Expand Magazine - Volume 6 Issue 2
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EXPAND | BE MORE /8<br />
ask the<br />
Therapist<br />
By Jackie Paulson<br />
Q:<br />
I am struggling with motherhood. I feel so overwhelmed and guilty all the<br />
time. It feels hard to keep up with everything. I feel so overstimulated<br />
by our schedule and the stress in our home. The whole experience of<br />
parenthood is way harder than I ever expected. I didn’t see our life being<br />
so busy when I first became a mother. I wish we had more time to enjoy<br />
each other and feel connected. Now we all are just exhausted when we are<br />
home and stare at our devices. I want to be better for my family. Help!<br />
Dear Reader,<br />
Thank you for your vulnerable and brave share. I am<br />
sure there are many parents reading this right now<br />
that could relate to what you are saying. I want to<br />
take a moment to note that for the sake of the article,<br />
I will be referencing mostly women and mothers,<br />
however, I must emphasize that all of this can also be<br />
a shared experience by those parents who identify<br />
as men, transgendered, and/or non-binary.<br />
As a therapist who practices from a decolonized<br />
lens, I am acutely aware of how the systems in which<br />
we live create many of the symptoms that we are<br />
experiencing as individuals, couples, and families.<br />
Many people come into my office and say, “what’s<br />
wrong with me? I can’t keep up with everyone else,”<br />
in some way or another. And some of the first layers<br />
we explore, are how none of us were meant to keep<br />
up at this pace as human beings.<br />
The history of the society in which we find ourselves<br />
is built on hyper-individualization, industry, and<br />
productivity. The role of the mother or caregiver<br />
has long been abandoned as something of<br />
importance. Although most people will say that<br />
it is in conversation, the overall systems in which<br />
we live neglects the care of the caregiving, child