OLIVER SHIFLISH - LESS FEAR MORE HAPPINESS (sample)

These days, many people ask me for help. I spoke to my
unhappy neighbor a couple of times and since then his
life has moved in a positive direction. He then asked me to
help his older sister because she is seeing a psychiatrist.
I went to the city of Pécs and met Nicoletta, an elegant
lady in her late thirties but full of tension. Three years
ago she inherited approximately 200,000 Euros and still
has it in her account (that’s a lot of money in Hungary! Or
anywhere!). She is a personal assistant to one of the best
doctors in the region. She has a big apartment, but no
peace of mind, no inner harmony.
We spoke for just an hour and a half and she told me that
since she lost her father three years ago she has never
been sure of making the right decision in anything. She
said: I never know whether my father would approve
of what I do. I told her, well what do you think that your
father would say if he saw you like this... broken down...
indecisive... would he like that? She replied that no, he
would be unhappy to see her in such a state.
I asked her to imagine that she was standing on a bus,
holding a pole. The pole allowed her to stand still despite
the breakings and turns made by the vehicle. If someone
took away that pole, the way her father was taken from
her, you wouldn’t know what to do. The pole was your
savior from fear, and now it’s not there anymore. You
tumble, you clutch at the air, you are thrown all around.
But you don’t realize that you just have to stop searching
for that pole. Take the empty seat in front of you or see
another pole that is in front of your nose. You don’t
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