Lifestyle Glitz - September Tranquility 2016

Perhaps, it becomes hard not to expect at all
when things are going so well, but you can at
least try to expect a bit less. Try not to build a
perfect image of that person; the way you want
them to be after all they’re not a puppet. Accept
them the way they are and be with them
as they are with you. That way, you will face
fewer disappointments.
If you still are unable to give up the habit of
expecting, channel all your expectations towards
yourself. If you expect love, love yourself
as much as you want others to love you. If you
want respect, give yourself the respect you deserve.
Whatever kindness you do, try not to
expect anything in return for it.
D E P E N D E N C Y
You may believe that your friend would stand by
you when you need them and it may even be
true. However, if you think that he/she will always
be there for you and ready to help you at
all times, you are living in a bubble. At one point
or another, your friend will let you down. He/she
may have had never disappointed you in the
past. Nevertheless, at a certain point, one of
you will lose touch, e.g., when you get married or
if you start a new job. To sum it up; you may be
important for him/her right now, but for how
long?
Therefore, it is important to learn to survive on
your own, to see yourself as a complete person.
This does not simply mean not to ask for help
when needed, it means to be okay if no one is
there to help you. It means you will be there for
yourself.
N O T P U T T I N G Y O U R S E L F F I R S T
Are you one of those who are always ready to
put others needs before yours? If yes, you may
feel tired of making so many sacrifices and not
getting much in return. Unknowingly, you are
draining your energy by constantly making others
happy and forgetting about your own happiness.
If such a friendship or relationship ends, it
hurts even more because you gave them your
all.
So, always put yourself first. Putting yourself
before others means to love and care for yourself.
It means to respect your boundaries and
not let anyone else cross it. You should be able
to say “no” when you want to without feeling
guilty. Never allow anyone or anything to destroy
your inner peace. Sometimes it’s okay to deacti-
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