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We set up a few rules that we would live by. And we both agreed to go
to counseling.
Taya:
Things just got to the point where I felt as if I was looking
down into a deep pit. It wasn’t just arguments over the kids.
We weren’t relating to each other. I could tell his mind had
strayed from our marriage, from us.
I remember talking to a girlfriend who’d been through an
awful lot. I just unloaded.
She said to me, “Well this is what you have to do. You have
to lay it all on the line. You have to tell him that you love him,
and you want him to stay, but if he wants to go, he is free to do
so.”
I took her advice. It was a hard, hard conversation.
But I knew several things in my heart. First, I knew I loved
Chris. And second, and this was very important to me, I knew
that he was a good dad. I’d seen him with our son, and with our
daughter. He had a strong sense of discipline and respect, and
at the same time had so much fun with the kids that by the time
they were done playing they all ached from laughing. Those
two things really convinced me that I had to try to keep our
marriage together.
From my side, I hadn’t been the perfect wife, either. Yes, I
loved him, truly, but I’d been a real bitch at times. I had pushed
him away.
So both of us had to want the marriage and we both had to
come together to make it work.