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To dream that you are a god implies your own special talents which you
have not yet recognized or have not fully developed. Alternatively, it
suggests your feelings of superiority over others. You think you are above
others and have a tendency to look down on people.
The mills of God grind slowly,
But they grind exceeding small.”
Anger is a healthy, normal emotion when you know how to express it appropriately. Anger management is about learning how
to do this. Like Aristotle said, it’s about being angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right
purpose, and in the right way. Below you’ll find eight tips to help you take the edge off when you get angry, so that you can
deal with your anger appropriately and respond to the situation effectively.
1. Take a time out. If you can, remove yourself from the situation that is making you angry until you can calm down. This can
mean going for a walk, taking a bathroom break, or stepping into the next room for a couple of minutes. If you can’t leave, try
to count up to ten before you respond.
2. Get physical. Physical activity is a great way to release the excess energy generated by anger. Participate in your favorite
sport, whether it’s tennis, jogging, swimming, going for a bike ride, or taking a Tae Bo class.
3. Talk to someone about the situation. Psychologist Rich Walker of Winston-Salem State University explains that talking to
others about a situation which has angered you reduces the emotional intensity of the memory. Walker says that storytelling
works best when there is a lot of audience diversity; that is, it helps to tell the story many times to a variety of people.
4. Practice mindfulness. The Buddha would often say: “Nobody is upsetting you. Nothing is upsetting you. You get upset
because you are upsettable.” We need to understand that anger is a by-product of our way of thinking. By taking control of
our mind we can take control of our life.
5. Make sure you’re assessing the situation accurately. Sometimes we get angry because we’ve misinterpreted a situation or
someone else’s actions. The next time you get angry ask yourself the following questions about your interpretation of the
situation:
- What evidence am I relying on?
- What assumptions am I making?
- Is there another equally believable interpretation of what is going on here?
- What is the best action I can take given this situation?
- If my best friend were in this situation, what advice would I give them?
6. Take up meditation. The ability to enter levels of deep relaxation is critical to the reduction of the potentially damaging
physical tension and psychological stress caused by anger. Meditation is one of the best ways to induce deep relaxation quickly
and effectively.
7. Separate the people from the problem. Instead of telling your spouse “you never take out the trash, you just don’t care
about our home”, you can tell them the following: “when you forget to take out the trash it upsets me because having a clean
home is very important to me”. This way you’re communicating to the other person that you’re upset with something they did,
not with who they are. Once you separate the person from the problem you can both team up and attack the problem together,
instead of attacking each other.
8. Keep an anger log. Keep a log in which you make a note every time something makes you angry. See if you can start
detecting patterns: is there a particular type of situation or a specific person that triggers your anger? Are you more
susceptible to getting angry when you’re hungry or if you didn’t get enough sleep? The aim of keeping an anger log is to
identify specific things that make you angry so that you can plan on how to deal with these situations before they happe
Before I joined the seminary and during my early days
in the seminary, my mind was always controlled by anger. I used to get
angry with my teachers, parents, friends and relatives. Many people used
their compassion and loving-kindness to teach and advise me about the
dangers of anger, but I did not care about them.