Gravity Magazine_Final - Great Lakes
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SWIM<br />
17<br />
This fortnight I<br />
was at a National<br />
Conference of<br />
W o m e n<br />
Professionals. The<br />
a u d i e n c e<br />
comprised of<br />
w o m e n i n<br />
governance and<br />
management. Most of them were in the<br />
middle level leadership positions. I was<br />
invited for an interactive session.<br />
The first question I was asked was: “How<br />
can we (women) be heard”?<br />
My answer was direct and straight!<br />
'With your competence!' I said.<br />
“You will be heard not by your decibels but<br />
by your reputation and professional<br />
capability. Others will want to hear you<br />
more when you remain silent. Often times<br />
your silence will speak louder. Your<br />
colleagues will probe you. They will even<br />
provoke you-- to read your mind.<br />
You are of value”!<br />
“Remember to contribute only if you have<br />
something useful to add. Being a learner<br />
and a good listener is equally respected and<br />
noticed. Do not speak for the sake of<br />
speaking or to mark your presence. Speak<br />
only to add value, not presence”.<br />
“Remember never raise your pitch. Speak<br />
softly with measured words. Hear your own<br />
self while speaking. Never be critical of the<br />
views expressed by the past speakers.<br />
Thank them for their perspectives and then<br />
offer your own. If you are known for your<br />
competence, people will instinctively wait<br />
to hear your views. In fact they might ask<br />
you to say something. If you are known<br />
only to speak for the sake of speaking, then<br />
people will wait for you to shut up and even<br />
interrupt your speaking. The bottom line is<br />
you will be heard only for your competence<br />
and capability. If you have it, then your<br />
“How can we be heard”?<br />
Dr. Kiran Bedi is currently the Director General, Homeguards and Director, Civil Defence<br />
contribution will always be awaited and<br />
valued: To be heard raise your worth, not<br />
your voice”.<br />
Naturally, next question was: “How do<br />
we raise our worth”?<br />
“By respecting your own work<br />
Through regular and daily preparation: Do<br />
not put your work on hold at every home or<br />
personal pressure: (As some women do)<br />
Work has to be kept on a parallel priority to<br />
run alongside all others. And it must have its<br />
time and space. Women as mothers, wives,<br />
daughters-in-laws or relatives, tend to<br />
lower work priorities more often<br />
(comparatively) by all 'other's' needs. (Even<br />
when there is no urgency) This makes you<br />
(women) taken for granted. Please<br />
volunteer for advanced training<br />
opportunities. Keep yourselves up to date<br />
on the latest at work. Do not postpone<br />
learning. It must run parallel if you wish to<br />
remain center stage!<br />
The next question came not as a surprise:<br />
“What do we do if we are sidelined”?<br />
'Make the sidelines the center of your<br />
commitment'.<br />
“Whatever you get, make that work the<br />
center of your attention. Give it all your<br />
best. Find ways and reasons to like it. Make<br />
it grow as much as you can. Think and be<br />
creative in it. Do not sulk. Take it or leave it.<br />
Exercise that choice. If you do not leave,<br />
because you do not have a choice, or you<br />
want to stay, despite the situation, then<br />
adopt it. Mother it! Do not orphan it.<br />
Nurture it. Reward it. By your ignoring and<br />
sulking, you punish yourself and your work.<br />
Never punish your work for it hurts your<br />
employees even more. They look up to you<br />
for leadership, guidance, care, growth and<br />
recognition--.all that you want from your<br />
own senior. Learn the art of self reward.<br />
Dependence on external recognition creates<br />
dependence. Train to be independent of it.<br />
Or else it will be a weakness others could<br />
exploit. It will become as favors done in the<br />
expectation of returns of all kinds which<br />
may compromise you professionally or<br />
personally. Let rewards happen naturally.<br />
Make 'sidelines' (if you think they are) your<br />
center. Let others wonder what is so special<br />
in your work that keeps you contented and<br />
happy. Remember no one has time for<br />
complaints. State your mind when there is<br />
an opportunity to do so. You are the best<br />
judge. Meanwhile learn to be centered<br />
yourself.<br />
I then asked if I could ask a question from<br />
the women in the audience.<br />
I queried where is your next generation?<br />
They said, “very few are interested in<br />
networking”.<br />
The audience mostly comprised of middle<br />
age professionals and very few in 30-35s.<br />
Remember, I said, “we need to co-opt, and<br />
prepare to pass on batons. Also deepen the<br />
expectation of making the difference! We<br />
need to build on our positive perspectives<br />
which people still have of women in<br />
leadership and decision making positions.<br />
(We have exceptions of course)”.<br />
In the end I wondered if these issues were<br />
not equally of the other gender. Yes indeed<br />
– But certainly more for women in<br />
management! Primary reason being women<br />
in professional leadership are the first<br />
generation. Work culture they are working<br />
in, is not their creation. It is inherited.<br />
Change is taking its time along with, its toll.<br />
Women must not pass on the hurt. This is if<br />
this cycle of being sidelined or 'not being<br />
heard' is to decrease!<br />
[Note : The National Conference of Women<br />
Professionals that is referred here was held on 11th<br />
Feb, 2006 organized by Forum of Women in Public<br />
Sector at New Delhi. ]<br />
– As told to Sai Sudha,<br />
PGPM Class of 2006