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At this point a member of staff
intervened and we were called in to the
court room.
The Judge immediately said to my Ex
partner it is my understanding that
you were not going to contest this
order however you have now changed
your mind.
I had a good judge that put my ex
partner firmly in his place, he was told
given the seriousness of the allegations
and the fact that you state that you
never want to see this woman again! I
ask why you feel the need to contest
it?
I was utterly relieved that the order
was granted and that I had some sort
of protection and peace of mind.
My ex is calculating and I am all too
aware that whilst there is an order in
place that states that he is not allowed
any contact with myself both directly
or indirectly and not allowed to
instruct a third party to threaten or
intimate me , that I am safe.
All professionals have stated that he is
dangerous and I am a high risk victim
I know.
All professionals have stated that he is dangerous and I
am a high risk victim
At this point he lost his cool and the
judge was able to see exactly the types
of behaviours that had bought us to
this. He swore at me, calling me a liar
and every expletive under the sun, it
was at this point that the judge told
him that he needed to accept the order,
he reluctantly agreed and asked
whether his employer would need to
be informed of this he then stormed
out of court.
I am lucky to have left the relationship
and still be alive, two years on.
However, I was all too aware that I
would need to either move from my
home town when the order expired or
re apply for an extension. The latter is
what I did.
This is a man who says he is a changed
person; he has previous for kidnap,
armed robbery and drug charges.
However he now works for a major
corporation so prides himself on this.
My ex showed his real self at this stage,
completely losing his cool screaming
and shouting at myself and my
barrister in the court waiting room.
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