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BY ABUNDANT ROBERT K.<br />
AWOLUGUTU<br />
RELATIONSHIPS<br />
PLAY a crucial<br />
role in our daily<br />
life. Pay attention<br />
as the relationships<br />
you form<br />
can either make or mar life.<br />
You should make a conscious<br />
effort to form good relationships<br />
as they are a<br />
prerequisite to an exciting and<br />
successful life. Doing so comes<br />
with challenges.<br />
Here are relationship principles<br />
to guide you towards<br />
achieving the ultimate in lifepeace,<br />
happiness, success and<br />
fulfillment.<br />
Paul of Tarsus admonishes:<br />
“Let no corrupt word proceed<br />
out of your mouth, but what is<br />
good for necessary edification,<br />
that it may impart grace to the<br />
hearers.” (Ephesians 4:29). The<br />
words you speak have effectsgood<br />
or bad. Speak words that<br />
uplift people or you may be<br />
wasting your breath.<br />
Paul also talks about things<br />
that can spoil our relationship<br />
with people. These include bitterness,<br />
wrath, anger, clamor<br />
and evil speaking which we<br />
must do away with. These are<br />
negative traits that can destroy<br />
the good relationships we have<br />
with other people.<br />
We should rather be kind,<br />
tenderhearted, willing to forgive<br />
those who have wronged us.<br />
These qualities will help us establish<br />
and maintain good relationship<br />
with people we<br />
encounter. Even our enemies<br />
can change and become our<br />
friends.<br />
What is your most important<br />
Views DAILY<br />
consideration when entering<br />
into a relationship with another<br />
person? What are your motives<br />
for forming that relationship?<br />
Be reminded that when selfishness<br />
enters a relationship, it<br />
will not endure or last. Treat<br />
everybody you meet as more<br />
important than yourself.<br />
It is a mark of humility when<br />
you esteem others better than<br />
yourself. Most people will like<br />
to make friends with people<br />
who are humble and easily approachable.<br />
Don’t always look to your<br />
own interests but consider the<br />
interests of others. These are<br />
good leadership qualities on<br />
which relationships of all kind<br />
can thrive and flourish.<br />
Love is the building block<br />
for relationships. It is the glue<br />
that holds relationships together.<br />
When two people genuinely<br />
love each other, they do things<br />
HERITAGE WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER <strong>12</strong>, 2018<br />
Relational principles for a successful life<br />
•Abundant Robert K. Awolugutu, the writer<br />
Paul also talks about things that can spoil our relationship<br />
with people. These include bitterness,<br />
wrath, anger, clamor and evil speaking which we<br />
must do away with. These are negative traits that<br />
can destroy the good relationships we have with<br />
other people.<br />
that reinforce the relationship.<br />
They make an effort to understand<br />
each other.<br />
Because of the love they<br />
have for each other, their communication<br />
hinges on the positive.<br />
Whenever there is friction,<br />
they look for a common ground<br />
and strike a compromise to resolve<br />
their misunderstandings<br />
amicably.<br />
They may embark on a journey<br />
towards success together.<br />
They offer support to each<br />
other.<br />
They always have encouraging<br />
words for each other. Love<br />
must be nurtured or like a<br />
flower it will wither and die.<br />
We must use love to conquer<br />
evil. Love is what helps people<br />
to build their life. This is true<br />
whether at the family level or<br />
people working together to<br />
meet their common aspirations.When<br />
love becomes the<br />
foundation for any relationship,<br />
sometimes great sacrifices have<br />
to be made to ensure that the<br />
relationship grows strong.<br />
John 15:13 says, “Greater<br />
love has no one than this, than<br />
to lay down one’s life for his<br />
friends.” You may not literally<br />
die for a friend, but you can<br />
stand with him through thick<br />
and thin. You are prepared to<br />
save his life at the very peril of<br />
your own.<br />
Bible tells husbands to love<br />
their wives and not treat them<br />
harshly.<br />
Exercise great care in choosing<br />
whom to hang out with.<br />
Stay away from someone who<br />
talks too much; such a person<br />
cannot keep secrets. Prov.20:19<br />
counsels us: “He who goes<br />
about as a talebearer reveals secrets;<br />
therefore do not associate<br />
with one who flatters with his<br />
lips.”<br />
Be in the company of those<br />
who are wise, honest and have<br />
integrity. They should be able to<br />
uphold the truth at all times.<br />
These are the people who can<br />
help you in your success journey.<br />
A major cause of broken relationships<br />
is the blame game.<br />
Finger pointing and fault finding<br />
only magnify problems. It<br />
amounts to a refusal on our<br />
part to properly evaluate our<br />
own contribution to the conflict.<br />
We must accept responsibility<br />
and examine the issues properly<br />
and work towards changing<br />
what is destroying the relationship.<br />
This approach will help<br />
the relationship grow and develop<br />
to the benefit of all parties<br />
involved.<br />
Bible counsels us to live<br />
peaceably with all men. To be<br />
able to do so, one must be<br />
proactive in stopping conflicts<br />
from erupting or when they do<br />
occur manage them before they<br />
escalate. Sometimes a mediator<br />
who is very much respected by<br />
those in the conflict will help<br />
them resolve the issues.<br />
We should avoid the tendency<br />
to take vengeance. We<br />
should leave that to the Lord.<br />
There are virtues that are<br />
necessary for building healthy<br />
relationships-compassion, patience,<br />
kindness, gentleness, humility<br />
and bearing one another<br />
A major cause<br />
of broken relationships<br />
is the<br />
blame game.<br />
Finger pointing<br />
and fault finding<br />
only magnify<br />
problems. It<br />
amounts to a refusal<br />
on our<br />
part to properly<br />
evaluate our<br />
own contribution<br />
to the conflict.<br />
in brotherly affection. These<br />
qualities speak to the heart of<br />
daily living.<br />
A person who puts on these<br />
qualities will not find it difficult<br />
to build lasting relationships.<br />
To be compassionate is to be<br />
touched by the needs of others<br />
and the willingness to help<br />
them.<br />
To be patient is to be longtempered.<br />
Kindness is love in action. It<br />
is doing good to people. It includes<br />
being generous to others<br />
who may need our assistance.<br />
When you are gentle, there is<br />
modesty in your dressing, being<br />
polite, having good comportment<br />
and having decent manners<br />
and conduct.<br />
Humility is a godly character<br />
trait. Jesus left the heavens and<br />
came down to live among men<br />
on earth.<br />
Jesus had the above qualities<br />
making him our greatest example.<br />
These virtues made Jesus a<br />
relationship expert. We should<br />
pattern our life after his.<br />
Inconclusion it is difficult<br />
forming relationships, harder in<br />
maintaining them and easy to<br />
destroy. We can, however, make<br />
our relationships work to our<br />
benefit by applying the relationship<br />
principles described above.<br />
Yours in inspiration,<br />
ARK.<br />
Email:<br />
awolugutu@yahoo.com<br />
Cell: 0208 455 296; 0559<br />
466 048