The Good Life - January/February 2014
The areas premier men’s magazine featuring inspirational men in our community. Covering a variety of topics including local heroes, fathers, sports and advice for men.
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ChivalrY<br />
in the 21 st Century<br />
BRINGING IT BACK TO LIFE<br />
Chivalry is dead.<br />
Now, wait a second. That’s not entirely true. If I’m<br />
wearing heels, at least a few guys will open a door for<br />
me. If I’m wearing tennis shoes or flats, the chance of<br />
that happening drops 80 percent. <strong>The</strong> wretched part is<br />
that I’m not even kidding.<br />
If you Google the word “chivalry,” and<br />
visit thefreedictionary.com, you’ll read<br />
that chivalry describes “<strong>The</strong> qualities<br />
idealized by knighthood, such as<br />
bravery, courtesy, honor, and<br />
gallantry toward women,” along<br />
with “A manifestation of any of<br />
these qualities.”<br />
Some things should remain<br />
in the past, like outhouses and<br />
dial-up Internet, but when it<br />
comes to practicing courtesy,<br />
both men and women need to<br />
revive and encourage its existence.<br />
Manners and chivalry go hand in<br />
hand, and being polite doesn’t mean<br />
you’re boring.<br />
I’m going to tell you all a little tale. It’s<br />
tender, surprising and even sad. No, it’s not an ABC<br />
Family movie. This is less predictable.<br />
Once upon a time, I went on a date with a nice guy.<br />
He wouldn’t let me get into his carriage, I mean, car until<br />
he got out of it and opened the passenger door for me.<br />
He did the same when we arrived at the restaurant. I<br />
REMINDER:<br />
<strong>February</strong> 14th<br />
is Valentine’s Day.<br />
Now is your chance<br />
to be<br />
chivalrous!<br />
think he even helped me take my coat off. Was I drooling<br />
from his acts of thoughtfulness? No, I was weirded out.<br />
Wait. What? Yeah. I was taken aback by his manners.<br />
I was used to being treated like one of the guys, not<br />
like a lady. I was so accustomed to a lack of courtesy<br />
that I didn’t know how to react when faced with such<br />
politeness. Many guys and girls have never had<br />
manners pounded in their head, or they’ve<br />
just decided to ignore them, and<br />
“chivalry,” that thing we’ve heard<br />
about in fairytales, is often seen as<br />
archaic by our lazy, dishonorable<br />
society.<br />
It took me a few years of<br />
recovering from the I-shouldn’task-for-help-because-I’m-awoman-hear-me-roar<br />
rut to<br />
realize that women don’t have<br />
to be weak-minded, annoyingly<br />
dependent damsels in distress in<br />
order to enjoy being treated like a<br />
lady. You won’t see me crying, waiting<br />
for a big, strong man to carry me over<br />
a puddle (though that would be nice), but<br />
appreciating when a man is courteous, thoughtful and<br />
even protective doesn’t make me any weaker of a woman.<br />
As this apropos phrase says, “A real woman can do it all<br />
by herself, but a real man won’t let her.”<br />
Whether you’re a real man or a fake one, according<br />
to that saying, the point of that statement is to be<br />
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By: meghan feir