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Sometimes a thing happens that is so awful,<br />
so devastating, there is no way to make sense<br />
of it. As Bluffton patches up its heart after<br />
the Christmas parade tragedy, we can all<br />
take comfort in the collective strength of our<br />
“helpers,” those who rally in our darkest hour.<br />
“Always look for the helpers,” said legendary<br />
children’s show host Mr. Rogers, paraphrasing<br />
his mother’s advice when, as a little boy, he<br />
was disturbed by catastrophes on the news.<br />
“You will always find people who are helping.<br />
If you look for the helpers, you’ll know there<br />
is hope.”<br />
We are fortunate that here in Bluffton we<br />
don’t have to look too far. Despite tremendous<br />
growth the last few years, this town is still<br />
small enough to care. Who didn’t feel a gut-<br />
punch when they heard about the loss of a<br />
sweet innocent, and an outpouring of spirit<br />
toward the family? But folks didn’t stop at<br />
just feeling — they stirred to action. <strong>The</strong>y<br />
cooked meals, raised funds, and organized<br />
a candlelight vigil attended by well-wishers<br />
who came out in droves to lend love and<br />
support. Whether they understood because<br />
they’d been through something similar, or<br />
they could scarcely imagine, they were there<br />
because Bluffton has a heart.<br />
Life is so fragile. <strong>The</strong>se physical bodies are<br />
vulnerable to time, the elements, and every<br />
sort of disaster imaginable. <strong>The</strong> hour awaits<br />
us all, and our loved ones as well, yet nothing<br />
truly prepares us for what we can hardly bear<br />
even to think about. When suffering a great<br />
loss<br />
we have our spiritual and existential<br />
beliefs to fall back on, which are deeply<br />
personal and vary from individual to individual.<br />
But allowing for our different faiths, the only<br />
objective, verifiable, self-evident truth is this:<br />
the person was here, and now they are gone.<br />
For those left under the crushing burden of<br />
that grief, struggling even to breath, the balm<br />
of pure love is essential.<br />
We can never take away their pain or close<br />
over the wound in an instant like we would<br />
wish, but we can help heal it slowly with<br />
our kindness, care, sincere presence, and<br />
recognition of the bond we share in the human<br />
condition. Because whatever someone else is<br />
going through today, it may just as well be<br />
any of us tomorrow. From this universal truth<br />
proceeds real empathy.<br />
Perhaps we don’t directly know those involved<br />
in a particular tragedy; maybe we didn’t reach<br />
out. Yet our hearts have been touched and we<br />
want to act. One way is by doing random acts<br />
of kindness as a memorial: in the name of the<br />
lost, we can buy coffee for the person behind<br />
us in line, leave a gas card at the pump, tuck<br />
a gift in the box for our mail carrier, bring<br />
goodies and flowers to our local fire rescue<br />
squad or nurses station. <strong>The</strong> people whose day<br />
we made brighter may never know what we<br />
had on our mind, but our own hearts will grow<br />
a little gladder knowing we turned something<br />
horrible into some-thing good. And we must<br />
always, ALWAYS love those near and dear to<br />
us, without conditions or grudges, but taking<br />
time tTo be truly present for them, because<br />
we don’t always get to say goodbye.<br />
Thank you Bluffton, for<br />
being a town with a heart.<br />
#HEARTOFTHELOWCOUNTRY<br />
To show tangible support to the<br />
family, visit any area SunTrust<br />
bank or donate online at:<br />
paypal.me/AmeerFrazier<br />
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