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ehind closed doors Do You Remember the First Time ?
Monsieur Reçoit
Monsieur Reçoit was born in Switzerland
and studied drama in Paris and Brussels.
He lives and works in Brussels and has a
sideline organising high-end private fetish
parties.
“From the earliest age I loved dressing up
in uniform. There is a huge erotic power
to them; in my imagination I wanted to be
a soldier. In Switzerland there are uniforms
everywhere; my grandparents were offi cers,
and my father too.
" Wearing a uniform that
represents power, hate and
death makes other people
desire life and sex. "
With the fantasies I had with my girlfriends
when I was 18 or 20 I realised that I
had the impulse to domination. At this young
age I met the big love of my life, and she was
also a dominatrix. We always made a point
of wearing wonderful outfi ts; we were very
lucky, most people have to wait until they
are older to realise this side of themselves.
A good relationship between master and
servant is based on listening and respect.
I also had to try submission. If I were the
trainer of a soccer team it wouldn’t work if
I had never played football. I always want to
see how it is and try new things, but most of
the time my positions is as a straight dominator.
At a party it’s the same as in my relationships,
but it’s always fun to try something
new. Once I switched outfi ts with my
girlfriend. My friends didn’t recognise me;
it was very special.
Fetishism is a thing you do in your relationship
– even without rubber or leather. It
can simply be the words you use or the opposition
of master and servant. Normally
I am quite a gentle person, but when I’m
in disguise it’s another character. At fetish
parties there are a lot of rules; if you wear a
necklace with a ring it means you are a servant
looking for a master, if you wear a uniform
it means you are a dominator. Private
parties are very respectful; all people care
about is the expression of desire and beauty.
There is a lot of connection with religion
and old fantasies linked to priests and martyrs.
I meet a lot of people who had a heavy
Catholic education, so this is something like
a catharsis, it is quite liberating.
46 — THE THIRD WORD
Every thing we do in life is directed by
the two impulses of life and death. For me,
fetishism is the art of expressing this paradox.
Wearing a uniform that represents
power, hate and death makes other people
desire life and sex.
The uniform was the most suitable representation
of how I felt. If you take a lucid look
at yourself you realise that there’s quite a lot
of narcissism and egocentricity involved.
Some people live within the whole system; I
know one man in his 50s who has moved his
30-year-old dominatrix in to live with him
and his wife. But for me fetishism is just one
part of my life; it’s not my whole life.”
© Geneviève Balasse