RELATIONSHIP TIPSMake Your ProposalBy Sara Starkoff GreenExtraordinaryF<strong>February</strong> brings us the enormously commercialized holiday ofValentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is second only to Christmas forthe most card exchanges worldwide. Walk into any supermarket,card store, or department store, and within the first week ofJanuary, the shelves are restocked with a myriad of red and pinkgoodies. With all this love in the air, marriage proposals andweddings are plentiful in <strong>February</strong>!Knowing that so many gentlemen will propose this month (99%of marriage proposals are done by the groom), how can you besure that yours will be one of a kind? To begin with, think aboutyour future bride and create something that is representative ofher personality or a reflection of who you both are as a couple.<strong>The</strong>re is something very romantic about the traditional weddingproposal, and keeping with some of the classic etiquette is a greatway to start thinking about your own marriage proposal. Askingthe bride’s father (or closest family member) for permission totake her hand in marriage still remains very important to manybrides. If the father (or relative) lives close, an in-person meetingis a classy and appropriate way to do so. If, however, geographicaldistance makes an in-person meeting difficult, a personal phonecall will be sufficient.Next to think about is whether your future bride will prefer amore private, intimate proposal, or a grand, public display. It iswise if, in the months leading up to your proposal, you can subtlygather some of this information in casual conversation with yourpartner. If your future bride is more reserved and shy, she maynot be so happy when you take her to the middle of TimesSquare and post your proposal on a sign for everyone to view.Conversely, if your girlfriend loves attention and large groups,she may be disappointed if you don’t pop the question among herfamily and friends during a grand celebration.<strong>The</strong> quintessential romantic element of a wedding proposal isthat it comes from the man she loves and you both are choosingto spend the rest of your lives together. It is important not tolose sight of this, and to remember that whatever you plan willbe unique to your bride and memorable because it is about thetwo of you.If you happen to already be married or in a committedrelationship, here are some ideas to make the love and romancethat comes with Valentine’s Day, last the whole year through….Choose your wedding date and do something romantic foryour partner every month on that day of the year.Plan a date out for no special reason. Women love the timeand attention required to plan a romantic and memorable date.Take your partner on an adventure or pamper her at a greatspa. Try something new; sign up for a class together.Swing by the flower stand Friday on your way home fromwork and bring her a bouquet of flowers. You can do thisquite inexpensively and it will warm your partner’s heart andbrighten her home.Cook his/her favorite meal. Even if you are not an expert in thekitchen, the thought and effort will win you points!Offer to take on a chore of the other’s once a month. If yourhusband always takes out the trash, surprise him once a weekby taking it out before he gets home from work.Get a babysitter and get out of the house! Whether you haveone child or five children, taking time together as a couple tonurture your relationship is essential to keeping the romancealive!.Sara Starkoff Green, a freelance writer, is Owner and Event Directorof Impressive Occasions.24 FEBRUARY <strong>2008</strong>
Our Roving Reporter Asks:What Do You Love About Your Husband?JUST FOR FUNKelly Lonstein,Boca Raton,married.<strong>The</strong> thing I admire most aboutmy husband is his perseverance.He grew up with learning disabilitiesin the 1960’s, when littlewas known about how to teachchildren like him. Because of hismother’s and his determination,he was able to overcome anystigma (because his motherwould not allow anyone to“label” him).Helene Kopel,Coral Springs,engaged.What I admire about my futurehusband is that he knows a goodthing when he finds it...for example,me! Seriously, I admire hisbeing so passionate–whether it’shis pride in his daughter, hisunyielding loyalty for theSteelers, his enthusiasm for hismusic, or his love for me.Deb Knox,Coral Springs,married.<strong>The</strong> thing I love about myhusband, Patrick, is his abilityto make the most out of anygiven situation and the factthat he trusts me completely.What a great feeling ofsecurity and love.Robin Waxman,Parkland,married.I love his never endingcommitment and dedicationas a loving husband, father,and grandfather.”Diane Lombard,Coral Springs,married.<strong>The</strong> thing I admire most about myhusband Paul is his willingnessto help total strangers at anytime. For example, when he wascoming out of Wal-Mart and sawa car with a flat tire, he took outhis tire plugging kit and air tankand fixed it. He’s done that onmore then one occasion.Liz Glaid,Coral Springs,married.It is so hard to choose one thing Iadmire most about my husband.But if I had to choose, it wouldbe the way he loves and interactswith our son and how he alwayskeeps us laughing.Gena Kaplan,Coral Springs,married.I don’t know if I necessarily“admire” this (and I know itsounds hokey) but I have to saythe thing I love most about myhusband, Tony, is that he makesme laugh—even when I don’twant too!Deb Spitz,Boca Raton,married.I admire my husband’s dedicationto all aspects of his life. Heis one of the hardest workingmen I know. He comes righthome and puts his “daddy cap”on! He doesn’t complain aboutnot taking time for himself andmakes sure to spoil me wheneverpossible! Truly a specialman and a fantastic husbandand father!Anonymous,Coconut Creek,married.<strong>The</strong>re are so many things that Iadmire about my husband! Hemakes me laugh everyday, he isalways there when I need him,he loves spending time with meand our children, he gets alongwell with everyone. But I thinkmost of all, I admire how logicalhe is, how he analyzes issues orsituations and considers manypoints of view.the PARKLANDER25