Borderline - DEAN AMORY
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2. Seek Professional Help<br />
Facilitate the process of obtaining optimal help.<br />
It may be necessary that you do the initial work<br />
necessary to set up the first appointment. It may<br />
also be helpful if you agree to go also. Some<br />
people with borderline disorder initially refuse<br />
to seek professional help. Provide them with a<br />
copy of my book and suggest they read the first<br />
two chapters. This may help them understand<br />
their potential problems well enough to agree to<br />
an initial appointment with a psychiatrist.<br />
Other people with borderline disorder are steadfast in their refusal of help. This, of course, is a<br />
major problem. Dr. Perry Hoffman, the founding president of the National Education Alliance<br />
for <strong>Borderline</strong> Personality Disorder (NEA-BPD) offers this advice:<br />
The best way of approaching this problem from my perspective is for one to accept that you<br />
cannot get someone into treatment. Timing is important as to when someone might be “open”<br />
to hearing the idea. But the bottom line is to free families of feeling guilty, and to understand<br />
that they are not so powerful to effect that goal. Along that line, relatives need to get help and<br />
support for themselves as they watch their loved one in the throes of the illness.<br />
3. Support the Treatment Program<br />
Once in treatment, encourage and support your loved one with borderline disorder to regularly<br />
attend therapy sessions, to take medicine as prescribed, to eat, exercise, and rest appropriately,<br />
and to engage in wholesome<br />
recreational activities. If alcohol or<br />
other drugs are a problem, strongly<br />
support their efforts to abstain<br />
completely from these substances,<br />
and encourage regular attendance<br />
in treatment programs or self-help<br />
groups, such as Alcoholics<br />
Anonymous. Remember, there is<br />
little hope of improvement of the<br />
symptoms of borderline disorder if<br />
alcohol and drugs are abused. It is<br />
very important that you remain<br />
persistent in your efforts to do<br />
everything possible to help reduce<br />
the risk of this behavior, and not<br />
enable it.<br />
4. Respond Consistently to<br />
Problematic Behaviors<br />
Develop a clear understanding (it<br />
may even be written) of the<br />
realistic consequences of recurring, problematic, destructive behaviors such as episodes of<br />
alcohol and drug abuse, physically self-damaging acts, and excessive spending and gambling.<br />
Also, agree beforehand on how best to respond to threats and acts of self-harm.<br />
These and other problematic behaviors are often triggered by stressful events that need to be