With tuitions for schools and collegeshigh enough to preclude most families,financial aid is no longer simply an instrumentof socioeconomic diversity; it is acrucial tool to maintain quality. “We wantthe classroom to be a place of excellence,”says David. “Having vigor in the classroomrequires that we attract the top 10 percentof students. For the overwhelming majorityof that top 10 percent, <strong>Milton</strong> is financiallyout of reach. Having financial aidas a resource is the insurance we need tokeep <strong>Milton</strong> the place we’ve known it to bein the past.”As the digital culture marches forward,its ramifications are inescapable. Email,texting, cell phones, cameras, and infiniteinternet options are enticing anddemanding. In the “old days” speakingwith someone was the main way of connecting.Today, the quality of relationshipsat <strong>Milton</strong> is as strong as ever, but “it takesa whole lot more time, effort and focus tobuild those relationships, because peoplereflexively use electronics and there are somany electronic distractions,” Patrice says.Not only does the internet age bring itsown pressures, all the alumni faculty16 <strong>Milton</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong>believe that adolescents today wrestle withstresses that are completely unlike thosein the past. Societal and parental pressureto “succeed” is overwhelming. In the past,doing well at academics and perhaps oneother solid skill (a sport, acting, playing aninstrument) were plenty to assure matriculatingat the most competitive colleges.Today students’ list of responsibilities andcommitments goes on and on. Getting intocollege is a different experience, and thelevels of competition are so high that studentshave to decide what to do well, andthen do all the other things also. “You haveto be incredibly energetic and organized; Idon’t know how students who aren’t makeit,” Caroline says.“Right, and time management is the keyskill they all have to work on,” André says.“But they need private time, play time, resttime, downtime. We have to schedule funtime, and when we provide opportunitiesfor simple, old-fashioned fun, they’re reallywelcome.”Why do you stay?When we ask students why they chose<strong>Milton</strong> they invariably say that it seemsto them a friendly, happy place. It seemslike a place where really motivated, smartpeople are studying and having fun. Whydo the adults in the community choose<strong>Milton</strong>, and why do they stay?“The place feels absolutely alive to me.There’s so much going on. That made itappealing to come back,” says Sally. “And Ilove being in my department [history]. Wetalk together constantly, share reading andideas. It feels collaborative, even thoughwe don’t teach together. We inspire oneanother.”“I really enjoy other faculty,” Caroline says.“They’re smart, interesting and funny.They talk about and care about real things.They’re passionately involved people. Youdon’t see shirkers.”Meg believes in the importance of representingthe School, as an alumna, to potentialstudents across the country, as wellas helping make the decisions that build<strong>Milton</strong>’s classes and figuring out how toapply the financial aid resources. “There’sreal value in talking about this place froma firsthand point of view. The admissionteam all represent different interests; weread and evaluate files with points of view
shaped by living with students, coachingthem and advising them, even though wedon’t teach.”Suzie sees her work with <strong>Milton</strong>’s developmentoffice as extending her family tradition.“Because it was his family, <strong>Milton</strong>was important to my father, and my fatheris important to me,” she says. “I receivedan incredible education here, and I believein furthering the mission of excellence.I want to give back.”“Witnessing what you’ll gain from takingrisks is one of <strong>Milton</strong>’s compellingfeatures,” Patrice comments. “I’m herebecause of the creative opportunities tomake ideas come to life. That requiresresources and support, but as a teacher Iknow that it can happen here. Along withmy family, I’m surrounded by music andperformance artists who could make thattheir way of living. The community valuesthe arts, and as an athlete, I’m glad that wevalue sports as well.”“I feel like I’m a tree on this campus,”Elaine says. “I’m part of it. I have noobjectivity about this place. Being partof family continuity that began way back“ You have an activeintellectual life here,and because we diginto complex issues,you have an activephilosophical andemotional life, too.Typically, there’s atleast one momentin every day when Ifind some part of mythinking challenged.”with Headmaster Apthorp, and my grandmotherEsther Williams Apthorp—whotaught English, geography and coached(maybe even started) field hockey—is aprofound gift. When I drove with my dadcross-country to take this job, Stoky [ for-mer athletic director] came into the headof school’s office and told us a story aboutmy dad, back in the 1930s, stealing firstbase to Cap Hall’s dismay. I love teachingat <strong>Milton</strong> and I love living with thoseGoodwin boys. I want to keep teaching thepeople who are going to make changes inthis world.”“I am never bored; every day has somethinginteresting in it,” says Rod. “Younever feel as though you are running inplace. Instead you’re doing somethingmeaningful for somebody, or helping getto an idea. It’s a constant state of percolation.It’s hard to imagine a more interestinggroup of students; the students arereally fun. You have an active intellectuallife here, and because we dig into complexissues, you have an active philosophicaland emotional life, too. Typically, there’sat least one moment in every day when Ifind some part of my thinking challenged.There’s also always at least one good laughevery day. With all the sophisticated mindsaround, there’s true wit, and that nuancedhumor is so satisfying. <strong>Milton</strong> is an environmentwhere you feel very much alive.”CDE<strong>Milton</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong> 17