Alice Vol. 5 No. 1
Published by UA Student Media in Fall 2019.
Published by UA Student Media in Fall 2019.
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S O R R Y R E F L E X<br />
By Annie Hollon<br />
Take a moment and think about how many times you have said or heard the<br />
word “sorry” in the last 24 hours. Was the apology warranted? Did you mean it? Or<br />
was it an instinctive response to a situation where no one owes anyone an apology?<br />
If your answer is the latter, you are one of the many plagued by the “sorry reflex,” a<br />
sociocultural reaction embedded within the upbringing of young women associated with<br />
humility and submissiveness. The root of the problem could stem from a number of<br />
places, but the key question here is why women say sorry so often and what we can do to<br />
reverse and stop this habit.<br />
Life in Plastic Gets Realistic<br />
While this subject is hardly a new revelation, its cultural prevalence and how it<br />
is impacting young women is. Commonly called the “Apology Reflex,” the subject was<br />
brought to the public eye’s attention from a rather unexpected source: Barbie. The<br />
childhood heroine of many young girls voiced her frustration on the issue through one<br />
of her YouTube vlogs (no lie). In her video from June 2018, she coined the term “sorry<br />
reflex” when describing the constant apologies women utter in everyday circumstances<br />
to the millions who follow her videos.<br />
She goes on to give examples of when people apologize unnecessarily and calls out<br />
the damage it causes to women’s confidence, challenging her viewers to watch how often<br />
they say “sorry” and swap it for a “thank you.”<br />
“I think there’s a bigger issue around sorry, especially<br />
with girls,” Barbie said. “We say it a lot…Like it’s a<br />
reflex, and somehow everything that goes wrong is<br />
our fault.”<br />
While the video is aimed at young girls, the message resonated with women of<br />
all ages online, with over a million views on the video as of the date of publication.<br />
Identifying this issue, especially in content targeted at 7.5 million subscribers, raised<br />
awareness and sparked a greater conversation about what exactly the “sorry reflex” is<br />
and the impact it has on young girls. This animated media icon is not the only one to<br />
speak out on the subject matter, or the first.<br />
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