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All About Alumni<br />

THE TWO OF US<br />

Mehreen and<br />

Arsalan Rashid<br />

The heart wants what<br />

<strong>the</strong> heart wants, but<br />

Mehreen (BA 2006 UC)<br />

and Arsalan Rashid<br />

(BCom 2006 UC) <strong>of</strong>fer<br />

a lesson in <strong>the</strong> virtues<br />

<strong>of</strong> patience<br />

MEHREEN: When I met Arsalan at <strong>the</strong> UTM Library, we talked<br />

about our love <strong>of</strong> reading comic books and watching cricket.<br />

There was something about Arsalan that I immediately<br />

connected with; it was during a conversation about superpowers<br />

we’d like <strong>to</strong> have that I realized he is as wacky as me.<br />

After I graduated, I went back home <strong>to</strong> Singapore because<br />

my parents wanted me <strong>the</strong>re. Both Arsalan and I are Pakistani,<br />

and we’re very close <strong>to</strong> our families, so he unders<strong>to</strong>od.<br />

We had a five-year long-distance relationship, mostly over<br />

Skype. I came <strong>to</strong> Toron<strong>to</strong>, and he came <strong>to</strong> Singapore but<br />

<strong>the</strong> smallest gap we had between visits was a year. We were<br />

in each o<strong>the</strong>r’s lives, but solely through conversation. You<br />

could probably do a study about us and how <strong>the</strong> Internet<br />

helps long-distance relationships.<br />

ARSALAN: What drew me <strong>to</strong> Mehreen was her quirky sense <strong>of</strong><br />

humour; she has a constant smile and is a very positive,<br />

happy person <strong>to</strong> be around. When she went back <strong>to</strong> Singapore,<br />

I realized how much Mehreen meant <strong>to</strong> me. I was just a bum<br />

fresh out <strong>of</strong> university and I couldn’t go <strong>to</strong> her parents and<br />

ask <strong>the</strong>m <strong>to</strong> send <strong>the</strong>ir daughter <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r side <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong><br />

world. So I studied and got some work experience <strong>to</strong> ask for<br />

<strong>the</strong>ir daughter’s hand. Calling was absolutely nerve-racking.<br />

I’ve been working as a foreign exchange trader so I’ve been<br />

involved with many <strong>to</strong>ugh calls. But this was…holy crap. I’ve<br />

never been so jittery. They didn’t say yes right away. They<br />

made me wait a couple <strong>of</strong> days because <strong>the</strong>y wanted <strong>to</strong> make<br />

sure this was what Mehreen wanted. After <strong>the</strong>y agreed,<br />

Mehreen and I met in London, where she was visiting her<br />

sister. I got down on one knee right next <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> Millennium<br />

Bridge. We got married in Karachi, Pakistan, in April, <strong>the</strong>n<br />

went on our honeymoon <strong>to</strong> Greece and <strong>the</strong>n Mehreen flew<br />

home with me <strong>to</strong> Toron<strong>to</strong>. We expected an adjustment period<br />

after so many years apart, but it really just felt so natural. We<br />

stepped right back in<strong>to</strong> being <strong>to</strong>ge<strong>the</strong>r.<br />

Peaceful Pursuits<br />

Jothi Shanmugam, a fourth-year student<br />

in criminology and peace and conflict<br />

studies, is devoted <strong>to</strong> bringing <strong>to</strong>ge<strong>the</strong>r<br />

communities for change. Through <strong>the</strong><br />

Young Canadians’ Peace Dialogue, she has<br />

worked with Sinhalese, Tamil and Muslim<br />

Sri Lankans <strong>to</strong> promote peace in Sri Lanka.<br />

Shanmugan helped write a policy paper<br />

on Sri Lankan development and peace<br />

initiatives, which she presented last summer<br />

in Colombo, Sri Lanka, <strong>to</strong> government<br />

representatives from such countries as<br />

Canada, <strong>the</strong> U.K. and Switzerland.<br />

For her work, Shanmugam earned a<br />

Gordon Cressy Student Leadership Award<br />

– which was given <strong>to</strong> 183 graduating U <strong>of</strong> T<br />

students for improving <strong>the</strong> world around<br />

<strong>the</strong>m. She is also this year’s recipient <strong>of</strong><br />

<strong>the</strong> Dean’s Student Leadership Award in<br />

<strong>the</strong> Faculty <strong>of</strong> Arts and Science.<br />

Shanmugam helped create BuildChange<br />

in which Sinhalese, Tamil and Muslim<br />

students raised $25,000 <strong>to</strong> build wells<br />

in <strong>the</strong> war-affected nor<strong>the</strong>rn regions <strong>of</strong><br />

Sri Lanka.<br />

As part <strong>of</strong> Students for International<br />

Development, Shanmugam spent four<br />

months in Maragoli, Kenya, where she ran<br />

public-health and HIV-AIDS workshops.<br />

Upon learning that <strong>the</strong> village couldn’t<br />

afford <strong>to</strong> pay for glaucoma and cataract<br />

treatments, she started a network<br />

between <strong>the</strong> Sabatia Eye Hospital and<br />

Ministry <strong>of</strong> Health <strong>to</strong> create “eye camps” –<br />

which have provided eye care <strong>to</strong> more<br />

than 1,000 Kenyans.<br />

The Trinity College student was born in<br />

Sri Lanka and came <strong>to</strong> Canada as a refugee<br />

when she was seven. Shanmugam grew<br />

up with identity issues about being an<br />

immigrant, and her curiosity about why her<br />

life had <strong>to</strong> be uprooted led her <strong>to</strong> peace<br />

and conflict studies. “I wanted <strong>to</strong> learn why<br />

conflicts unfold in ways that leave behind<br />

animosity and rip communities apart. I had<br />

<strong>to</strong>o many unanswered questions about<br />

conflict re<strong>solution</strong>, because it is close <strong>to</strong><br />

my heart, it’s part <strong>of</strong> my identity.”<br />

– JESSICA LEWIS<br />

To read about all <strong>the</strong> Gordon Cressy award<br />

winners, visit alumni.u<strong>to</strong>ron<strong>to</strong>.ca/cressy.<br />

48 www.magazine.u<strong>to</strong>ron<strong>to</strong>.ca<br />

PHOTO: TOP, COURTESY OF MEHREEN HASAN RASHID; BOTTOM, HENRY FEATHER

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