8 Palliative CareIndividual and Family Emotional Well-beingPalliative care aims to provide comfort byintegrating the emotional, spiritual, developmental,and physical dimensions <strong>of</strong> life into thecare <strong>of</strong> individuals with life-threatening diseases.Incorporating palliative care from the time <strong>of</strong>diagnosis can benefit you, your child, and themedical team as you anticipate and makedecisions regarding interventions that affectyour child’s quality <strong>of</strong> life.Although palliative care may seem to <strong>of</strong>fer abroad range <strong>of</strong> services, the goals <strong>of</strong> palliativetreatment are concrete: relief from suffering,treatment <strong>of</strong> pain and other distressingsymptoms, psychological and spiritual care,a support system to help your child live asactively as possible, and a support system tosustain the entire family. Many peopleassociate palliative care with “giving up” orwhen end <strong>of</strong> life is near. However, palliativecare is much more than that: it is a holisticapproach to treating symptoms caused byserious diseases.Pain/FatiguePain may be a significant and under-recognizedproblem that can be due to various conditionsin different systems <strong>of</strong> the body. For example,the pain arising from progressive muscleweakness, scoliosis, and contractures mayrequire adjustments with seating and splinting.Emotional and psychological aspects, includinganxiety, depression, and fear, may also contributeto pain and fatigue. <strong>The</strong> interrelationshipbetween these areas may be considerable andneeds to be explored.Effective management for your child’s pain beginswith a comprehensive assessment <strong>of</strong> acuteand chronic symptoms. Determining the presence,frequency, and duration <strong>of</strong> painful episodeswill help to identify contributing factors andthose that help provide relief.Fatigue is commonly reported by children with<strong>CMD</strong>. Activity level, respiratory status, sleephabits, and various medications may cause orworsen fatigue.27Mental HealthBecause <strong>CMD</strong> can be difficult to diagnose, withmany uncertainties about the course <strong>of</strong> thedisease, you, your child, and other familymembers are naturally at an increased risk foremotional distress; among these are feelings <strong>of</strong>depression, anxiety, fear, and grief.It is important to monitor the emotionalwell-being <strong>of</strong> your child. Signs <strong>of</strong> concern maybe either direct, such as sadness, or indirect,like anger or restlessness. If you have anyconcerns about your child’s mental well-being,speak with your child’s medical team aboutobtaining a supportive psychologicalconsultation and discussing helpful resourcesfor coping. It is also important to monitor youremotional well-being as a parent or caregiver.Everyone has different ways <strong>of</strong> coping withstress and emotions; it is very common forparents to have difficulty dealing with theirfeelings when it comes to pediatric chronicillnesses such as <strong>CMD</strong>. When parents andfamily members are stressed, children willalso be stressed. Oftentimes family counselingis helpful.Such consultations should help bring aboutopen discussion, relationship building, and theacknowledgement <strong>of</strong> fears, tension, and sadness.Other resources for support may include:• Internet lists and groups (for example,Facebook groups such as Merosin PositiveMums for Merosin Negative Kids andYahoo support groups for LMNA-RD,SEPN1-RM, Ullrich <strong>CMD</strong>, Bethlemmyopathy, Walker-Warburg syndrome,lissencephaly and αDG-RD)• <strong>Cure</strong> <strong>CMD</strong> website (curecmd.org),information and message boards• in-person support groups at hospitals orother agencies• Support from your faith tradition ifrelevant.<strong>The</strong>se supports can help to enable you and your
family to plan meaningfully and effectivelyanticipate and participate in care decisions forthe future when things may feel confusing andunclear.End-<strong>of</strong>-Life CareFamily members and health care providersunderstandably <strong>of</strong>ten find it difficult to discussthe possibility <strong>of</strong> death, but <strong>CMD</strong> can be apotentially life-limiting disease and sodiscussion <strong>of</strong> end-<strong>of</strong>-life care is appropriate.It is important that your child’s health careproviders help to guide you through potentialend-<strong>of</strong>-life concerns. Ideally this would happenbefore the occurrence <strong>of</strong> a major life-threateningevent, allowing you as a family time to clearlyexplore options and gather information beforedecisions need to be made.<strong>The</strong> need and timing for such discussion variesdepending on the diagnosis and course <strong>of</strong> thedisease, and is <strong>of</strong>ten more urgent when thediagnosis is more severe or is unknown. <strong>The</strong>goal is always for your child’s health care teamand your family to work together throughthese painful issues.<strong>The</strong> last decade has <strong>of</strong>fered tremendousprogress to those with <strong>CMD</strong>. <strong>The</strong> drafting<strong>of</strong> care guidelines, development <strong>of</strong> aninternational registry and growingmomentum in research to identify possibletreatments have contributed to hope for thefuture. This building <strong>of</strong> infrastructureand raising awareness to support improvedhealth care and science will lead to newdiscoveries and continue to prolong andimprove the quality <strong>of</strong> life for your children.<strong>The</strong> journey <strong>of</strong> life with <strong>CMD</strong> is not a straight path,but rather spirals from issue to issue and back and forward again.Along the way, ongoing attention, care, and patience in the areas <strong>of</strong>medical, emotional, practical, and spiritual needs are mostimportant to support and enrich the lives <strong>of</strong> the affected individualand those most closely involved with his or her care.While reaching in for strength, be sure to also reach out.In addition to the <strong>CMD</strong> medical community, there is also agrowing community <strong>of</strong> families that may be able to share informationand insight as you continue along the journey <strong>of</strong> life with <strong>CMD</strong>,in all <strong>of</strong> its complexities.28