The Last Lecture
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<strong>The</strong> <strong>Last</strong> <strong>Lecture</strong><br />
said the convertible got the worst of it, but both cars were running fine.<br />
“Want to go in the garage and look at them?” she asked.<br />
<br />
“No,” I said. “Let’s just finish dinner.”<br />
She was surprised. I wasn’t angry. I hardly seemed<br />
concerned. As she’d soon learn, my measured response was<br />
rooted in my upbringing.<br />
After dinner, we looked at the cars. I just shrugged, and I could<br />
see that for Jai, an entire day’s worth of anxiety was just melting away.<br />
“Tomorrow morning,” she promised, “I’ll get estimates on the repairs.”<br />
I told her that wasn’t necessary. <strong>The</strong> dents would be OK. My<br />
parents had raised me to recognize that automobiles are there to get you<br />
from point A to point B. <strong>The</strong>y are utilitarian devices, not expressions of<br />
social status. And so I told Jai we didn’t need to do cosmetic repairs.<br />
We’d just live with the dents and gashes.<br />
Jai was a bit shocked. “We’re really going to drive around in dented<br />
cars?” she asked.<br />
“Well, you can’t have just some of me, Jai,” I told her. “You<br />
appreciate the part of me that didn’t get angry because two ‘things’ we<br />
own got hurt. But the flip side of that is my belief that you don’t repair<br />
things if they still do what they’re supposed to do. <strong>The</strong> cars still work.<br />
Let’s just drive ’em.”<br />
OK, maybe this makes me quirky. But if your trashcan or<br />
wheelbarrow has a dent in it, you don’t buy a new one. Maybe that’s<br />
because we don’t use trashcans and wheelbarrows to communicate our<br />
social status or identity to others. For Jai and me, our dented cars became<br />
a statement in our marriage. Not everything needs to be fixed.<br />
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