LM Times August 12th 2019

8 Last Mountain Times • Monday, August 12, 2019 • lmtimes.ca
Let go of hurt
and anger
Are you upset or angry with someone
in your life? Did the situation
which caused you to feel that way happen
just recently, or some time ago?
What does it feel like, in your body,
when you think about this? Often we
feel a tightening or heaviness in our
heart or our gut.
No matter what someone has done
to us, no matter how right we might
be to feel upset, we are the ones who
carry the emotional weight as long as
we remain upset. The turmoil within
takes a toll on us, while the one who
PSYCHOLOGY
FOR LIVING
GWEN
RANDALL-YOUNG
caused it may have put it out of his or her mind. It is said
that acid eats away at the container that holds it. Resentment
is like drinking poison and hoping the other will die!
Neuroscience has shown that when we are angry or
upset, our immune system is suppressed for six to eight
hours. If we then tell someone about how angry or hurt
we are, the process of immune suppression continues for
another six to eight hours.
If we dwell on our hurts, whether in relationship or in
the workplace, constantly talking about how we have been
wronged, then we can have continual immune system
suppression. Does this mean we will get more cold and flu?
Not necessarily.
However, we do not want those T-cells that fight cancer
to be immobilized. We do not want to suffer more headaches,
digestive problems, anxiety or depression. These
can all be caused by toxic relationships. The toxic part is
how we react to them. We create our own internal poison
either by being toxic ourselves, or staying in an unhealthy
situation.
We do not have to stay hurt. Here are the options. If we
have a generally good relationship with the person, and
they did not intend to hurt us, we can simply decide to let
it go. If the relationship has ‘issues’, and our hurt comes
from ongoing insensitivity to our feelings, we can attempt
to see if there can be a way to resolve the problem.
If the relationship is worth it, professional help would
be a good investment. If the problem is with someone we
do not need or want to associate with, we can just let it
go, along with the person. The relationship is clearly not a
healthy one if we find ourselves always harboring resentment.
The bottom line here is that, one way or another, we
must find a way to let go of hurt and anger: that feeling it
creates in our bodies is the signal that it does unhealthy
things to us. It is up to us to detoxify ourselves, or to get
out of toxic situations.
-Gwen Randall‐Young is an author and
award‐winning Psychotherapist.
To obtain books, cds or MP3’s, visit www.gwen.ca
LMVBA monthly
meeting notes
Members of the Last Mountain Valley Business Association
met on Wednesday evening, August 7th, for a brief
catch-up on arrangements for the annual LMVBA Show
and Shine Car Show held this past weekend (August 10th).
Watch for a report in the August 19th edition.
Chad Cardiff provided an update on the work-in-progress
revamping of the LMVBA’s website, and there was
a discussion on further plans for a Last Mountain Valley
Economic Development Update Session. The association
is now looking at a mid to late October date for the event.
Businesses wishing to participate should contact LMVBA
President Kirby Kazeil (kirbykazeil@gmail.com) for more
information.
-editor
Bob Hawes Fishing Derby
On July 20, 2019 the 7th Annual Bob Hawes
Memorial Fishing Derby was held at Last Mt.
Reg. Park. Mother Nature provided perfect
fishing weather, the very best ever for this
event. The Hawes family great fully thanked
the 79 participants who took to the lake to
catch ‘ the big one’.
Warren Schmidt and Donna Hawes presented
the awards to Jase McNichol who caught the
largest (26 3/4”) Walleye in the youth division
and Darryl Kerr who caught the largest
(27 1/2”) walleye in the Overall division. I
overheard many of those participating that
they had caught fish very close to those sizes.
Congratulations to Jase and Darryl. There was
a delicious roast beef supper served after the
presentation. Those attending could also watch
the Riders vs Lions on the big screen. A very
successful day with proceeds going to the boat
launch in memory of Bob Hawes.
-Lynn Gettis
I am looking to check into the ‘Asylum’
known as the Council Chambers of the
RM of McKillop
So why am I running in the upcoming by-election for Division 1?
Well, I have been receiving a lot of positive feed back on the
articles that I have been writing, especially the article on “The Tale
of Two Hamlets”. The common thread in the discussions is that almost
no one understood how terribly unfairly the RM of McKillop
continues to manage the privileges and the special tax treatment
that the organized hamlets receive, specifically, being able to direct
a significant portion of their tax dollars towards community
upgrades that the unorganized hamlets can only dream of, and on
top of that, the unorganized hamlets and the rural and Ag sector
have to subsidize the tax shortfall because of that special privilege.
If elected, I will work to pressure council to make changes to
make the tax treatment and services provided for unorganized and
organized hamlets more equitable. It can be done without adding
any additional tax burden to the unorganized hamlets and with no
negative impact for the Ag and rural ratepayers. Some will try to
call me a liar and say it cannot be done. Well folks, a number of
sections within the Municipalities Act provide the tools for council
and ratepayers to accomplish exactly what I am proposing.
As many of you know I resigned from council earlier this year.
The primary reason, I simply could not, in all good conscience,
preside over a council that was obviously prepared to allow Councillor
Rudy Thompson, who by the way is an active developer, to
pressure council to make changes to the Official Community Plan and Zoning Bylaw which support his own personal
financial objectives and agenda. After the draft Official Community Plan and Zoning bylaws were completed
and distributed for public review, it is obvious that he achieved his objective. Had I stayed on I have no reason to
believe that the outcome would have changed and I would also have to wear the shame of assisting someone in
achieving his own personal agenda.
By electing my opponent, a resident of the Organized Hamlet of Alta Vista, the face of council will look like
this: the Reeve and four Councillors from Organized Hamlets whose voters will be really pi--ed with any changes
to the special tax treatment that they receive; one developer who is in an obvious conflict of interest, cares little
about anything else but his own selfish agenda and has stated he has no intention to be on council after the fall
election next year; and one Councillor, who is only a seasonal resident, who owns a cottage in one of the two very
small hamlets that receives special treatment on the land portion their tax levy, which by the way, other hamlets
can only dream about.
So, I ask the residents of Shore Acres, Heritage Valley and Sun Dale as well as the rural and Ag residents of
Division 1 - do you not think you should be treated better and more fairly?
Please get out and vote. August 28th 2019, 9 am to 8 pm Bulyea Community Hall
Thank you for your support
Howard Arndt
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