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BY ABUNDANT ROBERT K.<br />

AWOLUGUTU<br />

RELATIONSHIPS<br />

PLAY a crucial<br />

role in our daily<br />

life. Pay attention<br />

as the relationships<br />

you form<br />

can either make or mar life.<br />

You should make a conscious<br />

effort to form good relationships<br />

as they are a<br />

prerequisite to an exciting and<br />

successful life. Doing so comes<br />

with challenges.<br />

Here are relationship principles<br />

to guide you towards<br />

achieving the ultimate in lifepeace,<br />

happiness, success and<br />

fulfillment.<br />

Paul of Tarsus admonishes:<br />

“Let no corrupt word proceed<br />

out of your mouth, but what is<br />

good for necessary edification,<br />

that it may impart grace to the<br />

hearers.” (Ephesians 4:29). The<br />

words you speak have effectsgood<br />

or bad. Speak words that<br />

uplift people or you may be<br />

wasting your breath.<br />

Paul also talks about things<br />

that can spoil our relationship<br />

with people. These include bitterness,<br />

wrath, anger, clamor<br />

and evil speaking which we<br />

must do away with. These are<br />

negative traits that can destroy<br />

the good relationships we have<br />

with other people.<br />

We should rather be kind,<br />

tenderhearted, willing to forgive<br />

those who have wronged us.<br />

These qualities will help us establish<br />

and maintain good relationship<br />

with people we<br />

encounter. Even our enemies<br />

can change and become our<br />

friends.<br />

What is your most important<br />

Views DAILY<br />

consideration when entering<br />

into a relationship with another<br />

person? What are your motives<br />

for forming that relationship?<br />

Be reminded that when selfishness<br />

enters a relationship, it<br />

will not endure or last. Treat<br />

everybody you meet as more<br />

important than yourself.<br />

It is a mark of humility when<br />

you esteem others better than<br />

yourself. Most people will like<br />

to make friends with people<br />

who are humble and easily approachable.<br />

Don’t always look to your<br />

own interests but consider the<br />

interests of others. These are<br />

good leadership qualities on<br />

which relationships of all kind<br />

can thrive and flourish.<br />

Love is the building block<br />

for relationships. It is the glue<br />

that holds relationships together.<br />

When two people genuinely<br />

love each other, they do things<br />

HERITAGE WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER <strong>12</strong>, 2018<br />

Relational principles for a successful life<br />

•Abundant Robert K. Awolugutu, the writer<br />

Paul also talks about things that can spoil our relationship<br />

with people. These include bitterness,<br />

wrath, anger, clamor and evil speaking which we<br />

must do away with. These are negative traits that<br />

can destroy the good relationships we have with<br />

other people.<br />

that reinforce the relationship.<br />

They make an effort to understand<br />

each other.<br />

Because of the love they<br />

have for each other, their communication<br />

hinges on the positive.<br />

Whenever there is friction,<br />

they look for a common ground<br />

and strike a compromise to resolve<br />

their misunderstandings<br />

amicably.<br />

They may embark on a journey<br />

towards success together.<br />

They offer support to each<br />

other.<br />

They always have encouraging<br />

words for each other. Love<br />

must be nurtured or like a<br />

flower it will wither and die.<br />

We must use love to conquer<br />

evil. Love is what helps people<br />

to build their life. This is true<br />

whether at the family level or<br />

people working together to<br />

meet their common aspirations.When<br />

love becomes the<br />

foundation for any relationship,<br />

sometimes great sacrifices have<br />

to be made to ensure that the<br />

relationship grows strong.<br />

John 15:13 says, “Greater<br />

love has no one than this, than<br />

to lay down one’s life for his<br />

friends.” You may not literally<br />

die for a friend, but you can<br />

stand with him through thick<br />

and thin. You are prepared to<br />

save his life at the very peril of<br />

your own.<br />

Bible tells husbands to love<br />

their wives and not treat them<br />

harshly.<br />

Exercise great care in choosing<br />

whom to hang out with.<br />

Stay away from someone who<br />

talks too much; such a person<br />

cannot keep secrets. Prov.20:19<br />

counsels us: “He who goes<br />

about as a talebearer reveals secrets;<br />

therefore do not associate<br />

with one who flatters with his<br />

lips.”<br />

Be in the company of those<br />

who are wise, honest and have<br />

integrity. They should be able to<br />

uphold the truth at all times.<br />

These are the people who can<br />

help you in your success journey.<br />

A major cause of broken relationships<br />

is the blame game.<br />

Finger pointing and fault finding<br />

only magnify problems. It<br />

amounts to a refusal on our<br />

part to properly evaluate our<br />

own contribution to the conflict.<br />

We must accept responsibility<br />

and examine the issues properly<br />

and work towards changing<br />

what is destroying the relationship.<br />

This approach will help<br />

the relationship grow and develop<br />

to the benefit of all parties<br />

involved.<br />

Bible counsels us to live<br />

peaceably with all men. To be<br />

able to do so, one must be<br />

proactive in stopping conflicts<br />

from erupting or when they do<br />

occur manage them before they<br />

escalate. Sometimes a mediator<br />

who is very much respected by<br />

those in the conflict will help<br />

them resolve the issues.<br />

We should avoid the tendency<br />

to take vengeance. We<br />

should leave that to the Lord.<br />

There are virtues that are<br />

necessary for building healthy<br />

relationships-compassion, patience,<br />

kindness, gentleness, humility<br />

and bearing one another<br />

A major cause<br />

of broken relationships<br />

is the<br />

blame game.<br />

Finger pointing<br />

and fault finding<br />

only magnify<br />

problems. It<br />

amounts to a refusal<br />

on our<br />

part to properly<br />

evaluate our<br />

own contribution<br />

to the conflict.<br />

in brotherly affection. These<br />

qualities speak to the heart of<br />

daily living.<br />

A person who puts on these<br />

qualities will not find it difficult<br />

to build lasting relationships.<br />

To be compassionate is to be<br />

touched by the needs of others<br />

and the willingness to help<br />

them.<br />

To be patient is to be longtempered.<br />

Kindness is love in action. It<br />

is doing good to people. It includes<br />

being generous to others<br />

who may need our assistance.<br />

When you are gentle, there is<br />

modesty in your dressing, being<br />

polite, having good comportment<br />

and having decent manners<br />

and conduct.<br />

Humility is a godly character<br />

trait. Jesus left the heavens and<br />

came down to live among men<br />

on earth.<br />

Jesus had the above qualities<br />

making him our greatest example.<br />

These virtues made Jesus a<br />

relationship expert. We should<br />

pattern our life after his.<br />

Inconclusion it is difficult<br />

forming relationships, harder in<br />

maintaining them and easy to<br />

destroy. We can, however, make<br />

our relationships work to our<br />

benefit by applying the relationship<br />

principles described above.<br />

Yours in inspiration,<br />

ARK.<br />

Email:<br />

awolugutu@yahoo.com<br />

Cell: 0208 455 296; 0559<br />

466 048

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