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The more you know about your date, the more<br />
impressed he/she will be with you. By expressing interest<br />
in their hobbies, you demonstrate good middos and that<br />
you want to listen and care.<br />
C. Where Should You Go?<br />
The custom in the more “yeshivish” world is to<br />
take your first date to a hotel lobby. It is a nice and quiet<br />
area where you can talk and discuss various things. There<br />
are a very small amount of distractions, and you can just<br />
focus on your date. After the first date, it is more<br />
common to go to various places that are quiet, such as a<br />
coffee shop, a café, a park, or other places that are quiet<br />
and peaceful. As the dating process progresses, you can<br />
start going on more fun and interactive dates, such as to<br />
an arcade or, mini golf, etc.<br />
In the “non-yeshivish” world, it is not customary<br />
to take your first date to a hotel lobby; however, it is still<br />
appropriate to go to a place that is quiet and conducive<br />
to conversation. A walk through the park is also<br />
acceptable. You want your first few dates to be in a<br />
secluded and quite environment so that you can get to<br />
know one another. You do not want to be walking<br />
through a busy area, such as Times Square, where you<br />
cannot focus on your date. As the dates progress, you<br />
can go out to more public and busier areas.<br />
When planning where to take your date, be<br />
sensitive to her needs. Do not force your date to go bike<br />
riding or ice skating without asking her beforehand if she<br />
would feel comfortable with it. Once your dates start to<br />
become the “not so classic” dates of going to a place to<br />
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