May '18

add to that particular bucket.
Each drop put into their
?behavior? bucket has
exponentially higher returns
than the other 4. (good to
know, right?! :) )
This seems to be an inherent
bucket in all us humans. To
make our own choices, have
control over our own destiny?
? and was the rallying cry for
us going for our
independence.
But it seems to be an even
higher bucket for children.
When THEIR ENTIRE LIFE is up
to somebody else.
...FREEDOM!
And their minds are on fire
with possibilities! (especially
during them toddler years,
which are the EXPLORE
stages!)
Poor Parents are constantly
fighting the battle of how
much to let them roam and
have freedom vs. saving their
life!
But a child needs to have
freedom to make their own
choices. If not that?s when this
bucket will begin to run dry.
When it?s running dry, that?s
when the outpouring of
misbehaviors and not
listenings begin to happen.
Turn EVERYTHING into a
choice for your child, it?s just
the 2 choices that both work
"
TURN EVERYTHING
INTOA CHOICE...
"
out for what YOU want?
?Do you want to brush your
teeth now, or after your story?
Are you familiar with how
ketchup came to be?
The owners of that company
were noticing that 50% of it?s
usage was coming from
children.
Using that ketchup was the
ONLY experience a child had
that it was up to them.
They had to eat what parents
wanted them to eat. They
were told to constantly ?clean
your plate.? Had to do
everything the adults told
them.
Then they got a hold of
ketchup! With that they could
put as little or as much
ketchup as they wanted. They
could put it on whatever they
wanted!
Heinz noticed this and so
made the bottle more
7
11
accessible to children. Easy
grip. Squeezeable. Easy pour.
So that it wasn?t as much
effort for the child to get as
much ketchup as they wanted.
Pretty cool, huh?
"
Mom ?s t aking act ion!
This is one of the
foundational reasons what
makes my Now They Listen,
Discipline & Respect System
so powerful.
Because your child has
complete control!
Here?s a nugget taken out of
that System that you can
employ today. A real simple
concept based on the token
economy.
Grab a piece of paper and
cut out little dollar bill shaped
rectangles in it. Put a 1 on
each one.
This is your tribe?s currency.
Aka, your family.
Have them do a daily chore
and let them know when they
complete it, they earned 1
?buck?.
They can then turn in that
?buck? either each day or each
week for whatever they want.
-tv watching time
- pick their own movie
- maybe an actual $1 to go
buy whatever they wanted
(DOUBLE CHOICE!)