts at 9 p.m.

Monday Madness, Chasers

pool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prize

and $25 bar tab.

Boxing & Monday Night Football, Sidelines

Free Pool, The Woodshed

all day.


Karaoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316

starts at 9 p.m.

Pool Tournament, Central Station

Twisted Trivia, Chasers

with Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior.

Showtime at 12:30 a.m.

Trivia Tuesdays, Marigny

hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.

Midwood Madness, Petra’s

half-price bottles of wine

Karaoke, The Woodshed

starts at 9 p.m.


Game Night, Bar at 316

Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’s

starts at 8 p.m.

Karaoke, Petra’s

hosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m.

Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpio

featuring Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m.

Pool Tournament, The Woodshed

starts at 10:30 p.m.


Thursday Night House Party, Bar at 316

Pool Tournament, Central Station

Rockin’ Well Thursdays, Chasers

with Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m.

Free HIV Testing, Connections

the 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m.

Karaoke Night, Hartigan’s

hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m.

Team Boystown, Marigny

starts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m.


SpeakEasy Thursday Open Mic Night,

Nickel Bar

from 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.

Karaoke Night, The Rainbow In

free for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.

Underwear Night, The Woodshed


House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316

Free HIV Testing, Connections

the 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m.

A-List Fridays, Marigny

hosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m.

Feel Good Fridays Dance Night, Nickel Bar

from 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.

Live Performances, Petra’s

Roxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow In

starts at 11p.m.

Life’s a Drag, The Scorpio

with Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.


House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316

The Angela Lopez Show, Chasers

show starts at 12:30 a.m.

Live DJ, Hartigan’s

Krewe Saturdays, Marigny

Sexy Saturdays Special Events, Nickel Bar

from 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.

Live Performances, Petra’s

Urban Variety Show, The Scorpio

with Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.

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Center of Charlotte

Seeks to promote

diversity, acceptance

and visibility of the

LGBT community

through original and

collaborative programming and events

and by providing an inclusive, welcoming

and affordable environment for all.

820 Hamilton St., Suite B11 1

Charlotte, NC 28206


White Rabbit

North Carolina’s

LGBT everything

store. Complete line

of Pride merchandise,

plus magazines,

books, DVDs, T-shirts,

underwear, swimwear, athletic shorts,

hats, hoodies, socks, and more.

920 Central Ave.

Charlotte, NC 28204

704-531-9988 . phone

704-531-1361 . fax


Charlotte & Surrounding Area





Wilkinson Blvd.



Billy Graham Pkwy.



Tuckaseegee Rd.

Morris Field Dr.

Freedom Dr.

Alleghany St.

Bradford Dr.

Ashley Rd.

Andr ew Jackson Hwy.


Old Steele Creek

Tuckaseegee Rd.

Freedom Dr.


West Blvd.


W Morehead


Rozzelles Ferry Rd.


Beatties Ford Rd.



7 1


S. Tryon St.

South Blvd.

N. Graham St.


Dalton Ave.




E. 7th St.

E. 5th St.

E. 4th St.

E. Stonewall St.

S. Church St.

S. College St.



Atando Ave.

N. Tryon St.


Seigle Ave.


N Davidson St.



Hawthorne Ln.

The Plaza


Matheson Ave.

N. Tryon St.

E 36th St.




Central Ave.


The Plaza


Shamr ock

Eastway Dr.

Eastway Dr.

Kilborne Dr.

Central Ave.


420 W. Main Ave. Gastonia, NC

Gaston Ave.

Andrew Jackson Hwy.

Baskin Rd.

W. Airling Ave.

N. Chester St.

S. Chester St.


S. York St.

N. York St.

W. Garrison Blvd.

N. Marietta St.

W. Main Ave. E. Main Ave.







Andrew Jackson Hwy.

S. Marietta St.

The Hide-A-Way

405 Baskins Rd. Rock Hill, SC

DavidLyle Blvd.


West Blvd.









Billy Graham Pkwy.

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Billy Graham Pkwy.



Pressley Rd.

S. Tryon St.

Barringer Dr.



S. Tryon St.

Old PinevilleRd.

South Blvd.



1 The Bar at 316

316 Rensselaer Ave.

2 Central Station

2131 Central Ave.

3 Chasers

3217 The Plaza

4 Hartigan's Irish Pub

601 S. Cedar St.

5 Sidelines

4544-C South Blvd.

6 Nickel Bar

2817 Rozzelles Ferry Rd.


Marigny Dance Club

Empire Lounge

1440 S. Tryon St., Suite 110

8 Petra's Piano

Bar & Cabaret

1919 Commonwealth Ave.

9 The Scorpio

2301 Freedom Dr.

10 The Woodshed

3935 Queen City Dr.

11 Blue Bar

2906 Central Ave.

12 Cathode Azure

1820 South Blvd.

Suite 106

Rainbow In

4376 Charlotte Hwy. Lake Wylie, SC


Bonum Rd.

Montgomery Rd.

Charlotte Hwy.

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20 qnotes Nov. 24-Dec. 7 . 2012

tell trinity

by Trinity :: qnotes contributor

Being neat can go a ‘tidy’ bit overboard?

Hey Trinity,

My roommate’s very anal. She likes the kitchen

and bathroom kept clean a certain way and

that’s not all. How do I get her to be less anal and

more relaxed?

A Pain in the Butt, NYC, NY

Hey A Pain in the Butt,

Anal, being obsessively attentive to detail, is

only a problem when

someone else wants

to have things done

their way. Very successful

people are

usually dedicated

to detail, i.e., a good

lawyer or architect.

Nonetheless, pumpkin,

always communicate

your problems

to your roommate in a

timely manner and try

to compromise. One

day you may end up on the other side.

Dearest Trinity,

My live-in lover of three years hardly talks to me

anymore. Now, I found out he has mail sent to his

mom’s house. I feel like he’s hiding something.

How can I get him to talk?

Speak No Evil, Savannah, GA

Dearest Speak No Evil,

You could snoop around for more clues and try

to investigate, but if you weren’t born a Sherlock

Holmes or Watson then think E=mc2 or Energy

equals Mass, times (2)Acceleration. In other

words think a solution (energy), introduce the

problem to him (mass) and then

force a meeting (acceleration).

However, sweetie, before stirring

up the energy, make sure you’re

ready to discover that he, a) may

have fallen out of love with you, b)

is having an affair, c) doesn’t know

how to communicate well or d)

needs to be tied up, drugged and

made to talk. Be aware, be careful

and take action before a bomb gets

dropped on you! (You can get some

sound hints when you check out

my cartoon.)

Dear Trinity,

My boyfriend likes hanging around the house in

his underwear. I hate it, for many reasons. How

do I keep him dressed?

Underwear Blues, Miami Beach, FL

Dear Underwear Blues,

In most homes of taste and style, what he’s doing

is a big faux pas, a no-no, a virtue confined to

hillbillies and trailer trash! Nowadays, you can

buy tastefully bi-useful underwear that passes

for acceptable day wear, even nicer. Buy some

and fill his drawers with them and slowly over

bleach the white ones. And, if that doesn’t work,

put him on steroids, place web cam’s everywhere

and make some money, honey! Smile for

the camera.

Hello Trinity,

Recently, at a party, the hostess pulled me aside

and told me to stop asking her guests so many

personal questions. She said, “Your embarrassing

everyone, including yourself!” Trinity, what’s so

horrible about being inquisitive?

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Reno, NV

Hello Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,

Nothing, except, when you’re in public there are

questions that are not appropriate! But, darling,

just in case you’re still clueless here’s…

Trinity’s Memorable Tips For

Questions Never To Ask In A


1. Lindsey, you look great! But, can you show

my friends your face lift and liposuction


2. When you’re at the gym Johnny, do you still

lock yourself in the toilet stall and do “you


know what?”

3. Kyle we’re all dying to

know, after you were

on “America’s Most

Wanted,” how did you get out of that kidnapping

and murder charge?

4. Do you still cheat on your taxes, Terry? And,

where on earth do you hide all that money?

5. Andy, I heard you’re an illegal alien. Why

don’t you tell everyone how you slipped past


6. I know you stopped having sex, Steve,

because of all the arrests, but why’d you stop

hiring escorts?

7. Eddie, is it true that when you have extramarital

activities your partner likes to watch?

8. Now remind me again, Dave, when you have

sex, are you a dominant top or a submissive


9. Danny, do you have any marijuana to sell

me? I heard you’re a dealer now.

10. By the way, Leslie, you look so androgynous

lately! Are you still taking hormones and thinking

about having “the” surgery? : :

— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity

hosted “Spiritually Speaking” a weekly radio drama

performed globally and is now minister of WIG:

Wild Inspirational Gatherings.

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here. These community groups are here to

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Charlotte Atheists and Agnostics

MCC Charlotte

1825 Eastway Dr., Charlotte NC 28205


Myers Park Baptist Church

1900 Queens Rd., Charlotte, NC 28207


Havurat Tikvah


Holy Covenant United Church of Christ

3501 W. WT Harris Blvd., Charlotte NC 28269


Holy Trinity Lutheran Church

1900 The Plaza, Charlotte, NC 28205


New Life MCC

1900 The Plaza, Charlotte, NC 28205


Piedmont Unitarian Universalist Church

9704 Mallard Creek Rd., Charlotte, NC 28262


Seigle Avenue Presbyterian Church

600 Seigle Ave., Charlotte, NC 28204


St. Martin’s Episcopal Church

1510 E. 7th St., Charlotte NC 28204


St. Peter’s Catholic Church

507 South Tryon St., Charlotte, NC 28202


Spiritual Living Center

1025 E. 35th St., Charlotte, NC 28205


Temple Beth El

5101 Providence Rd.

Charlotte, NC 28226


Unitarian Universalist Church of Charlotte

234 Sharon Amity Rd., Charlotte, NC 28211


Unity Fellowship Church

2127 Eastway Dr., Charlotte, NC 28205


Wedgewood Baptist Church

4800 Wedgewood Dr., Charlotte, NC 28210


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Two for Twenty

Charlotte Business Guild 20th Anniversary

Dec. 1 • 6:30 p.m.

The Charlotte Business Guild will host its 20th Anniversary Gala on Dec. 1, 6:30-11:30 p.m. at the Renaissance Charlotte SouthPark

Hotel, 5501 Carnegie Blvd. Tickets are $50 for individuals, $90 for couples and $400 for a table of 10. Late registration after Nov. 20 is $65

for individual tickets. Celebration includes a cocktail and networking hour with a cash bar, plated dinner, annual Community Service

Awards presentations and music. For more information or to purchase tickets, visit

Regional AIDS Interfaith Network 20th Anniversary

Dec. 8 • 7 p.m.

The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) celebrates 20 years of service. Cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. Special guests include Jack

Mackenroth of Project Runway and Miss America 2010 Caressa Cameron-Jackson. Tickets are $75 for individuals, $65 for congregation

tickets and $45 for young social leaders. CenterState @ NoDa, 2315 N. Davidson St. 7 p.m. For more information or to purchase tickets,



Dec. 1 • Hickory

AIDS remembrance

The AIDS Leadership Foothools-area Alliance

(ALFA) will host a World AIDS Day remembrance

event. First United Methodist Church,

311 3rd Ave. N.E. 3 p.m. Free. For more

information, call 828-322-1447, ext. 224, email or visit

Dec. 1 • Charlotte


Charlotte’s only Levi/Leather club meets

the first Saturday of every month at The

Woodshed Lounge, 4000 Queen City Dr. 6 p.m.

Dec. 2 • Greensboro

Winter Walk for AIDS

Triad Health Project will hold its 21st annual

Winter Walk for AIDS. The event is a

fundraiser for the organization. It will be held

at War Memorial Stadium. For more information,

contact Ken Keeton or Shana Carignan at

336-275-1654 or visit


Dec. 3 • Charlotte


The John S. and James L. Knight Foundation

and TedxCharlotte present a special viewing

party of TEDxWomen, a conference addressing

issues important to women. Speakers

include “The Vagina Monologues” writer

and playwright Eve Ensler, photographer and

activist Tillet Wright and International Criminal

Court Chief Prosecutor Fatou Bensouda and

others. Limited seating. Free tickets available


Foundation For The Carolinas, 220 N. Tryon St.

3:30-5:30 p.m.

Dec. 3 • Winston-Salem

Dining with Friends

AIDS Care Service kicks off its Dining with

Friends fundraiser. Events can be planned

anytime between Dec. 3, 2012, and Feb. 3,

2013. For more detailed information on how

you can get involved, call Development

Officer Rivkah Meder at 336-777-0116, ext. 103,

email or visit

Dec. 7-8 • Charlotte

‘Reindeer Games’

One Voice Chorus presentes their winter

concert. The theme is a tribute to this London

Olympics. For more information on the

concert, the chorus’ other upcoming events

or the group’s fundraising campaign, see

our story on page 6. Unitarian Universalist

Church of Charlotte, 234 N. Sharon Amity Rd.

Dec. 7-8, 7:30 p.m. Dec. 8, 2 p.m. $20/evening

shows. $15/adult matinee. $10/child matinee.

Dec. 7 • Charlotte

Holiday Jazz

The Bechtler Museum kicks off the holiday

spirit with a performance by Ziad Jazz Quartet

featuring Noel Freidline and jazzy renditions

of songs like “The Christmas Song,” “Frosty

the Snowman,” “Winter Wonderlan,” “Little

Drummer Boy” and more. The Bechtler

Museum of Modern Art, 420 S. Tryon St. 6-8

p.m. Free/members. $12/members. Cash bar.

Tickets can be purchased online at bechtler.

org or by phone at 704-353-9200 or at the

museum’s visitor services desk.

Dec. 8 • Greensboro

Winter Concert

Triad Pride Men’s Chorus presents their annual

holiday concerts. Mix of traditional, pop

and funny holiday favorites. Greensboro Day

School, 5401 Lawndale Dr. 8 p.m. $15/advance.


Dec. 12 • Charlotte

Twelve In Twelve

J.D. Lewis and his two sons, Jackson and

Buck, will launch their new foundation to support

volunteerism, following their worldwide

journey which took them to 12 countries in 12

months for relief work. The foundation will exist

to raise awareness, donations and supplies for

organizations with which they worked across

the globe. For more on the family and the event,

see our feature on page 6. The Dunhill Hotel,

Harvest Moon Grille, 237 N. Tryon St. 5:30-7:30

p.m. Free.

Dec. 13 • Charlotte

Leaders honored

Mecklenburg County Commissioner Jennifer

Roberts and Unity Fellowship Church pastor

Bishop Tonyia Rawls will be honored

with the Community Leader Award from

Grassroots Leadership. Unitarian Universalist

Church of Charlotte, 234 N. Sharon Amity Rd.

Reservations can be made at 704-332-3090 or

via email at

Dec. 14-15 • Charlotte

GMCC Christmas

The Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte presents

“The Last Big Gay Christmas Ever.” Traditional

Christmas classics with Hannukah comedy

from the Maccabeats and a new commission

from Eric Lane Barnes, “The Shouldn’t Be

Carols.” St. Martin’s Episcopal Church, 1510 E.

7th St. 8:04 p.m. $20.

Dec. 15 • Charlotte

Twirl to the World 2012

Just Twirl parties up the holidays with their

fourth annual Twirl to the World holiday party

starting with a social hour at 8 p.m. followed

by a night of dancing at 10 p.m. Admission is

$5 with a new unwrapped toy or $15 without.

Marigny Dance Club, 1440 S. Tryon St., Suite


Dec. 15 • Durham

Jingle Balls Bingo

AAS-C brings a bit of holiday flair to their

popular Drag Bingo series. Join staff, volunteers

and community members for this merry

time of fundraising and fun! Durham Armory,

220 Foster St. 6 p.m. $20.

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