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Feelings and relationships<br />
WORRYING ABOUT ABNORMALITY<br />
Everyone worries at some time that<br />
t<strong>here</strong> may be something wrong with<br />
their baby. Some people find that<br />
talking openly about their fears helps<br />
them to cope. Others prefer not to<br />
dwell on the possibility of something<br />
being wrong.<br />
Some women continue to worry<br />
because they are convinced that, if<br />
something does go wrong, it will be<br />
their fault. While you can increase<br />
your baby’s chances of being born<br />
healthy by following the advice<br />
outlined in Chapter 1 (see pages<br />
8–20), you cannot cut out the risk<br />
entirely. T<strong>here</strong> are certain problems<br />
which cannot be prevented, either<br />
because the causes are not known<br />
or because they are beyond anyone’s<br />
control.<br />
It may reassure you to know that<br />
97% of babies born in the UK are<br />
normal, although some of these<br />
may have birthmarks or some other<br />
small variations. A further 1% of<br />
babies will be born with<br />
abnormalities that can be partly or<br />
completely corrected. About 2%,<br />
however, will suffer from some more<br />
severe disability. Regular antenatal<br />
care and careful observation during<br />
labour help so that action can be<br />
taken if necessary.<br />
If you are particularly concerned,<br />
perhaps because someone in your<br />
family has a disability, or because<br />
someone you know has had a<br />
difficult birth, or even if you just<br />
feel very anxious, talk to your doctor<br />
or midwife as soon as possible.<br />
They may be able to reassure you or<br />
offer you helpful information about<br />
tests which can be done in<br />
pregnancy (see pages 53–9).<br />
‘I want to know if it’s all<br />
right. I think that’s<br />
always at the back of<br />
your mind – you<br />
don’t know whether<br />
it’s all right. It’s a worry<br />
that’s always t<strong>here</strong>.’<br />
‘I feel guilty at times.<br />
It’s not just worrying<br />
about what you do and<br />
whether it will damage<br />
the baby. Sometimes I<br />
feel I just haven’t<br />
thought about the<br />
baby, cared about it<br />
enough. I ought to<br />
be loving it more.’<br />
C OUPLES<br />
Pregnancy is bound to bring about<br />
some quite big changes in a couple’s<br />
relationship, especially if this is your<br />
first baby. For some people these<br />
changes happen easily, others find it<br />
harder to change. Everybody is<br />
different.<br />
It’s quite common for couples to<br />
find themselves having arguments<br />
every now and then during<br />
pregnancy, however much they are<br />
looking forward to the baby. Some<br />
of these may be nothing to do with<br />
the pregnancy, but others may be<br />
caused by one or other partner<br />
feeling worried about the future and<br />
how they are going to cope. Perhaps<br />
the most important thing to realise<br />
is that during pregnancy t<strong>here</strong> are<br />
‘You hear such a lot<br />
and read such a lot in<br />
the newspapers about<br />
spina bifida and<br />
backward children and<br />
all that. You can’t<br />
help but wonder<br />
about your own.’<br />
‘Now that I’ve felt<br />
it move and I’ve<br />
heard the heartbeat,<br />
I feel happier. Early<br />
on we worried<br />
much more.’<br />
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