L& R December 2020

Humiliation
A great way to get a submissive to stay in line is to humiliate them when they’ve done
something wrong. There are several ways to go about this, depending on your dynamic
and kinks, but it’s an effective and amusing way to get the message across.
Clothing Restriction: Clothing restriction can be done both domestically and in public.
Restriction can be as much as not allowing any clothing (in legal or private settings),
ordering a certain amount of skin be showing, or choosing a specific outfit or collar for
the submissive. For shy submissives, clothing restriction can be intense. This is an
especially good punishment for submissives who have said negative comments about
their bodies.
Diapering: For ABDL or little submissives, this can either be a reward or a punishment.
Depending on the comfort level with diapers, they can be used as a punishment that ties
into humiliation. Making them relieve themselves in only the diaper for a set amount of
time or wearing it around the house as their only clothing can be very humiliating for
some people.
Sissification: Sissification is a kink that is most common in submissive men. It’s the act of
dolling a man up like a girl and humiliating him based on his presentation as such. This
can be very effective for some people but can be very problematic to others. Be careful
not to use this kink as punishment with trans or gender non-conforming subs without
their explicit consent, as it can very easily trigger dysphoria and cause severe emotional
problems.
Public Humiliation: Public humiliation can be done in any subtle way that embarrasses a
submissive without breaking any obvious laws. Some examples include making them
wear an anal plug or remote-controlled vibrator to dinner or making them kneel at kinkfriendly
gatherings. Work this idea into the submissive’s specific kinks and limits to be
sure it’s just enough to embarrass them, without making them unbearably uncomfortable.
Orgasm Control
Orgasm control is simply that–
controlling the submissive’s
orgasms. Most of these types of
punishments are used for
submissives who break rules
about orgasms, be it without
permission or when they were
told not to touch themselves.
Controlling orgasms is an
amusing way to teach the
submissive who their orgasms
belong to.
Edging: Edging is the act of