“Dialogue – possible between leader and follower?” - Ashridge
“Dialogue – possible between leader and follower?” - Ashridge
“Dialogue – possible between leader and follower?” - Ashridge
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• All members of the group seem remarkably busy <strong>and</strong> our busyness means<br />
we face many competing commitments. This has led to the question ‘is<br />
this time in together worthwhile’….’I could be doing x’. This can lead away<br />
from dialogue however the voicing of it has paradoxically aided dialogue<br />
indicating the importance of openness <strong>and</strong> honesty in relation to dialogue.<br />
• We have reflected on the need to ‘seem’ rather than ‘be’ as Buber puts it.<br />
In the case of this group we have mainly recognised ‘the need to seem<br />
clever’. We have wanted others in the group to admire us. Again, this<br />
could certainly get in the way of dialogue, but in disclosing this need has<br />
brought us closer together. I have experienced this need in particular in<br />
my role as facilitator; wanting others to see me as a good facilitator, or<br />
actually even more so - an expert facilitator. This inevitably takes me<br />
away from being present; I am too focused on what I might say next,<br />
what I should be doing, or what others might think of me.<br />
• Finally we have had a few occasions where we have misrepresented<br />
others, misunderstood what others have said <strong>and</strong> misconstrued meaning<br />
of actions taken. Argyris’ ladder of inference (1982) comes to mind here<br />
<strong>and</strong> the way in which we ‘fill in the gaps’ of our underst<strong>and</strong>ing, often in<br />
ways which we don’t realise <strong>and</strong> therefore don’t question <strong>and</strong> as a result<br />
we are taken further away from meeting each other in dialogue<br />
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