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I often get men and women reminding<br />
me that men can be victims of<br />
woman’s abuse.<br />
I understand where they are coming<br />
from and of course this form of abuse<br />
is wrong however I sometimes just<br />
want individuals to be able to talk<br />
about men’s violence without having to<br />
focus on woman’s violence. For me it’s<br />
important we separate it.<br />
First thing is not to panic. This is more<br />
about being a friend than having to be<br />
a crime fighter. It’s not your job to<br />
solve this, your role is to be there and<br />
ask the question.<br />
Statements such as “Is everything ok?<br />
I’ve noticed (behaviour/injury). It<br />
looks like something has happened.<br />
You didn’t deserve this.”<br />
Being a bystander to any difficult<br />
situation is going to be difficult<br />
therefor it’s important we think about<br />
our actions if it happened for real. Ask<br />
yourself what’s the alternative if you<br />
do nothing?<br />
“I sometimes just want individuals to be able to talk about men’s<br />
violence without having to focus on woman’s violence.”<br />
If you suspected a friend of yours<br />
of being a victim of violence, how<br />
would you broach the subject, if<br />
at all?<br />
It’s so important that we all start to see<br />
a role in the prevention of violence.<br />
Violence has the potential to be deeply<br />
personal to each and everyone of us.<br />
Victims of violence need our support.<br />
They need to know that they have done<br />
nothing wrong and didn’t deserve their<br />
victimisation.<br />
When it comes to incidences of<br />
domestic and sexual violence this is<br />
vital. These crimes involve power and<br />
control being taken away from victims.<br />
It’s vital we know that we all have the<br />
ability to give some of this power back.<br />
I previously wrote this blog on when a<br />
friend discloses sexual violence. It’s still<br />
very relevant -<br />
https://ggoulden.wordpress.com/2016/<br />
12/05/so-you-want-to-help-heres-how/<br />
( cut and paste into browser)<br />
And what if you thought the friend<br />
was the abuser?<br />
I’m so glad you asked this question. The<br />
ongoing Harvey Weinstein case suggests<br />
that many people around Weinstein knew<br />
what was happening but did nothing.<br />
What does this say to Weinstein?<br />
It gives a form of consent to his actions<br />
and adds to his power. I do however<br />
accept that it can be difficult to challenge<br />
a friend and see a need for us to talk more<br />
about this and provide individuals with<br />
options and ways that this can be done<br />
safely.<br />
<strong>CCChat</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong> - Making the Invisible Visible