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Feelings and relationships<br />
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE<br />
If you need urgent help the<br />
following helplines are<br />
available:<br />
Women’s Aid Federation<br />
of England<br />
(0845) 7023468<br />
24-hour helpline<br />
Northern Ireland<br />
Women’s Aid Federation<br />
(028) 9033 1818<br />
24-hour helpline<br />
Welsh Women’s Aid<br />
(029) 2039 0874<br />
Referrals to local Women’s<br />
Aid Offices in Wales.<br />
Open 10am–3pm with out<br />
of hours message service<br />
DOMESTIC<br />
VIOLENCE<br />
One in four women experience<br />
domestic violence at some point in<br />
their lives. This may take the form<br />
of physical, sexual, emotional or<br />
psychological abuse. Thirty per cent<br />
of this abuse starts in pregnancy and<br />
existing abuse may worsen during<br />
pregnancy or after birth. Domestic<br />
violence should not be tolerated.<br />
It risks your health and that of your<br />
baby before and after birth.<br />
You can speak in confidence<br />
to your GP, midwife, obstetrician,<br />
health visitor or social worker.<br />
If you wish, they can help you<br />
take steps to stop the abuse or to<br />
seek refuge. You may prefer to<br />
contact one of the organisations<br />
listed under domestic violence at<br />
the back of this book (page 149),<br />
again in confidence.<br />
BEREAVEMENT<br />
The death of someone you love can<br />
turn your world upside down and is<br />
one of the most difficult experiences<br />
to endure. This may be harder to<br />
cope with if you are pregnant or<br />
have just had a baby.<br />
Family and friends can help you<br />
by spending time with you if you<br />
have been bereaved. A sympathetic<br />
arm around the shoulders can<br />
express love and support when<br />
words are not enough.<br />
Grief is not just one feeling but a<br />
whole succession of feelings which<br />
take time to get through and which<br />
cannot be hurried. If you need help<br />
or advice, you can contact your GP<br />
or any of the organisations listed on<br />
pages 147–51.<br />
IF YOUR PARTNER DIES<br />
BENEFITS AVAILABLE IF YOUR PARTNER HAS DIED<br />
•<br />
For advice, you may find the following leaflets produced by the<br />
Department of Work and Pensions (Social Security <strong>Agency</strong> in<br />
Northern Ireland) helpful:<br />
What to Do after Death in England and Wales (D49)<br />
Widowed? (GL14)<br />
New Bereavement Benefits (Northern Ireland)<br />
Your Guide to Our Services (Northern Ireland)<br />
Help from the Social Fund<br />
• Read Chapter 18 for advice about the following:<br />
Income Support<br />
Working Tax Credit<br />
Child Benefit<br />
•<br />
Housing Benefit<br />
Council Tax Benefit<br />
Child Tax Credit<br />
If you were married and your husband worked, you may be<br />
entitled to Widowed Parent’s Allowance, based on his National<br />
Insurance contributions.<br />
•<br />
If you weren’t married, you will not be classed as a widow and will<br />
t<strong>here</strong>fore be dependent on your private arrangements or Income<br />
Support or Working Tax Credit, if you work.<br />
• If you are very short of money you may be able to get some help<br />
with the funeral expenses from the Social Fund. It is always worth<br />
talking to your undertaker or religious adviser to see if they can help.<br />
For more information, contact your Jobcentre Plus/Social<br />
Security Office (Jobs & Benefits office).<br />
If your partner dies during your<br />
pregnancy or soon after childbirth, you<br />
will feel emotionally numb. It is like<br />
no other loss. It is not something<br />
you get over, more that you learn,<br />
eventually, to live with.<br />
Don’t be afraid to lean on family<br />
and friends. If your partner was<br />
going to be with you at the birth,<br />
you will need to think about who<br />
will be with you instead. Try to<br />
choose someone who knows you<br />
very well.<br />
Financially, you may need urgent<br />
advice and support. You can get<br />
the leaflets suggested (see box) from<br />
your local Jobcentre Plus/Social<br />
Security Office (Jobs & Benefits<br />
office).<br />
As well as speaking to friends,<br />
family and social services, you<br />
may like to contact CRUSE<br />
(see page 150) or WIDWODS<br />
(see page 150).<br />
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