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SWIM<br />

17<br />

This fortnight I<br />

was at a National<br />

Conference of<br />

W o m e n<br />

Professionals. The<br />

a u d i e n c e<br />

comprised of<br />

w o m e n i n<br />

governance and<br />

management. Most of them were in the<br />

middle level leadership positions. I was<br />

invited for an interactive session.<br />

The first question I was asked was: “How<br />

can we (women) be heard”?<br />

My answer was direct and straight!<br />

'With your competence!' I said.<br />

“You will be heard not by your decibels but<br />

by your reputation and professional<br />

capability. Others will want to hear you<br />

more when you remain silent. Often times<br />

your silence will speak louder. Your<br />

colleagues will probe you. They will even<br />

provoke you-- to read your mind.<br />

You are of value”!<br />

“Remember to contribute only if you have<br />

something useful to add. Being a learner<br />

and a good listener is equally respected and<br />

noticed. Do not speak for the sake of<br />

speaking or to mark your presence. Speak<br />

only to add value, not presence”.<br />

“Remember never raise your pitch. Speak<br />

softly with measured words. Hear your own<br />

self while speaking. Never be critical of the<br />

views expressed by the past speakers.<br />

Thank them for their perspectives and then<br />

offer your own. If you are known for your<br />

competence, people will instinctively wait<br />

to hear your views. In fact they might ask<br />

you to say something. If you are known<br />

only to speak for the sake of speaking, then<br />

people will wait for you to shut up and even<br />

interrupt your speaking. The bottom line is<br />

you will be heard only for your competence<br />

and capability. If you have it, then your<br />

“How can we be heard”?<br />

Dr. Kiran Bedi is currently the Director General, Homeguards and Director, Civil Defence<br />

contribution will always be awaited and<br />

valued: To be heard raise your worth, not<br />

your voice”.<br />

Naturally, next question was: “How do<br />

we raise our worth”?<br />

“By respecting your own work<br />

Through regular and daily preparation: Do<br />

not put your work on hold at every home or<br />

personal pressure: (As some women do)<br />

Work has to be kept on a parallel priority to<br />

run alongside all others. And it must have its<br />

time and space. Women as mothers, wives,<br />

daughters-in-laws or relatives, tend to<br />

lower work priorities more often<br />

(comparatively) by all 'other's' needs. (Even<br />

when there is no urgency) This makes you<br />

(women) taken for granted. Please<br />

volunteer for advanced training<br />

opportunities. Keep yourselves up to date<br />

on the latest at work. Do not postpone<br />

learning. It must run parallel if you wish to<br />

remain center stage!<br />

The next question came not as a surprise:<br />

“What do we do if we are sidelined”?<br />

'Make the sidelines the center of your<br />

commitment'.<br />

“Whatever you get, make that work the<br />

center of your attention. Give it all your<br />

best. Find ways and reasons to like it. Make<br />

it grow as much as you can. Think and be<br />

creative in it. Do not sulk. Take it or leave it.<br />

Exercise that choice. If you do not leave,<br />

because you do not have a choice, or you<br />

want to stay, despite the situation, then<br />

adopt it. Mother it! Do not orphan it.<br />

Nurture it. Reward it. By your ignoring and<br />

sulking, you punish yourself and your work.<br />

Never punish your work for it hurts your<br />

employees even more. They look up to you<br />

for leadership, guidance, care, growth and<br />

recognition--.all that you want from your<br />

own senior. Learn the art of self reward.<br />

Dependence on external recognition creates<br />

dependence. Train to be independent of it.<br />

Or else it will be a weakness others could<br />

exploit. It will become as favors done in the<br />

expectation of returns of all kinds which<br />

may compromise you professionally or<br />

personally. Let rewards happen naturally.<br />

Make 'sidelines' (if you think they are) your<br />

center. Let others wonder what is so special<br />

in your work that keeps you contented and<br />

happy. Remember no one has time for<br />

complaints. State your mind when there is<br />

an opportunity to do so. You are the best<br />

judge. Meanwhile learn to be centered<br />

yourself.<br />

I then asked if I could ask a question from<br />

the women in the audience.<br />

I queried where is your next generation?<br />

They said, “very few are interested in<br />

networking”.<br />

The audience mostly comprised of middle<br />

age professionals and very few in 30-35s.<br />

Remember, I said, “we need to co-opt, and<br />

prepare to pass on batons. Also deepen the<br />

expectation of making the difference! We<br />

need to build on our positive perspectives<br />

which people still have of women in<br />

leadership and decision making positions.<br />

(We have exceptions of course)”.<br />

In the end I wondered if these issues were<br />

not equally of the other gender. Yes indeed<br />

– But certainly more for women in<br />

management! Primary reason being women<br />

in professional leadership are the first<br />

generation. Work culture they are working<br />

in, is not their creation. It is inherited.<br />

Change is taking its time along with, its toll.<br />

Women must not pass on the hurt. This is if<br />

this cycle of being sidelined or 'not being<br />

heard' is to decrease!<br />

[Note : The National Conference of Women<br />

Professionals that is referred here was held on 11th<br />

Feb, 2006 organized by Forum of Women in Public<br />

Sector at New Delhi. ]<br />

– As told to Sai Sudha,<br />

PGPM Class of 2006

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