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Part Three of Four: If you’re not achieving
what you want to in life, it’s quite possibly
due to one or more of these four blocks that
are keeping you stuck: Gremlin, Assumptions,
Interpretations, and Limiting Beliefs.
In the past two issues we discussed
Gremlins and Assumptions. The third of the
four blocks is Interpretations, which we can
define as - “opinions and judgments that
you create about an event, situation, person,
or experience and believe to be true.”
When you INTERPRET something you
create an opinion about an event, situation,
or experience. You create an explanation for
something that you “see,” and then look for
evidence to support its validity. When you
make an interpretation, you don’t even see
that other explanations exist. In actuality,
though, an interpretation often represents
only one viewpoint among the many that are
possible, and usually is based only on your
own personal observation.
If you believe your viewpoint of a
particular situation is the only explanation,
you won’t be aware of another point of view,
and will be unlikely to even consider one even
if it should be presented to you. Because you
Most Critical Blocks
don’t see that other possibilities exist, you
remain stuck in your story and feel powerless
over the outcome.
For example, let’s say you come into work
one day and as you pass your boss in the hall
she barely nods hello and seems to completely
ignore you. She goes into her office and closes
the door, and you are left standing there
feeling as if something is seriously wrong.
You might “interpret” that your boss acted
that way because she is angry with you.
You might spend the morning wondering
what you did to get her mad at you and you
might be hesitant to approach her with the
great idea you came up with on the way
to work. Even worse, you might get totally
stressed out and think it’s time to start
looking for a new job. In actuality, however,
perhaps the reason she barely acknowledged
you was that she just received a disturbing
phone call about a family member, or she had
an impending deadline, or was preoccupied
because....there are so many possible
explanations, none of which you are aware of
or have anything at all to do with you. What
an opportunity you’d miss if you decided to
act based on your false interpretation.
Typical interpretations may sound like this:
He doesn’t like me.
She thinks I’m incompetent.
They don’t want to follow orders.
I don’t fit the mold they are looking for.
Before you “jump to conclusions” and believe
the first story that comes to mind, consider
other possibilities that could lead you to
new and empowering choices and actions.
Consider that everything that happens in the
world is NOT about you, because of you, or
a reflection of something you did or did not
say or do. Don’t allow misinterpretations to
control your feelings, actions, or outcomes.
In the upcoming issue we will discuss
Limiting Beliefs. If blocks are keeping you
from achieving the success and happiness
you want and deserve, call Harvey at
201-962-8463 to request a free copy of this
report, or go to www.harveyfeldman.com
Also ask for information on how to apply for
a Complimentary Business Breakthrough
Coaching Session.
The Power Networking Group (PNG) is the
networking arm of the North Jersey Regional Chamber
of Commerce whose mission is to help Chamber
members grow and promote their businesses.
PNG members provide referral sources and business
expertise to others in the group. Since 2005, PNG
members have compiled nearly 1,000 business leads,
the value of which is tens of thousands of dollars. Each
member represents a specific business category.
PNG meets every other Monday at 8:15 am at the
NJRCC Board Room. Membership in PNG is free
to all Chamber members; you must be a Chamber
member to join. Contact Mitch Gurland at 201.790.4922
with any questions.
HARVEY FELDMAN, MBA, CEC, and Certified
Sales Trainer, has over 35 years of experience in
business and consulting. After operating his own
successful business and marketing consulting
practice for more than 20 years, Harvey studied to
become an Executive and Life Coach, and received his
CEC from iPEC, an accredited coaching institution.
He recently added Sales Training to his repertoire,
and is a Certified Training Instructor with Sales
Training Institute. His unique background and
experience have enabled him to help his clients
achieve amazing breakthroughs and results. As a result his diverse background,
coupled with his contagious enthusiasm, Harvey brings aneclectic, dynamic, and
insightful perspective to his roles as Executive/Business/Life Coach and Sales
Trainer, blending both practical and personal insight into a results-oriented,
profit-building presentation that delivers high value and ROI to his clients.
Harvey is a member of Mensa and resides in Oakland, New Jersey. He can be
reached at 201-962-8463.
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