O Son !

THE SILA-I-RAHM
155– If a person visits his kinsfolk who are Muslims and who
who are watchful of their faith, Islam, they will be given as much
thawâb as if they made nâfila hajj seventy times. Visits made for
pleasing people’s hearts yield plenty of thawâb. A visit paid to
kinsfolk with wrong creed and who do not belong to one of the
four Madhhabs will not yield thawâb.
156– Teach your son(s) and daughter(s) adab and Islamic
(Arabic) letters and how to read the Qur’ân al-kerîm and
knowledge! Visit your relatives and neighbours who are mahram
to you. Send them letters, (messages and mails) asking how they
have been doing! Do not talk with women who are not mahram to
you, e.i. those who are nâ-mahram to you!
157– Train and educate your children in their early ages!
Before doing anything else, teach them things that please Allâhu
ta’âlâ and which He commands! Exert yourself to bring them up as
good Believers! Once they have grown up, it will be difficult to
train them as Muslims with adab. Forgive them their faults and
faults on your wife’s part. Our Prophet ‘’alaihis-salâm’ stated:
“The most virtuous alms is the food and clothes that you provide
for your children and family.” Protect your children and your wife
against harâms, sins and evil company!
When your daughter finishes her elementary school, do not let
her find a job and work for a living. It is farz for a father to work
and earn a living for himself and for his family and thereby meet
his wife’s and daughters’ needs. As a girl works with her head and
arms exposed, her father will be sinful. Marry her off as soon as
possible. Allâhu ta’âlâ will send her rizq (living) to her husband.
Rich or poor, give her in marriage to someone who comes from a
good family and who obeys Allâhu ta’âlâ’s commandments! Do
not burden your son-in-law with high payments for household
goods and mahr! Do not give your daughter to an old man or to a
man who has nothing to do with Islam or who does not know
Islâmic ’ilm-i-hâl or who does not avoid harâms.
An important note: Marry off your son(s) and daughter(s) as
soon as they are past the age of fifteen, so that they will be
protected against harâms. It will be impossible for young people
who are not married at this age to be safe against harâms. If you
want to protect your children against Hell, see to that they get
married early! Do not fear poverty! Allâhu ta’âlâ will give
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