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All About Alumni<br />
THE TWO OF US<br />
Mehreen and<br />
Arsalan Rashid<br />
The heart wants what<br />
<strong>the</strong> heart wants, but<br />
Mehreen (BA 2006 UC)<br />
and Arsalan Rashid<br />
(BCom 2006 UC) <strong>of</strong>fer<br />
a lesson in <strong>the</strong> virtues<br />
<strong>of</strong> patience<br />
MEHREEN: When I met Arsalan at <strong>the</strong> UTM Library, we talked<br />
about our love <strong>of</strong> reading comic books and watching cricket.<br />
There was something about Arsalan that I immediately<br />
connected with; it was during a conversation about superpowers<br />
we’d like <strong>to</strong> have that I realized he is as wacky as me.<br />
After I graduated, I went back home <strong>to</strong> Singapore because<br />
my parents wanted me <strong>the</strong>re. Both Arsalan and I are Pakistani,<br />
and we’re very close <strong>to</strong> our families, so he unders<strong>to</strong>od.<br />
We had a five-year long-distance relationship, mostly over<br />
Skype. I came <strong>to</strong> Toron<strong>to</strong>, and he came <strong>to</strong> Singapore but<br />
<strong>the</strong> smallest gap we had between visits was a year. We were<br />
in each o<strong>the</strong>r’s lives, but solely through conversation. You<br />
could probably do a study about us and how <strong>the</strong> Internet<br />
helps long-distance relationships.<br />
ARSALAN: What drew me <strong>to</strong> Mehreen was her quirky sense <strong>of</strong><br />
humour; she has a constant smile and is a very positive,<br />
happy person <strong>to</strong> be around. When she went back <strong>to</strong> Singapore,<br />
I realized how much Mehreen meant <strong>to</strong> me. I was just a bum<br />
fresh out <strong>of</strong> university and I couldn’t go <strong>to</strong> her parents and<br />
ask <strong>the</strong>m <strong>to</strong> send <strong>the</strong>ir daughter <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r side <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong><br />
world. So I studied and got some work experience <strong>to</strong> ask for<br />
<strong>the</strong>ir daughter’s hand. Calling was absolutely nerve-racking.<br />
I’ve been working as a foreign exchange trader so I’ve been<br />
involved with many <strong>to</strong>ugh calls. But this was…holy crap. I’ve<br />
never been so jittery. They didn’t say yes right away. They<br />
made me wait a couple <strong>of</strong> days because <strong>the</strong>y wanted <strong>to</strong> make<br />
sure this was what Mehreen wanted. After <strong>the</strong>y agreed,<br />
Mehreen and I met in London, where she was visiting her<br />
sister. I got down on one knee right next <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> Millennium<br />
Bridge. We got married in Karachi, Pakistan, in April, <strong>the</strong>n<br />
went on our honeymoon <strong>to</strong> Greece and <strong>the</strong>n Mehreen flew<br />
home with me <strong>to</strong> Toron<strong>to</strong>. We expected an adjustment period<br />
after so many years apart, but it really just felt so natural. We<br />
stepped right back in<strong>to</strong> being <strong>to</strong>ge<strong>the</strong>r.<br />
Peaceful Pursuits<br />
Jothi Shanmugam, a fourth-year student<br />
in criminology and peace and conflict<br />
studies, is devoted <strong>to</strong> bringing <strong>to</strong>ge<strong>the</strong>r<br />
communities for change. Through <strong>the</strong><br />
Young Canadians’ Peace Dialogue, she has<br />
worked with Sinhalese, Tamil and Muslim<br />
Sri Lankans <strong>to</strong> promote peace in Sri Lanka.<br />
Shanmugan helped write a policy paper<br />
on Sri Lankan development and peace<br />
initiatives, which she presented last summer<br />
in Colombo, Sri Lanka, <strong>to</strong> government<br />
representatives from such countries as<br />
Canada, <strong>the</strong> U.K. and Switzerland.<br />
For her work, Shanmugam earned a<br />
Gordon Cressy Student Leadership Award<br />
– which was given <strong>to</strong> 183 graduating U <strong>of</strong> T<br />
students for improving <strong>the</strong> world around<br />
<strong>the</strong>m. She is also this year’s recipient <strong>of</strong><br />
<strong>the</strong> Dean’s Student Leadership Award in<br />
<strong>the</strong> Faculty <strong>of</strong> Arts and Science.<br />
Shanmugam helped create BuildChange<br />
in which Sinhalese, Tamil and Muslim<br />
students raised $25,000 <strong>to</strong> build wells<br />
in <strong>the</strong> war-affected nor<strong>the</strong>rn regions <strong>of</strong><br />
Sri Lanka.<br />
As part <strong>of</strong> Students for International<br />
Development, Shanmugam spent four<br />
months in Maragoli, Kenya, where she ran<br />
public-health and HIV-AIDS workshops.<br />
Upon learning that <strong>the</strong> village couldn’t<br />
afford <strong>to</strong> pay for glaucoma and cataract<br />
treatments, she started a network<br />
between <strong>the</strong> Sabatia Eye Hospital and<br />
Ministry <strong>of</strong> Health <strong>to</strong> create “eye camps” –<br />
which have provided eye care <strong>to</strong> more<br />
than 1,000 Kenyans.<br />
The Trinity College student was born in<br />
Sri Lanka and came <strong>to</strong> Canada as a refugee<br />
when she was seven. Shanmugam grew<br />
up with identity issues about being an<br />
immigrant, and her curiosity about why her<br />
life had <strong>to</strong> be uprooted led her <strong>to</strong> peace<br />
and conflict studies. “I wanted <strong>to</strong> learn why<br />
conflicts unfold in ways that leave behind<br />
animosity and rip communities apart. I had<br />
<strong>to</strong>o many unanswered questions about<br />
conflict re<strong>solution</strong>, because it is close <strong>to</strong><br />
my heart, it’s part <strong>of</strong> my identity.”<br />
– JESSICA LEWIS<br />
To read about all <strong>the</strong> Gordon Cressy award<br />
winners, visit alumni.u<strong>to</strong>ron<strong>to</strong>.ca/cressy.<br />
48 www.magazine.u<strong>to</strong>ron<strong>to</strong>.ca<br />
PHOTO: TOP, COURTESY OF MEHREEN HASAN RASHID; BOTTOM, HENRY FEATHER